What is it that we are truly after?
Are we simply looking for someone to just love us unconditionally?.
Or is what we are looking for ..true companionship...?
Someone to spend time with someone to laugh with to cry with..
Someone who truly gets us and we truly get them... do we fall in love with the person or do we fall in love with the fact that they understand us...?

Very rarely do I ever wish for someone to love me.. but often I wish for someone to spend time with !
someone that understands..me..
And in that understanding Love Grows.... I believe it is companionship that I desire most... I am certain love will follow.. so is it companionship or just true love that you desire most..?.
.. I realize it's not much of a question..
.. but I'm sure there is a question in all of this ^^^somewhere..lol

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Semantics.
Love usually manifests itself with desire.
Relationships manifest themselves with affection
and empathy.

Face it, we want it all..the mate we can love in
return for what we give.

.yes.. love is a very strong emotion.. but I don't find Love and Desire go hand-in-hand... it takes me some time to love someone no matter how strong my desire for them...
.. I find the more time I spend with someone that is when I begin to love them.. I begin to love their attention to detail.. the fact that they notice that I do the little things that matter..
.. I begin to love their appreciation for me... I fall in love with their little ..
.. Corky behaviors... it could be something as simple as the cute way they sneeze..lol... are the fact that they leave me a note in the morning a love letter.... I find it is the little things I fall in love with.... the accumulation of all the little things...yup.

Oh yes its easier to love someone when u spend time together. No wonder friends end up falling in love coz they spend most of the time together..love simply grows from that :) u tend to know the other very well that u even see youself spending yo life with them..#myopinionthough

The maximum amount of secure, ongoing, controllable, gratifying, and satisfying pleasure with a minimum amount of risk, or cost.


Yes.


Yes.


Depends on what you want to believe.
Scientific method? You fall in (romantic) love with the person. You pair bond and attach to that specific individual because kids naturally occur during the lust "phase" and an ongoing healthy relationship offers the greatest chance for the survival of the kid.

Disney "love is this magical fairy that happens to us, that we fall into, and everyone can have their own unique definition and understanding of it" love?
Then love is "fickle" and flighty and you choose to fall in love based on your own ego and what the other person brings to your table, all while ultimately rationalizing that they fell in love with you because you're so awesome, which makes them so awesome, so you're awesome, and it can only really last as long as you can control everything.
Selfish solipsistic tautology love people hold external things responsible for, amazingly.


See?
Scientific method = naturally occurring process of love = motivation for sticking around long enough to learn and adapt to you for the sake of a relationship that protects offspring.

Disney method = years and years of trying to come up with an understanding of someone that is constantly changing and evolving, and once a static absolute identity or character is "known" THEN love grows (allowed to? Chosen to? As a reward for consciously controlled effort?).
Good luck with that.


Neither, "most."

Love sought is good but giving unsought is better

Nice ONE mi lady

depends my good doctor


are you interested in someone on an equally understanding
" man he just gets me" level?

are you interested in finding the whole enchilada or satisfied with keeping things at a surface level of " ya she is hot and great in bed"


are you willing to also put in that time, effort and energy for her

or are you simply looking for someone willing to provide this for you?


ain't it a beech to on one hand
want to just hook up with beautiful women for roll in the hay
and then boot em out the door

because that way you do not become emotionally invested
and ya hold all the cards are the one in control

but on the other hand..ya realize you actually long for a true connection on a much deeper level with another human being

I still kind of like some of the old marriage ritual stuff. The for richer or poorer, sickness and health stuff. Because what I have always wanted, is your basic real mate.

For the journey. What I find enthralling, is the adventure of making a life with another person. I don't know how to put it so that it sounds more thrilling.

No luck, of course. Yet.

that pretty-well sums it up.......

Just love unconditionally... you mean like a dog?



This is what BFF's are for. For women, we have girl friends to have chick flick night overs, so we can laugh until we pee our pants and cry our eyes out. For guys, I think they just watch ball games and drink beer, or just drink beer.



So friends with benefits for you then?

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Me? I am an incurable romantic. I love being in love.. and at my age, I am still hoping to fall in love again. Perhaps at this stage in my life, I should just settle for companionship... but that doesn't do it for me. FWB I don't do. I would rather be alone. I am a loner by nature, which means that I am comfortable and happy being independent and glamorously single.

Did I answer your question? Not even close huh?

I've been really blessed in my life to have great companions both male and female. Its not one fixed companion , but the non romantic companionship is consistent.

So now I want to experience romantic companionship- the elusive hybrid of best friend and lover.

I had it once before after my divorce.

It's challenging to settle for less now that I have experienced how mind-blowing that combo is.

I am looking for true love. Companionship and understanding you can get from a very good friend. Not true love.
Unconditional love between partners is quite the rare find. A parent loves their child unconditionally but a partner is different.

To be honest, what you state sounds rather needy to me. Sounds like you're lonely. Not really in need or ready or whatever for a real partner, just in need for a good friend, attention, someone around you so you don't feel lonely. It all seems to scream "me me me"...

The same with wanting / needing true understanding. Why? Of course you want someone who gets you for the most part, but I doubt any one other person can ever truly understand us all the time for the full 100%.
If you're happy and content with who you are, you should be okay with that. Then you understand there's no need to fully understand the other 100% all of the time.

Why not work on becoming happier with who you are? "Kleenex addiction" is one way of coping, but it's not helping you in the end, nor is it a solution.

What comes up is ... If you do what you did, you get what you got.
If you want different results, you will have to do it different. You cannot receive what you yourself do not give.

I'll take true companionship for $600 Alex.

hi,how are you doing

I believe most of us want both true love and true companionship. But before we could have all these, we first start from good friendship, establishing emotional attachment or taking time to show interest in getting to know each other by spending time together. Then as feelings or attachment grow more deeper, love grows and you find true love. When there is love true companionship happens as both of you have developed strong connection already where you enjoy each others company, sharing tears and laughters in life. Both souls are united in a deeper level where you feel like no one can break the spell of love and you just can't get away from each other anymore no matter what challenges may come between you. True love and understanding will be present in each other's company, this is true companionship. But if you only seek for companionship with out love , often times a relationship doesn't last longer. Sooner you will get bored and tired of each other for there's no love that binds you. It becomes a temporary thing where you enjoy while it lasts and laughter soon fades away. If you only long for somebody to understand you, it becomes a one sided love affair, a selfish kind of relationship where you only want self satisfaction not minding your partner's needs and wants. I don't see it as you wanting companionship or love....I see it as loving you to your advantage to satisfy your desire to be understood and feel good about yourself. Love is selfless, not selfish, you put your partner's satisfaction first. Companionship alone with no love is wanting to be with someone just to make you feel good. I would rather go for true love, then everything that you desire will just follow. True love is lasting.

It would be nice to have it all. Love that can turn into true love where when you are parted for a while you can't wait to get back to the person you love and loves you back and share precious moments together and share the things you did whilst you did while you where both away from one another. Be with a person you enjoy spending most of your time with even if you are doing nothing or saying nothing but are just being together and feel happy and secure x

me also want a true love
can you do?

any have a beauty heart?

love is one thing that is easily found full of joy and happiness and the same time sadness come through we just pray to find the right one for us