So I am not sure if the women will feel comfortable answering this question, but I am going to throw it out there. Why do some women refrain from expressing exactly what they want from their mate? Why do they sometimes give clues as to what they really desire, as opposed to explicitly stating what they want? Is it a challenge to our mates to show more interest in us ;to maybe observe us more? Is it because we think we understand our mates' needs without being told and maybe we expect guys to do the same? What is the reason?

For the record, just like some of the women here, I actually do state clearly what I want , so the behavior referred to above kinda baffles me too

it would make life a whole lot easier if women could... but thats just a pipe dream, it won't ever happen...

"Why Women Don't Clearly Say What They Want.."

Uh, because not every woman is a Spice Girl?

I admit I don't know many that do, but I know a few. Maybe you'll get lucky someday :)

I'm one of those that believe in saying what you mean..

It is when I voice my opinion and they seem not to listen is what gets to me..

I'm a very open person as far as my thoughts and do not believe anyone should have to know what some one else thinks...

And of they don't listen, you spray them with perfume

Sorry, what did you just say

ya I don't usually have a problem with speaking my mind

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i am both sometimes im straight to the point, sometimes just give clues ;)

we're not smart enough for clues... just say what you want

Generally, and notice I did say generally not always, men are brought up to punch and kick to get what they want while women are taught to parry and seek consensus. Men will usually say, "I want that", while women will say something like "don't you think this will work?".

Run into a woman while going through a doorway and she will more than likely say, "oops, sorry". Run into a man and he will say something along the lines of, "oops!, hey!".

I am pretty clear about what I want but I am not going to repeat it 22 times for it to sink in. I find it very degrading to men for people to say you have to connect the dots very closely or the man does not know what you are talking about. They can clearly ask questions if they don't.

And when I take the time to explain what I specifically want it is not an negotiation.

Or where I need someone to tell me why I just might want something else. Unless I qualify my request and ask for input.

Before I make my request, and yes it is a request, I have probably put a lot of thought into it and would not take up their time asking them to do something if I did not need it or would be extreamly appreciative of it.

But what really peeves me is when someone says ok and clearly they are not ok with it or are not committed to it. I would prefer and honest no or at least a maybe if I can answer. Don't lie to me and say yes or imply something is no problem and then it never quites get done.

Im the type of man who tries and figure out whats wrong, half of the time it blows up in my face. if women would just say whats on their minds and talked it out would be alot easier.

He deserved that sure his gf was not happy if she was around him after he left the bar...

Hmm..Why women don't say what they want.. well first! you are assuming they know what they want..lol.. women want men to be in tune with their needs and wants... it stems from a bit of a daddy complex..
As young girls their fathers would do things for . Them.. without being asked .. giving them a sense of well-being security.. and that someone will always be there for them.. a male role model... so they grow up having their daddies do things for them without being asked... so now as mature adult women... they extinctionly. . don't ask. Or voice their wants to their male partner.. they just expect us to know what they want and need.. much like their fathers did.. . And God help you if you don't..lol

i guess we are kinda jumping the gun a bit here...

..lol.. just a bit...lol.. but it will get them to think for two minutes..
Question the real reason they don't .. tell us what they want... because God forbid.. they say something we don't entirely agree with .... or say they want... and get ready for this.. more cuddle time..lol

Most people don't ask my opinion or what I want, so I don't give it.

Maybe because guys like women who will do stuff with them