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Topic: Dating someone better educated
PacificStar48's photo
Tue 12/15/15 10:26 PM
Does that promote interest or intimidate you? Why?

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Tue 12/15/15 11:22 PM
Could be a turn on!
They are smarter but still chose me!!

PacificStar48's photo
Tue 12/15/15 11:43 PM
I think education is wonderful but I have run across so many hugely interesting people who barely could read but had such a zest for living, perceptive observations, and or had so many interesting experiences I was pretty much in awe of them. People who can cook or do other creative things with out a recipe or pattern knock me out. People who can run monster size heavy equipment like I would comb my hair sure mesmerize me but LOL I have two left hands. I kind of see intellectual snobs as enhanced bullies.

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Wed 12/16/15 01:35 AM
I appreciate intellect, I also respect and admire wisdom. Education comes in many forms. Knowledge gained through experience and development of skills, is just as valuable as knowledge gained through academic education. If I'm ever fortunate enough to find a soulmate; she will have a propensity for philosophy, a little dirt under her nails, a mind like a steel trap, and a whole lotta heart.

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Wed 12/16/15 02:07 AM
Depends. I like someone with a brain. But better educated doesn't mean they're wiser than me, and their field of education may not even interest me.
If it made him wiser, then I'm probably interested, if it made him into a snob, not so much.

Annierooroo's photo
Wed 12/16/15 02:28 AM
Education can be in many forms.
Life can be educational. One doesn't have to go to university to have a high paid job or have an intelligent conversation.

I am interested in anyone from all walks of life. No it would not intimidate me. I would find them interesting but if they come across like I'm beneath them then it's time to take the stool from under them lol.

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Wed 12/16/15 03:31 AM
Edited by Friendly_Woman on Wed 12/16/15 03:33 AM
Education is a completely separate thing to relationships. Not sure a highly-educated person would do it for me. I've come across many, who are good at holding down a career, but their relationships are always very short-term. Some have been so caught up in a life of career commitment, that they then miss out on having a family with someone, and can't find someone to have a home with. Sounds a bit lonely to me. Not sure I could have that kind of life. It breaks my heart. I mean, good luck to those, but education isn't what makes a Person. I hate to say it, even to admit it, but when I've been stood in a queue, I've heard them put on posh accents, and seriously, they're conversations about how "Their mummy has five houses", kinda bores me. I can't imagine them being any fun. The impression they give off is that they're stoic and frigid. Not sure if they do the posh accent on purpose, and well, I find it hilarious.

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Wed 12/16/15 03:46 AM

Depends. I like someone with a brain. But better educated doesn't mean they're wiser than me, and their field of education may not even interest me.
If it made him wiser, then I'm probably interested, if it made him into a snob, not so much.
hmmmmmm...yep

I come from small town roots and was raised with common sense
and I am now going to school for my Master's which means I have one foot in both worlds so to speak.

would I date someone with his Doctoral degree? sure if he was a nice guy and still human and not so full of himself he thinks a Doctoral in one area makes him an expert in all areas. If he is a condescending know it all preeeeeck? uh probably not.

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Wed 12/16/15 04:19 AM
Education is a completely separate thing to relationships. Not sure a highly-educated person would do it for me. I've come across many, who are good at holding down a career, but their relationships are always very short-term. Some have been so caught up in a life of career commitment, that they then miss out on having a family with someone, and can't find someone to have a home with. Sounds a bit lonely to me. Not sure I could have that kind of life. It breaks my heart. I mean, good luck to those, but education isn't what makes a Person. I hate to say it, even to admit it, but when I've been stood in a queue, I've heard them put on posh accents, and seriously, they're conversations about how "Their mummy has five houses", kinda bores me. I can't imagine them being any fun. The impression they give off is that they're stoic and frigid. Not sure if they do the posh accent on purpose, and well, I find it hilarious.

hi I want to date any girl to my age

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Wed 12/16/15 07:14 AM
someone better educated...Does that promote interest or intimidate you?

Depends on to what degree "better" means.
I am going to assume it means "significantly better."

