Why do women say they want an honest mature man..provide their phone number... Call you and answer all of your calls.. However, when it comes to meeting them in person they flake out.. Afterwords, they mysteriously disappear

The answer to this question (which can just as easily be "people" instead of "women") is invariably "because they can, because they felt like it, because it's their prerogative to change their mind at any time for any reason, and then run away from the consequences and judgment for doing so."

Women are just pure evil dude.....but God I love em.

I think it is because as long as it is just on line or even on the phone it is just and idea that really doesn't require any change in their over all life.

When people meet then the know they have to start accomodating a new person in the real world; and it might requires some changes.

Most people really don't want to make room for any one in their life because it means giving up something; space, bad habits, privacy, being a slob, being the one in charge, and the only parent.

Sometimes it means giving up the devil they know for one who they fear might be even worse.

Sadly on line it often means owning up to the fact that they have someone; it is just not someone they want. Some times it is live in , even a spouse, but a lot of time it is just a long time FWB they aren't sure they want to burn.

Sorry double post.

Pacificstar you are 100%

Ouch ! you are getting close to the nerve there.Can I come back next week ?

Why do men ask me my name?

It might be because they want to be sure what your name is. Just because you have "Tina" in your online name, doesn't mean it's yours to most people. It's common for someone to use a totally different name on the internet.

also i wonder why they want to chat by email lol

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I try to be honest in my profile about my situation. My life is full as a single mom who is not yet divorced and I am not 'looking' for anything real time where I have to take out more time of my life to add someone else to it,,,,

I enjoy the conversation and adult interaction because my whole life is mostly 'mom'

plus there is something very freeing about not having the strings of the physical world, and just being able to be open and honest in conversation,,,



whenever the time is right for me, when I can include someone else in it, I will shout it from the rooftops,, trust,,,

Could the be nervous?

Deep down women are coward

What a smooth pick-up line that is.

This one is going places!
It's just that he'll be going there on his own ...

Well ... they did tell you upfront they wanted an honest and mature man ...

Kidding ... Are you aware that men do the exact same thing to women?
Why? I don't know.
There's a lot of wankers out there, you just gotta keep at it till you meet the right one for you. And not let yourself get discouraged by the a-holes out there.
Unfortunately there seem to be more a-holes than good ones, I guess that's why it's called "needle in a haystack".

I've taken a long long dating-sabbatical because I got fed up with all the wankers.

Is this a trick question? For some, it's to spam your email address. And sometimes it's just because they want to get off the site. I know I've done it because I didn't want other people bugging me. Sending me messages while I'm trying to talk to someone else. Also, If the guy happens to be one of those few that uses the head between his shoulders instead of the one swinging between his legs, he may not want to give out his cell number to a stranger woman on the internet. It's not just women who get weird men. Men get weird women sometimes. He may not want to give out his cell number till he has had a chance to feel you out a little. Hence, talking by email.

They are living in a fantasy world. And they are searching for a man that does not exist. Most of them have nothing special to offer and are a total waste of precious time

This goes a lot deeper than what Libido42 is saying. Yes, There are a lot of goofy, flakey women out there. A lot of them that have little to no idea what they want. All this is true, about both genders. One thing that no one seems to be thinking about is fear. Internet dating is scary. It's really scary to a lot of women. You have to mindful of what you say to a woman on dating sites. You can say one wrong thing, not meaning anything. You didn't realize how what you said, sounded. The next thing you know this lady flakes on you. And you don't know why. You did it to yourself and don't know it.

Several years ago a woman was killed by a man she met on POF. A few years ago a man, under the influence of his "little" head met a woman in the dark at her motel room. He met her online. I don't remember which dating site they met on. As he stepped into her room he was met with a ball bat to the back of his head. They rolled him. Took everything he had on him. And took his car to. They left him laying there for dead. He lived.

Then recently an elderly man and his wife were killed by a guy they met on Craig's list. Over a car.

Women are scared to meet men because of such crap as this. Yes, there are a lot of flaky people out there. But, If you are coming across this a lot. One woman after the other keeps flaking out on you, You may need to look at yourself and think about what you are saying or doing. And how it's perceived by the women that you contact. I'm not saying that any one certain person is a bad guy. All I'm saying is, "think." Look at yourself and make sure it isn't you.

I think this is self explanatory.



I checked your profile and when did you register in Mingle because of this line:)^^^^

Well, what I can say is, either you are a lucky man or a gullible man. either of the 2. Or a combination.

I have been here more than 60 days on this dating site, but only people who I never saw in the forum instant message me with their phone numbers which means they will be blocked the moment I logged in here.

I never receive an instant message with a phone number from anyone here in the forum, both man and woman, and for that I am grateful.

I never receive an instant message with an fb account from anyone here in the forum with any man, for that I am grateful too.

Why am I grateful?

Because I realize that while it is okay to wear your heart on your sleeve while replying to a post or giving your take, people on line always:

misinterprets
misunderstands

other posts.. I am guilty of these most of the time.
but even those people who have been here for
quiet some time, do it too, intentionally and unintentionally.

I am seldom in the same page with everyone.
Which makes you really scared and tend to be wary or distrustful.

Then there are those who loves to: (and I really think this is deliberate)

misleads -
sabotage -
instigates -
confuses -

So if you get a phone number Kudos for you.
You have just been here few days and u are provided those.
But see where does it lead u?
This is 1 of the examples why people like me hold back.

Me, I am glad I am never tempted to give my phone number
and fb account to any man here in Mingle.

I am very glad & grateful I take heed of those advises
given to me by well-intentioned people.

At least, people may bully or reject me
unintentionally or intentionally
but I am still safe, thousands of miles away from people
who wish me harm.



Few days here and you are tempted to meet?
You must really be a risk taker and have so much time
in your hand.

If you really love yourself and this is not just some bs,
then take time to be cautious.