I've been here for 'awhile' and although not really MET anyone in the 'relationship' field.. did have a POSSIBLE that lasted about a month.. we were becoming great friends.. finding lots of common ground.. almost to the point of EERIE!! he professed his '' repeatedly.. then he was found out to be a PLAYER!! he had a few women convinced they were his ONLY interest!!.. kinda turns you off.. AND makes you VERY wary of anyone ELSE.. TRUST is a very tenacious thing!

so.. tell me THIS.. ARE there ANY men out there that are REALLY looking for HONESTY? NO HEAD GAMES? IS SERIOUS about finding their TRUE BEST FRIEND?? cuz mostly all I HEAR from men is exCUSES!!

anywho.. I figure friendship is the best place to start and I don't DO drama or head games.. lifes WAYYYY too short to mess with people that way.. mainly cuz I don't want to be messed with that way..

this site started as just a dating site for me.. then.. it became SOOO much more.. a home away from home.. a place where I can come to chat with friends and (((famillia))) .. laugh.. joke and JUST HAVE FUN.. and leave WHAT WILL BE.. for the future to unfold!

i hear ya zero

*Raises Hand High!!!*

i agree zero----
it is too bad that the "game players" can not be weeded out!

Joyce -- I'm guessing that the difference is in my 3 restrictions -- almost everybody on this site falls into at least one of the categories, and a clear majority fall into two, at least based on the posts I've read, and the profiles I've looked at, over the past ten months.

If you're not getting contacted by the guys who view you, it's probably either a distance thing, or they think they have no realistic chance....? I certainly have never seen you as exclusionary or rude to anyone, so it wouldn't be that....

Okay, I have nobody here I email comstantly or IM! The emails I do send are short answered or not at all. "If" I found somebody with chemestry for each other and we didn't live "2 MILLION" miles away, I would be willing to talk and try?

Is that wrong of me to really want to actually meet somebody in person with out either having to pay out the nose to meet?

there really is no point in meeting if there is a distance issue and nether is willing to relocate.
for me relocating is not an option for 5 more years.


Lex- i try not to be rude to anyone, thank you for taking notice. i try not to argue. every now and then if you touch on something i am really passionate about like being overweight or children being baggage.

why would anyone think they have no realistic chance? how do you know unless you take that chance?
i am not perfect-- i do not cook, not the best housekeeper, and i snore!

its ok joyce, i kick in my sleep

walking in.....


hey guys!!
TWEEEEEEEET!!!





walking out.....

Hello Everyone, I am new to this site and wanted to intorduce myself. My name is Marcia, I am new to the area and I am looking to make some new friends. I have been on other websites as well and it is the same story, people email you and say they want to chat then poof they are gone or they judge you right off the bat on appearance then complain they can't find their soulmate, how do they know if they only look at the outside of a person. But I have not given up hope. I know who I am and someday I am going to be the love of someones life again and I know my Mr. Right is out there somewhere...

welcome Lostagain.. keep on keepin on


I'm in a similar boat nurjoyce! can't move even if I WANTED to.. just the way it has to be!

besides.. between 2 people.. if there's a WILL.. there IS a way! but that's jmo

there is a way--if they want it to happen, but...

well unfortunately i look like my profile pic and my son takes up a lot of my time.people judge,fact of life.i totally understand preferences so until i meet someone who does it for me,I'll be happy as I am.

the problem is that woman judge u before they talk to u they dont take time to get know u better they just look and leave that so sad

Well finding a good mate takes time so just be patient have do have some fun. I did find my soul mate but it wasn't on here ooops sorry :(

klc -- No, I didn't take it that way at all -- it made a lot of sense to me, and dovetailed nicely with some of my thoughts on the same topic. My whole point was that I eventually came to realize that there is a totally different effect generated by "I want...." vs. "I don't want...." in terms of the way I perceive people's reactions to the two.

I am enjoying your posts tremendously and I have to compliment you on the way you write. You have rapidly become one of my "must reads" here! I haven't seen "bossy" at all thus far.

And anybody who uses a pic of Andy W. is OK in my book -- since I'm a huge John Cale fan....was just listening to "Songs for Drella" the other day....

Yes damn bossy, but love ya anyway klc lol

Where is it *easy* to find a good woman or man? It always takes time and serious effort to find the right one for you.

Yeah but I get so burned out . Just want the right guy .