I am getting to move in with one of my best friends who happens to be a boy, and my boyfriend is having trust issues. He keeps having sarcastic comments about how we will end up in the same room, and that upsets me when he says that, but i dont know what to do to get him to trust me???

Also, and tips on what to expect when moving out for the first time??


All help greatly appreciated!!!

i see your boyfriends point--
like i tell my daughter
sometimes the most innocent things turn out
to be a disaster.

maybe i should have mention that he became one of my best friends through my best kelly, who is his girlfriend of 5 yrs....but thanks!

well fill out a rental agreement, in case this person decides to move and stick u with the rent. or vice versa.

your boyfriend has trust issues? well, that is a flag. let him move in 2. that will take care of that. one big happy family.

And his girlfriend...your friend...doesn't have a problem with this?

Thanks for the advice!!!

well, let her move in 2. there will be one BIG happy family. and when the fighting starts, head for higher ground.

No!!! We have been best friends for 4 yrs now and I would NEVER ever have any type of relationship with her boyfriend besides friends

The root of the problem is in your wording -- where you say "but i dont know what to do to get him to trust me???"

There's nothing much you can do to get people to do anything they don't want to do. Either he trusts you or he doesn't. The sarcastic comments, etc., are a pretty good indicator that he doesn't.

I don't know enough about the history of the relationship to be able to say whether or not he has any reasons not to trust you, or if he's just overreacting, or what. But I do know that this sort of thing rarely gets better over time -- issues of jealousy and control don't just magically go away. If he can't accept the idea that you can have a male roommate who is just a friend, then something is going to unravel....

Well Kelly, my friend, basically already lives there, but not sure about my boyfriend cause im not sure if he would get on my nerves or not yet living with me lol

sounds like a whole lot of drama is on its way to your new neighborhood. Do you really want the talk that will go with the living arrangements incessantly around your neck? What does your family think of this? You haven't mentioned that. Be careful... you may have a sudden urge in a month or so to seek shelter from deaf ears...not being cruel, just offering things to contemplate before you jump into the unknown.. The devil you know vs. the devil you don't....no wut i meen???????

I had many roomates before I had kids and the best experience I had was sharing a house with two of my male friends. Never once was I even tempted to cross the line between friends/roomates to lovers! It can be done.

he is jealous of the fact you are moving in with a male. invite him in, and it will change. at least give him the option. he may decline, but you asked. psychology here my dear watson.

thanks lex, but our relationship is relatively new and ive never done anything to make him not trust me

I was thinking about doin that duffy but then i thought what if he was to accept, then i would be screwed lol

i guess that would definitely test the trust between the four of you, i cant blame your boyfriend for being skeptical, and the situation sounds like it could head negatively quickly, I guess you should ask yourself if you're ready to test your mettle.

my family doesn't really mind, they know who i am moving in with and they trust and know hes a good guy

i could almost say positively right not if drama was to start the boyfriend would probably go buh bye....wow talking about it makes your realize a lot of things....Thanks!!!

Relationship over. Touchdown!

well yes, you could get skewered, but well that is how it goes. this is no easy solution to this dilema. it goes back to him trusting you. if he does not trust, then trade him in for younger model. there noone came up with that idea. i think that is very good. trade him in for younger model.