and it was.

thats how I felt anyway.

I don't really know any of you folks on here. But, this indeed is a sad situation. Breakups are really hard and at times love really sucks. Sounds like everybody is dealing with issues. I guess it comes down to you have to be happy with yourself because people may come and go in your life.

Evad, if you and your girlfriend still love each and are attracted to each other, maybe you will work it out. Take some time apart to re-evaluate the situation. I am in the re-evaluation stage of a relationship right now and it is not fun.

i don't know whats going on but *hugs*

that had to be one of the hardest decisions that smho ever made and may ever make. I agree take a few steps back and re-evaluate what is going on. I see where she is comming from, and it is hard on the kids when the dad is not involved in their life, especially if he is a good dad which I believe you are. Whether or not your ex has a new man or not, you are still their dad, and they need you....just my two cents worth. BEST OF LUCK TO YOU BOTH!

oh come on now, girls and guys are like freakin buses. on off, on off, on off. dont spend all your time and energy in one person if they're not willing to do the same for you. too bad you live so far away evad.

That sucks dude, I've been there a few times and it never gets easier.

Well considering my ex put me in the hospital numerous times I'd have to say Men hurt women also! but I'm sorry for what you're going through, nobody, no matter their sex, should ever hurt anyone else, but I'm a firm believer in Karma!

I'm really new here so pardon me if I step on anyone's toes but sometimes loves makes it seem that all things are possible, but than reality rears its ugly head and gives you a wake up call. It takes more than love to make a relationship work. I think that if you take the time you may find that there is a solution to this, in fact, time it self may be the solution. I wish you both the best of luck and hope that you are able to work it out. Life is filled with difficult decisions and even the best ones have consequences, you just have to decide if they are ones you can live with...

Hi Sarah

good advice you posted

Well first of all this same situation just happen to another couple here that had been talking for a lot longer time even by looking at them they looked like a perfect match and very deeply in love with each other.

First of all anyone that is on these sites and have small children. Most don't think about the laws they have changed drastically in the last decade. And some have no clue they get on a site fall in love then boom the booms explode and they find out the woman and can not just pack her bags and leave to be with them why aww there is a child involved and they can't just jerk them away from the other parent and move out of state if they do ther risk loosing custody of that child.


Now if it so happens both have kids, hummm which should first your happiness or your kids and being in there lives.? YOU CHOSE !!!

I'm sorry to hear about this type of situation happening again. But I have the highest respect for singing choice she made. You see I'm sorry but before our happiness and what we want should never come above our kids. I raised mine for 16 years just them and me no one lived with during that time. I felt that after they were grown then I could have my time.

Kids now days more then ever need there parents in there life as much as possible.

It's sad yes and to both of you my heart hurts for you both but...............our kids while they are little should be our first priority!!!!!

they can still have a relationship.....they just have to drive more or fly more to see each other!

I have a question for the question at hand...

Why do women always get hurt by men?

tx...definately the voice of reason, couldn't agree any more


my divorce sorta through me in a tailspin, have to remember your words


sadly we can't always control our feelings, male or female, makes it tough sometimes


anyone i talk to will know if i deactivate for a while, just a common sense of desency

Dave.. there are several factors that play into a good healthy relationship.. You guys had a good thing going.. but You have a few faults.. not saying I am perfect.. I am far from it.. I talked to Singing all the time.. she is an amazing girl, and you are an amazing guy.. but your priorities are mixed up.. I hope you understand what I am trying to say.. if you don't... message me and i will talk to you more.. it is not my job to stick my nose into anything.. and nor do I want to lose either of your friendships.. but I think what information I do have for you.. is good for you.. and may help you in the future.. she still cares very much about you..