Topic: Why Women Don't Clearly Say What They Want..
Goofball73's photo
Thu 02/11/16 03:17 PM
All I know is that when a woman shoots a man that evil look that says "I wanna rip your head off"......yeah....that ain't good. Message received. laugh

1Marie63's photo
Thu 02/11/16 03:31 PM
In general every day circumstances I will always speak my mind and say exactly what I want. However there are times after a particularly hard day or maybe after an argument I might want more passion/compassion I'm not going to ask for it or leave any clues. I want it to come from him. If I have to ask for it it isn't worth having.

peggy122's photo
Thu 02/11/16 04:12 PM

In general every day circumstances I will always speak my mind and say exactly what I want. However there are times after a particularly hard day or maybe after an argument I might want more passion/compassion I'm not going to ask for it or leave any clues. I want it to come from him. If I have to ask for it it isn't worth having.


Would it change your mind Marie if you knew that the guy genuinely wanted to meet your need but just didn't know how?

1Marie63's photo
Thu 02/11/16 04:25 PM


In general every day circumstances I will always speak my mind and say exactly what I want. However there are times after a particularly hard day or maybe after an argument I might want more passion/compassion I'm not going to ask for it or leave any clues. I want it to come from him. If I have to ask for it it isn't worth having.


Would it change your mind Marie if you knew that the guy genuinely wanted to meet your need but just didn't know how?


Probably not in the moment but I wouldn't hold a grudge either. I would most likely move on with a little wishful thinking

Beachfarmer's photo
Thu 02/11/16 04:45 PM
Edited by Beachfarmer on Thu 02/11/16 04:49 PM
I really want to be completely communicated to.

You pissed me of because.......
You did "this" rght
"This" is what is unforgiveable in my eyes
This made me absolutely wet

TELL ME!!!! I am a rediculous male and have no clue!

no photo
Thu 02/11/16 04:53 PM
At times when I say "clearly what I want" , I am not listened to. One time, when I was married, I asked my husband about a surgical procedure that I didn't know if I needed. I happen to be really, really afraid of hospitals and doctors. It was nothing major, but I needed to hear his opinion, which was always the same, "whatever you want" or "It's up to you". That didn't help me. I made my own decision.

Blueeyed2020's photo
Thu 02/11/16 05:06 PM
I speak and state what I need and want most times it is received openly. However, if I have to repeat myself several times I feel as they are not listening or in some cases I feel dismissed and ignored. In this case, I can shut down. Sometimes the guy is "too nice" and allow others to interfere or dominate the situation leaving me with my needs unmet in the relationship.

SparklingCrystal 💖💎's photo
Thu 02/11/16 05:30 PM
To most women it feels like being blunt when you are direct like men are.
Women normally speaking can read between the lines, easily spot subtle hints and clues, so we don't need that direct approach.
Has to do with us being more tuned in to our intuitive and feeling side than men. Not a dig, this is typical distinction between men and women, to do with the difference between the male and female principle.

I don't see why it should be wrong, it's how we are wired and function. So how can that be wrong, or 'not right' or a problem?
The only problem is when people don't understand how different the other gender is wired and communicates. And most people don't.

I bloody well know what I want, but to me it feels way too blunt and impolite to phrase it like a man would (direct). I have learnt that sometimes I have to do that so that the male gets me. But it makes me feel uncomfortable nonetheless.
Similar things happen in work environments, and often women's careers suffer because of it. Because women don't voice their wishes and desires as clearly as men, so they can be overlooked for promotions etc.

So it's an interesting question, but you could also ask "why don't men get subtle nuances?"

no photo
Thu 02/11/16 05:36 PM
Guys never say to me what they want, so it's even.

Beachfarmer's photo
Thu 02/11/16 05:37 PM
What do you want?

Dodo_David's photo
Thu 02/11/16 05:40 PM

Guys never say to me what they want, so it's even.


I want a sammich. indifferent

mightymoe's photo
Thu 02/11/16 05:48 PM

Guys never say to me what they want, so it's even.


not real hard.. nice electronics, sex, food and an xbox...

SparklingCrystal 💖💎's photo
Thu 02/11/16 05:53 PM


Guys never say to me what they want, so it's even.


not real hard.. nice electronics, sex, food and an xbox...

I do want it real hard, not the electronics, sex -yes, food -of course, Xbox ... seeing my girl play the latest Assassins Creed on her PS, appealing!
Love Assassins Creed!

But anyways, point is ... it's gotta be hard.

SparklingCrystal 💖💎's photo
Thu 02/11/16 05:55 PM
Mmmzz.. maybe that was too much... I blame the dry American air and chlorinated tap water (YUK!!)
Turned my brain to mush. Plus I haven't had dinner yet, and I'm getting really really hungry!!

Beachfarmer's photo
Thu 02/11/16 05:57 PM
Even at the top of a mountain, you must purify

Annierooroo's photo
Thu 02/11/16 06:00 PM

I'm one of those that believe in saying what you mean..

It is when I voice my opinion and they seem not to listen is what gets to me..

I'm a very open person as far as my thoughts and do not believe anyone should have to know what some one else thinks...




Yes I agree.
I don't hide nothing. I am honest and direct. No playing around the bush sort of girl.
So I don't get it when guys say they don't know what I want.
frustrated

adivorcedone's photo
Thu 02/11/16 06:05 PM
Guys have a very short attention span...so make it quick, make it snappy and be articulate....if you ever get to the stage of stating your needs and wants.....all I am saying...

Annierooroo's photo
Thu 02/11/16 06:11 PM
I find it better just to do it myself and it saves a lot of hassle.

I guess that's a result of enjoying being single. I don't have to discuss my needs or wants with a man.


mightymoe's photo
Thu 02/11/16 06:11 PM



Guys never say to me what they want, so it's even.


not real hard.. nice electronics, sex, food and an xbox...

I do want it real hard, not the electronics, sex -yes, food -of course, Xbox ... seeing my girl play the latest Assassins Creed on her PS, appealing!
Love Assassins Creed!

But anyways, point is ... it's gotta be hard.



thats what she said...smokin

SparklingCrystal 💖💎's photo
Thu 02/11/16 06:16 PM




Guys never say to me what they want, so it's even.


not real hard.. nice electronics, sex, food and an xbox...

I do want it real hard, not the electronics, sex -yes, food -of course, Xbox ... seeing my girl play the latest Assassins Creed on her PS, appealing!
Love Assassins Creed!

But anyways, point is ... it's gotta be hard.



thats what she said...smokin

Thank you for quoting that blushing :laughing:

Still haven't had me tea, dammit!!! Son in law got lamb, but he's on the phone. I'm hungry!!!
I want meat! *no pun intended* :tongue: