I see that guys like to watch sports on tv and spend time with "guy friends". I like to have sex 3 times a day if there is time, but only with the right guy. Most guys don't want that. They want their own space.

Plus a Mars bar ?????

You know Doc that question really hit home,(you have your moments..lol). To be honest when I look at myself I would have to say yes I have become selfish.I have been so caught up with work, remodeling my new house that I have put everyone on the back burner. I need to change this right away..oh the baseball playoffs are on tonight..Ok Doc first thing tomorrow morning..

Is he in your head too Jack?
He has a good point and he brings it to mind to reflect on.
Sometimes we need someone to do that.
We get so involved with things we forget about the important things.

.. slammed the brakes on on the bus...lol.. wait wait wait just a minute.. I will get back to everybody else in a second... I just want to take the time to slowly read.. Idaho potatoes comment over and over again.. I'm giving up sports I think I'm in love.. ..

.. yes baseball all you need to say totally understandable..

.. yes although being selfish and spending time on yourself is important.. very important actually..
But however sometimes life has a way..
of bogging us down... we get busy with work family household chores even renovation ... but sometimes it is necessary to stop what your doing and see things through others eyes... to realize how taking your time away from them !... ... how that truly impacts.. on them... how they might think that you don't see them as a true priority... you have no time for them..

What a shame. You have never met the right guy. I can tell that. But in another sense of the word it's hard for me to believe, not saying you are lying, But in the day and times we live in, you can't find a guy that would have sex with you 3 times a day. And I am talking about the right guy here.

When you say, "Most guys don't want that." I can't help but wonder what kind of guys you are encountering. Because, to tell you the truth, I've been around for 53 years. In that 53 years, I've met a lot of people from all kinds of backgrounds. And every man I've ever met, including myself, that really wants the right kind of relationship, What you said about sex 3 times a day, is a lot of guys dream come true. Especially if they were like me and married to a cold woman. O'lord, You may never get out of the bedroom.lol

It makes me wonder if the men you have been encountering are gay. Or have a bad case of limp..........

wow i have herd that from a few woman i have dated,, guess we are all set in are ways, but willing to change for the right woman,,

will not say no to sex 3 times a day sounds healthy. I'll see the final score later it's okay let's have sex is what I would say....

Does anyone live near idaho? help a sista out!

no but i can be there in twelve hours LOL,,,,,

It depends how recent the breakup was. I have to admit, I find it quite difficult seeing myself with any other man, after a breakup, so I need as much quiet time as possible. I can't just dive right back into the social scene.

rats it will take me 2 days

interesting question number one
I drank my coffee and contemplated the answer to this ..


honestly the answer is yes.
I have become more 'selfish' out of self preservation,
determination, my own choice..

to say it was the inevitable evolution
would be inaccurate for some never choose it and some never have to..

for a select few, their relationship, marriage grows and changes along with the kids, the bigger, house, change in jobs, death of parent, times of good and times of not so good and by the time the empty nest years hit they are closer than ever and go golfing and camping and buy a place down south for retirement.

and then there are the rest of us...whose marriage for various reasons, did not withstand the test of time and we chose to walk away


we chose at some point to put our own needs first

I use to live near Idaho.
Wouldn't matter, based on what she has written in her profile, I'm too tall to meet her criteria.

No, I am not selfish with my time. I find that all the peeps I encounter have this problem of not wanting to share their time with me.
And, Cat is ONPOINT with her last statement. MOST peeps simply see some of us Ladies as prudish or goody-goody if we don't blast our sexual thoughts often. We are simply keeping these lovely thoughts/ideas to ourselves until the "true, right one" comes along. And, now that I write this, I think that in itself is being selfish. So, yes, I guess i am selfish

if you share it over and over with everyone
the same sex stories, the same " do you like this position, do you spit or .."
it becomes an inventory of sex info you keep on whoever it is you are talking with at moment..couple naughty stories, maybe couple pic exchanges
and then its time to move on down the line til ya snag the next one


there are some..especially online that like to spend all their time doing this..and never actually dating anyone

..exactly......"next"

hate to say it , because I don't consider myself the selfish type

but I have been used to going it alone so far, and its been a struggle, yet the idea of being in a relationship and feeling a 'responsibility' for someone elses wants and needs and emotions 24/7 is no longer that enticing to me,,,

especially in the tech age where people sit around and expect responses immediately on whatever devise they contact you on,,,, yuck,,,,