I am beginning to lose hope.

Yes you can.

And you can also fall out of it too.

nurjoyce -- i really don't know if that can happen in a week.
please don't take this wrong but i know from experience you can fall in lust.

For me, no, I couldn't do it. I need several months and an 80-page statistical overview.

I think you can make some small steps IN THAT DIRECTION in a week, altough the validity of the underlying feelings should still be open to revision, i.e., once you discover he's Charles Manson or something.

But a week is just not long enough to know anything concrete about a person, other than a fleeting snippet of imagery that they have chosen to display for you -- for whatever reason.

what about if you talk to a person for a while not thinking about love or anything and then wham!!! It hits you!!! then, what do you think lex? What is that?

yeah---what she said---<<pointing to gypsy>>

Gypsy, Joyce, that's different because you have more of a background to work with, more of a sense of who that person is.

I was thinking more in terms of a complete stranger just showing up, and, in a week, bang, you're in love. I have some doubts about that, but don't go by what I say, I have doubts about everything.

Now, in a situation where you've been talking to someone for awhile, and then it hits you all of a sudden that you have feelings for this person -- OK, that's more feasible. I would still want to be cautious but -- depending on how long and how thoroughly and intimately you've been talking to the person -- there is at least a coherent basis for those feelings to develop.

So let's say it takes a week for you to recognize and define those feelings. Yeah, I can see that. My point is I would have to deal with the person for a lot MORE than a week (in total) before I would be comfortable categorizing those feelings as legitimate.

So it is safe to say that its not really love but really a great like for that person...and until you actually meet and spend some quality time with that person....then those feeling of intense love are actually intense like!

I think that everyone can fall in love at their own pace. Me, personally, I think if it was something important and worth a try you will know right away. You cant force it because you will only hurt yourself.
Just be careful! Whatever will make you the happiest!

Gypsy, I would tend to agree with that, keeping in mind that "love" tends to be a bit vague, in that people interpret it differently. But let's look at it as a matter of degrees. I think it's possible to be attracted to, or interested in, a person almost instantaneously.

It takes longer to get to know them as an individual (separate and apart from the facade), but I have seen people get very attached to someone in a week. I wouldn't necessarily call it love. It may just be that they perceive this person as meeting and potentially fulfilling a need in their lives.

I think it has to do with maturity and knowing the difference between love and lust or intense like klc, not a matter of not feeling...

and btw everytime I see your name I want chicken....is that wrong?

that's KFC

I know.....but Im hungry and I want to put an "f" there!!!

part of me can but i'm not saying which part

maybe the idea of being in love with them and sharing a future. but real love comes with time and committment.

I don't think you can truely fall in love in a week, and certainly without meeting them... I even told him NOT to say that cus it would be far too soon... men never listen

he did not say anything close to that---
i am the one who is probably moving faster than i usually do
i was just asking---reality check for me

I can't be in love with someone without meeting them, no. I need to make them "real" first.

Each and everyone of us are different when it comes to matters of the heart, but I think the general idea here of all of the replies is "it is not possible " maybe you are in love with the idea of being in love, especially so if ths is an on line relationship. Meeting someone in the flesh and falling in love in a short space of time is an altogether different matter.

I am certain that ppl can fall in love in a week...lol...My mom tells of seeing my dad across the room at a dance...and thinking "that is the man I am going to marry" She went home and told her folks that (at age 15)....yup...56 yrs later my dad died...still md and still in love...so it can happen. Know lotsa stories about that kinda thing happening. Just be positive about it when it does