Topic: how often does creating drama hurt relationships?
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Mon 09/21/15 02:42 AM

I had enough drama in my last relationship to last me at least one lifetime. So I'm not interested in more of that.

Like Sitka says: if the bad outweighs the good ... time to leave!
Meaning you have to pay close attention in the beginning for red flags, cos once you're in deep, it gets more difficult and painful to leave. And Drama Flags can usually be found early on. If you keep your eyes open and don't see pink clouds only ...


I've experienced exactly that....unneccessary drama in the past & i hate it....it's like some women just love drama & as for red flags i've seen them at the start & i still went for it & learnt that i should always trust my instincts & not my foolish heart

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Mon 09/21/15 02:48 AM


I had enough drama in my last relationship to last me at least one lifetime. So I'm not interested in more of that.

Like Sitka says: if the bad outweighs the good ... time to leave!
Meaning you have to pay close attention in the beginning for red flags, cos once you're in deep, it gets more difficult and painful to leave. And Drama Flags can usually be found early on. If you keep your eyes open and don't see pink clouds only ...


I've experienced exactly that....unneccessary drama in the past & i hate it....it's like some women just love drama & as for red flags i've seen them at the start & i still went for it & learnt that i should always trust my instincts & not my foolish heart

Yeah same here... although to be honest, I think even the heart knew something was off... I think it's the ego that makes us stay with such people? ( => Telling yourself it's not that bad, that the good is soooo good, fear of being alone and/or the pain of breaking up, blabla, or, the No1 mistake women make: I can make him better! )
Looking back my heart knew full well I wasn't getting what I really desired ...

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Mon 09/21/15 02:50 AM
There are different types of red flags. Sometimes it can be as simple as feeling that your personalities will clash. That can be as much about you as it is about them. I don't think that it's realistic to think that I can get a passionate woman that is just easy to get along with. I don't know if someone that just went with the flow and never got flustered about anything would be less irritating.

And without going into too many details, I saw no red flags with the last woman that I met and she seemed easy to get along with and a nice honest girl, when she turned out to be a dirty little liar.

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Mon 09/21/15 07:28 AM
I'm usually the one doing the walking away. I don't like to get involved in stupid, petty arguements. I'd rather be out of the way. I like a calm atmosphere.

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Mon 09/21/15 09:16 AM
I was married six years to the drama queen, almost every single day it was something, then all lovey dovey to make up, until the last 7 months of our marriage. Then no lovey dovey, just drama.

Final straw, got up to use the bathroom in the middle of the night, TV in the bedroom still turned on, so on the way back to bed, I asked her to turn down the volume at least, she huffed and puffed, said it would be better if she moved to another bedroom, then I reminded her my first wife and I had separate bedrooms and that marriage didn't last. So then she said maybe better if she moved out of the house all together, I said fine, when back to bed and a couple weeks later she was out of the house. So I filed for divorced and wrapped it up earlier this year.

No more will I even put up with made up drama, just go get me stirred up, it's not healthy period.

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Mon 09/21/15 09:45 AM
The little things add up I guess . Too much drama can be stress full and when talking things out does not work or in a long term relationship counseling does not work then it is time to move on.

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Mon 09/21/15 10:24 AM
Life is actually full of drama, action, comedy , and tragedy.....:smile: tears :banana: frustrated :laughing: sad but in a relationship, it's how the couples deal with the different situations, proper communication is the tool. There must be an underlying reason for the drama and it depends if it is really reasonable that the man or woman has something boiling up inside him or her that needs release or need to talk it out in the open and resolve afterwards. But having too much drama that is unhealthy and some people just intentionally make it up as their scapegoat because they have done something wrong and doesn't want to get caught or they just wanna get out from that relationship.

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Mon 09/21/15 12:28 PM


I had one relationship end because I was cooking breakfast. I refused to go somewhere until after breakfast.

lack of communication and not trying to understand creates drama.
you're wanting the world to validate you being right by offering only a very short scenario.
she left because you were cooking breakfast and refused to go somewhere.

was the place you had to go more important than cooking breakfast? was there limited time or opportunity to get there? was it an important appointment?
were you just being stubborn by refusing to lesve?
there's usually two sides to every story.
I haven't ended a relationship but I have left without my significant other when we had plans that I had to be punctual.
it was Sunday morning nothing important I had already started breakfast.


I'm with you
Breakfast first
What's make this worse she had a man cooking breakfast. What's her problem?

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Mon 09/21/15 12:31 PM
she wanted to go spend money NOW????

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Mon 09/21/15 12:35 PM
True
I hope it was her own not his lol

Drama kings and queens get shown the door along with show ponies.


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Mon 09/21/15 12:36 PM
but you said i could have a ponysad

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Mon 09/21/15 12:39 PM

but you said i could have a ponysad


Lol you can but not this type.
Oh my you will be pulling your beard out .
If not you the rest of us will
rofl rofl rofl

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Mon 09/21/15 01:37 PM
I ended it with a woman I thought a lot of. About a week ago. Just because she couldn't keep her life in order. It was just one drama after the other. As soon as one would get settled, another one would take its place. I've already ended it with her several times. She would promise me there would be no more drama.

And then, within a week or two, something else would start. I would wind up leaving. Some more promises, I would turn around and go back. I finally got tired of the promises. Promises that were never kept. I couldn't stand it anymore. It's just not worth it to have your nerves torn up all the time. I can't live that way. I don't understand anyone that can. I like to be able to sleep at night and not lay there awake wondering what's going to happen next.

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Mon 09/21/15 01:39 PM
the only drama I want in a relationship is in the bedroom, and that only from the shadows that the candle is casting. ...


or our 'skits' in the bedroom...other than that leave thr drama elsewhere

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Mon 09/21/15 01:43 PM
What might be drama to one might not be to another. Breakfast? Really?

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Mon 09/21/15 01:48 PM
drama...pfffft never heard of it whoa :angel:

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Mon 09/21/15 01:51 PM
rofl rofl rofl

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Mon 09/21/15 04:18 PM
how often does drama hurt a relationship.... I'm going with Often

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Mon 09/21/15 05:14 PM
...makes me laugh... I have so much drama in my life..lol...biggest reason I stay single... I have a hard time dealing with all I go through..and honestly I am not a dramatic person myself...drama just finds me and I just shake my head...sucks to be me...but at least my friends and family appreciate me...they just load me up with all their issues and I deal with it...but dang...sure do wish I could run and hide and spend time with a drama free guy...oh well...:wink:flowerforyou

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Mon 09/21/15 05:22 PM

...makes me laugh... I have so much drama in my life..lol...biggest reason I stay single... I have a hard time dealing with all I go through..and honestly I am not a dramatic person myself...drama just finds me and I just shake my head...sucks to be me...but at least my friends and family appreciate me...they just load me up with all their issues and I deal with it...but dang...sure do wish I could run and hide and spend time with a drama free guy...oh well...:wink:flowerforyou


I love you so much Kind!!..!! :heart: !!