Friend your opinion

Love has nothing to do with age. And most people confuse infatuation/passion/lust with love, when they are entirely different things. Love is not something you feel at first sight. Love is something that is built between two people who share themselves fully with each other.

Tell you what love is...
My Grandfather, an ancient man who has lived a full life and me walk down a street... He spots a small but colorful pansy on the side of the sidewalk. He picks it up brings it to his home hands it to my Grandmother, who has the wear and weather of decades on her face.
And he tells her...
That she is the most beautiful woman he has ever seen.
^That is love.

You should always be suspicious of your own motives, when you try to persuade yourself to think of the people you hope to be personally involved with, in an objective manner. Especially if you start thinking in generalities.

If you want others to tell you it's okay for you to do something, that usually means it's NOT okay by your own sensibilities.

Best thing to do is, to make sure you feel real and present in the now, when you are trying to be with someone. Make sure that what you want is THEM, and not some image of them, or what being with them might mean in some larger picture.

If YOU think of the person you are interested in, as being very young, or very old, it's probably NOT love that you are feeling.

"Love always comes from heart not age."


You asked for my opinion. Well, here it is.

Whenever a young man claims that age is irrelevant when it comes to love, I am certain that the young man is desperate for any kind of romance.

love is a word with many contexts


the romantic love that most refer to, the chemistry and connection, come from compatibility and emotional maturity,,which can often, but not always, be pretty well foretold by age

Great!

Then I'll start dating 1 year old babies.

1. They're ambulatory.
2. They're talking.
3. They have brand new fresh and pure "hearts."
4. Everything is new and amazing.
5. They attach very easily to whomever feeds them.

Or maybe I'll go after the 90 year old alzheiemers chick.

1. I know they aren't stepping out on me, they can't drive or leave the home.
2. They never remember when I screw up.
3. Their love is always fresh.
4. They get free money from the government.
5. They get discounts on everything. Cheap dates.
6. They have no idea how to snoop through my smart phone, let alone constantly text.
7. They never complain about not traveling.
8. Their parents are more likely dead so no mom in laws showing up.

Not to mention, I always have someone to blame if I crap my pants in public!
Win win.

Thanks for the brand new perspective on age and love.

After reading all those posts about love, I felt how open minded the respondents on this topic, except for one. Anyway that doesn't matter because the opinion must be expressed and we have to respect it.

For me, love is not simply about sex. As we all know, we can have sex even without love. Love is not about what we can take from another person. If one says "I love you" because you are the best provider, then, once that provision is gone, the love will be gone as well.

Love - it must start from believing, then accepting, building of trust so we can have faith on the person. Once we have done this, then, there will be great understanding, pride and sensitivity must not get in the way, which means, both have to be selfless.

Now the big question is, in this time of materialistic generation or whatever we want to call this era, is the kind of love I described possible? See how most people neglect the street people, how people run away from people who are in distress needing help, even so-called friends leave their preceious best friend when such friend doesn't have money anymore. There are more. This space is not enough to list them all. Crazy but true.

We must learn from "Love Birds" once one of the partners is separated from the other, both prefers to die instead. I am not saying we kill ourselves when we lost our love one. The lesson simply pictures what "True love is".

Now, is it possible for anyone of us to exibit our true love to the one who is meant for us to be with?