If it seems to be a potential obstacle, or potential problem, to banging/dating them, then I feel insecure/intimidated.

If it seems to be something that I can gain from them, shared knowledge, then it interests me.

Why?

It can show an incompatibility in our levels of ambition and purpose.

It can show a significant difference in our socioeconomic status.

It will show a significant difference in communication.

Those will be huge problems in the longer term.

I tend to focus on figuring out how things will fail or what will be the problems, then focus on when/how long until that will most likely happen, then determine whether or not I wish to participate or "invest my time" for that long, and then I enjoy that time or put myself into the moment and stop thinking about it when I go after it.

Lots of people tend to do the same thing I do but in reverse order.
(Many times that is determined by their education)






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Wed 12/16/15 08:49 AM
Well I m highly educated but girls don't care about it

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Wed 12/16/15 10:04 AM
As a rule, I would probably find it interesting. My own career demands a bit of "intellectual horsepower" (so to speak), & has required continuous education for over a decade, so the prospect of someone else's "book learnin'" doesn't automatically impress me. I've had a moderately-interesting life, & I'm reasonably confident that I can hold up my end of a conversation. winking The type of person they are, the way that they treat others, those kinds of things are going to be at least as important. :thumbsup:

Now if we look at the other end of the scale, & she simply wasn't blessed with much intelligence?? Yeah, that can definitely be a deal-breaker for me... ohwell

jacktrades's photo
Wed 12/16/15 03:30 PM
It is a turn on for me, but I do agree with the others that one does not have to have a formal education to be smart.

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Wed 12/16/15 06:52 PM
A higher education (Masters or PHd)usually translates into the profession of the person, so, if I'm working a temp job I'm not really going to message doctors or lawyers, the socioeconomic difference is too large to even consider short term dating. (nor would they be interested in me). I personally don't know of any couples comprised of nuclear physicists paired w/H.S. dropout janitors, so yes it can be very intimidating.

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Wed 12/16/15 08:20 PM
Education and intelligence are relative terms. They don't mean much in many circumstances. One person, due to circumstances, may not have finished college but may be the PERFECT match for someone who spent many years in college.

An intelligent person could be dyslexic or have some other minor disability that hindered education.

Also, people grow with time. Maturity evens out and levels the field.

If someone is interesting, learn who they are. Their qualities may have nothing to do with formal education.

PacificStar48's photo
Wed 12/16/15 08:45 PM
This question was generated by a Time article by Jon Birger that said the dating game is rigged against women because in 2012 there was 34% greater ratio of women college Grads and in 2023 it was expected to go to 47% so currently 4 to 3 imbalance between 22 and 29. Also saying "Classism is bigger than racism in dating" according to dating coach Evan Marc Katz because of lopsided gender ratios. Ratios reflected in Mormon and Orthodox Jewish communities. Not sure where they got that data but I still don't buy it.

Especially since sooooh many degrees cost so much money and pay so little even when you get them. Do kind of wonder what that is going to do to the gender differential in pay.

RustyKitty's photo
Thu 12/17/15 08:21 AM
someone with 'street smarts' can be more aware than someone with 'book smarts'..
Even if you are 'educated'.. you can come across as stoopid..lol

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Thu 12/17/15 01:27 PM

This question was generated by a Time article by Jon Birger that said the dating game is rigged against women because in 2012 there was 34% greater ratio of women college Grads and in 2023 it was expected to go to 47% so currently 4 to 3 imbalance between 22 and 29. Also saying "Classism is bigger than racism in dating" according to dating coach Evan Marc Katz because of lopsided gender ratios. Ratios reflected in Mormon and Orthodox Jewish communities. Not sure where they got that data but I still don't buy it.

Especially since sooooh many degrees cost so much money and pay so little even when you get them. Do kind of wonder what that is going to do to the gender differential in pay.

I remember reading about that - it caused a bit of a stir when it first came out.

Of course, at the time, it was only mildly interesting to me, in a purely academic sense. ohwell

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Wed 12/23/15 02:00 AM
Love that.

brenna_norman's photo
Wed 12/23/15 03:47 PM
that's absolutely true

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