This is common on any site. So what would you do.

1) ignore them.

2) Have them drive or fly to you.

3) meet them half way in between somewhere.

4) drive or fly to meet them.

I will normally drive up to a max of one hour, for a meet and greet. And after that we alternate, if things work out...Gotta show and put in the effort....just saying...

It depends on the person and the circumstances. For the right person I'd be willing to travel to the ends of the earth. But after two decades of trying and not ever accidentally finding someone I'm pretty sure they don't exist.

I think that person has to have something REALLY special about them to inspire that kind of effort and the person definitely has to show signs of reciprocating that effort

A lot depends on just how far away they are. If they live very far away possibly another country, then you are thinking about a 'Long Distance Relationship' and not everyone wants that. However, if you are both prepared to enter into a relationship, and knowing that one of you is prepared to relocate at sometime in the future if all goes well, then I don't believe distance really matters. How and when you first meet up is something you can decide together, but I would say that you both need to learn a lot about each other first, by chatting, skype, emails, telephone calls, all means of regular communication. So you are both very sure you want to meet up and start to get to know each other in person, which is probably more important. Not an easy option when compared with dating someone that lives in your home town, and not to be entered into lightly in my opinion.

Humm myself, I will e-mail them back tell them thanks but seeking local only.

By local I mean within a 30 minute drive.. I'm not into LDR's done that and not going there again..

Mainly due to I'm not willing to move nor would I ask someone else too..

Actually did meet a couple of guys one in Alabama lasted over a year we traded turns flying back and forth every couple of months. Humm he moved to me and well lets just say he did a 360 in attitude once he was here..within 3 months he was packing his stuff and moving back..

The other time went to Colorado only one time nice guy but found out he had more issues then he admitted too.. found out some of it there and more after I got back.. There was a incident that happen about a month after I got back that made me see the real person which after that I said ohh hell no and ended that one.

So unless they are local so I can really get to know them. I will not even go there...

Thanks for the replies, all good info.

The internet opens up the world more then ever before. So I believe sometimes you have to make a effort to see what is out there.

I enjoy traveling and site seeing, So for the right person. I would probably drive within a days ride depending on weather conditions.

If things work out

It depends. I have a walker, and I use public transportation. I'm not doing all the work. He better put forth some effort, too.

I'd ignore them.

Same if someone was local and we just texted/talked on the phone more than dated.
Same if someone was local and we emailed more than dated.
Same if someone lived on the other side of town and it took me 20, 30, 40+ minutes to drive there, and the same amount home, for an hour date.

But it just depends on how hard up I was in getting a date.


Not really.
It just gives you a false sense of it.
The more you open your "world" through the internet, the more your immediate "world" off the internet contracts.


Amazing how the human race survived in tribes, communities, cities, and towns of barely dozens to a few hundred people.

The further you go "out there" the less compatible people actually are, since their culture and perspective are completely foreign.
That simply means communication (that really important thing in a relationship) is highly incompatible.

...But then it depends on your relationship goals.
Some people don't really want to date a person, they want to find a relationship accessory that will help fulfill their relationship ideal.

I have emailed with folks from all over. It's interesting to discover about them and their area. A woman & I were emailing years ago. Decided to meet in Florida for a few days. Nice time. She was from Michigan, I'm in Penna.
Met a woman from Texas & her daughters In Freeport, Bahamas. They were leaving the next day.3-4 weeks later, she called me, gave me her flight # & time, said she was coming to spend a few days with me. Great time. 2 months later I flew to Fort Worth to spend time with her.
You just never know?

eh! Being flexible in life adds to the enjoyment to our futures.

*Some people are closed to this flexibility and so miss-out on the experience and the fun of learning and understanding.
As one person here has stated (??????)"The further you go "out there" the less compatible people actually are, since their culture and perspective are completely foreign.
That simply means communication (that really important thing in a relationship) is highly incompatible" (????? not)

Wow!! Now that (the above) to me is very closed to the unknown FUN of life

* I had no idea TxsGal3333 was into such a "wild" adventure What a huge but great adventure!!! Some adventures are good! Some are bad! but they are both an Adventure

op I traveled about a hr to meet someone for lunch ... he was very nice but not right for me ... so we stayed friends for awhile and then he just moved on ... no biggie for me... hope he found someone... I am not into traveling as others have said they are going to have to be the right man for men ... just to even think about it ... but others have done it and as far as I know their very happy ...

1 Yes please, I don't want anyone from my home town (a small village) I don't even want anyone from the county I'm currently living in, as I don't intend to stay here myself and the ppl from this county aren't usually the types to move away.

2 They drive to me. I don't drive to him. Flying? LOL by the time the plane has taken off, we'd almost be over Germany

3 Only if it is really far

4 Nope. If it's a bloke from abroad, I'd be willing to fly to him, provided we make very good arrangements in case it doesn't work out. And I won't pay for the ticket and other expenses on my own either.
If I'm making the effort to come to him, he better make an effort and pay at least half.