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You are so selfish.... you never make time for me....lol.. has being alone on your own all these years made you into a selfish person.. you have become so used to doing what you want when you want to.. that now when you get into a relationship.. you have forgotten how to share your time.. do you think you are selfish.. .. when it comes to making time for your new partner hate to say it , because I don't consider myself the selfish type but I have been used to going it alone so far, and its been a struggle, yet the idea of being in a relationship and feeling a 'responsibility' for someone elses wants and needs and emotions 24/7 is no longer that enticing to me,,, especially in the tech age where people sit around and expect responses immediately on whatever devise they contact you on,,,, yuck,,,, don't get me wrong ..hearing " good morning beautiful" first thing when ya wake up is nice but then what you having for breakfast? what time you gotta be at work? when you gonna text me? you gonna call on your lunch break? what you gonna buy at store? make for dinner? what you thinking about right now? holy crapola man get a friggin life and leave me be!  
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exactly, I suspect that a person did MANY things during their day that didn't include me BEFORE WE MET,, and I don't expect that suddenly they do NOTHING but tend to me,,,
If I send a message,, sometime in the day,, get back to me,, ,,if you can,,lol |
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Just sitting here thinking. I always gave freely of my time. I don't think any woman I ever knew cared or gave a dam% either way. Truthfully, I can't think of one that it mattered to.
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I have to admit, I find it quite difficult seeing myself with any other man, after a breakup, so I need as much quiet time as possible. I can't just dive right back into the social scene. wine.... wine helps with that. |
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I agree with Friendly woman I couldn't jump into another relationship until I sorted myself out.
Yes it has taken years to find out who I am. With the next I wanted to make sure that he was the only one and there was no bones in my cubboard. I want him to be the only one that is in my heart and head. This is only fair to him. Maybe I am old fashion and others may think I crazy . I look at it this way if I want to be his only one I want him to be mine. |
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I know myself pretty good and know what I want,.. more importantly, I know what I DON'T want..
I am selfish these days,looking for what pleases me, not others. |
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I agree with TMommy that might be a little much ... am I selfish with my time ... I don't think so ... and relationships can not be one sided for them to work either ... but if I had a relationship with someone I would make the time for him and hope he would do the same ... and Op I took your advice on one of your post and is about making time for those you love ... and I like this song... I have been hearing lately ..
https://youtu.be/2-MBfn8XjIU |
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I know myself pretty good and know what I want,.. more importantly, I know what I DON'T want.. I am selfish these days,looking for what pleases me, not others.  
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I know myself pretty good and know what I want,.. more importantly, I know what I DON'T want.. I am selfish these days,looking for what pleases me, not others.
down boy, down.. |
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I know myself pretty good and know what I want,.. more importantly, I know what I DON'T want.. I am selfish these days,looking for what pleases me, not others.
down boy, down.. |
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I also don't have any children, and have never wanted any. Most guys my age and older have kids and grandkids, so that is a priority to them. That is not something I want to be involved in.
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Some people might think I'm selfish, but I think of it in the opposite way. I have never wanted children, as a teenager, or in my 20's or 30's. I see a lot of couples have unplanned children, and then maybe get married. I understand when they say, I have no regrets. For me, it worked out, and I know I would not be a good mother.
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Edited by
Valeris
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Tue 10/20/15 06:01 PM
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You are so selfish.... you never make time for me....lol.. has being alone on your own all these years made you into a selfish person.. you have become so used to doing what you want when you want to.. that now when you get into a relationship.. you have forgotten how to share your time.. do you think you are selfish.. .. when it comes to making time for your new partner ALONE & SELFISH? Hmmmmmm....? No, I wouldn't define my life choices with the type of words that carry such a negative semantic. * I prefer to describe my life as being in a long term relationship with creativity & freedom. * 
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Actually, for me in a relationship, I'm not selfish. I am focused on the relationship if I care about someone. I usually find that most guys don't want my attention and are concerned with what their friends and family want.
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Actually, for me in a relationship, I'm not selfish. I am focused on the relationship if I care about someone. I usually find that most guys don't want my attention and are concerned with what their friends and family want. |
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Actually, for me in a relationship, I'm not selfish. I am focused on the relationship if I care about someone. I usually find that most guys don't want my attention and are concerned with what their friends and family want. Sounds to me like you have been dating teenage boys that haven't been weened off of the tit yet. Not grown men. A grown man that has maturity wants a woman's attention. Usually above all else. I know I do. If I'm in a relationship with someone I love, She comes first. I love my mom & dad and my sister. But they come after the woman I love. |
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Let's leave tit out of this..lol
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I'm extremely busy most of the time.
What limited free time I do have, I'm willing to share some of it. But, I will not be consumed by anyone's constant need for me. Been there, done that... If, that makes me greedy, I don't care. |
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You are so selfish.... you never make time for me....lol.. has being alone on your own all these years made you into a selfish person.. you have become so used to doing what you want when you want to.. that now when you get into a relationship.. you have forgotten how to share your time.. do you think you are selfish.. .. when it comes to making time for your new partner Well the assumption that I have been alone is a bit off but yes I am trying to be selfish at this point in my life. I think I have earned the right to be and I would not wear it out on the right person so I don't really worry about it. It is kind of a twist of the old adage about Mommy being happy; in my case if Mommy is happy Daddy is going to be REALLY happy once the deal is done. lol I might not be able to do it three times a day but believe me the "once and well done" will put a twinkle in the old mans eye. lol |
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I'm extremely busy most of the time. What limited free time I do have, I'm willing to share some of it. But, I will not be consumed by anyone's constant need for me. Been there, done that... If, that makes me greedy, I don't care. |
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