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| Topic: Do Men Really READ the profiles ??? | |
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Reading the profile is not really the most important thing in getting to know the person but it sure does give u an idea about him or her helping you to have a good starting point of conversation. Referring to the personal details of a person would show interest or seriousness in making a connection either friendship or to a more serious relationship. These are basic or personal information that would create an impression. Starting hereon, what follows after is all up to both of you. Make an impression with your profile, but I don't believe in first impression lasts, because it takes time to know one . This is just a tool on how or where to start in making a good connection.
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OK, I am just looking at the dating pool. My profile is perhaps rather negative, in that I am NOT looking to 'hookup' - just viewing the pool candidates.. The comments of emails I receive, it is pretty obvious to me that my profile is NOT being read at all, as the comments in their emails reference what a nice profile it is, etc... are you kidding me?did you read it??? Or are they just MANREADING it? Manreading - look at the pictures and carry on anyway.. Hints about scammers would be appreciated.. Kat MANREADING it means means sifting through the female ********.. 
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Most men definitely don't read profiles. And not only that, most men, (with the exception of maybe 10%; and a lot of women, too, i guess) have nothing written on their profiles, except "Hi" or "Will tell you later"...  I have often asked myself what the reason is for this, and i think it's probably either laziness, distrust, negative preconditioning (like "Even if i read/write, they won't answer" or "Most of what people write, is a lie" etc.-- we read some of them here... ) or they are simply scammers with their own agenda.
My opinion on that: What is written on the profile can give you some basic info about the person and can help you decide if you want more. No more, no less! Writing a message to someone whose profile you have actually read is sensible (and honest) only if you really like what you read (even though that is, of course, just a very partial truth about the person), and you want to know more. But the aim shouldn't be getting back the message at all costs or counting the actual answers, but rather getting the right person, right?! If the person doesn't answer that means they are not interested (for one or the other reason), and thea are probably also not the right person for you, simple as that. Expecting that another person must answer just because you wrote them a message (even if you have read their profile, but especially if you haven't) is a bit absurd. The other person has freedom to answer or not, according to their standards. Some of us will only answer those who read our profiles, who have actually some information about themselves on the profile, who showed some interest and who we are also interested in after reading their profiles.... 
 let's drink to that Tess! I totally agree with u
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Photos are good, but I read. It gets me closer to what I want or rather, what I need to be able to fall in love better with the one that's for me.
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 Well, I like to read what's in her heart before I will walk the trail with her.
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Nope, I just look at the picture and see if lil mama a white girl
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Someone just messaged me and asked me how old I was. Bwahhhhhahahaha.
Delete. 
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I don't know why it is a big chore to read a profile, unless it really rambles. Some men do that.
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Nope, I just look at the picture and see if lil mama a white girl Might find yo daddy if you look hard enough.. 
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some do...had one send me a message today saying " I don't get it" proof positive he read it
Just read it and I don't "get it" either. jk |
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hmmmm...must be working then
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hi lady how are you
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intestate in you
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I don't know why it is a big chore to read a profile, unless it really rambles. Some men do that. |
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I start with location. If I don't like that. No
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I start with location. If I don't like that. No I do this as well. Unless they are a forum regular, THEN I sometimes like to read about them, no matter their location. 
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Edited by
456tessa
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Tue 08/25/15 11:10 AM
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ok tessa try it this way. we both frequent the same pub. i've seen you a time or two and even spent one night shooting pool at the next table so i heard enough of you talk to decide i was interested. so the next time we are both there i walk up and introduce my self and even mange to say something cute that fits with some of your overheard conversation. no you really aren't interested in me. do you stare through me like i don't even exist? or do you demonstrate some level of common courtesy and say thanks but no thanks? I only now saw this. Sorry, I'm late...
I see what you mean, but you have to admit that real-life situation is not quite the same as internet viruality. In the situation as you describe it in a pub, I,too, would probably notice you and if I saw that you are reasonably nice guy and you showed interest for me but I wouldn't be interested, I would surely say at least kind and polite "no". I would even say "thanks" and "sorry", i am that kind...  Actually, i have a tendency to be too kind (I might even suggest here that "we can have a friendly drink, anyway"), and i have had too many situations (in real life and internet communication) that a kind "no" was not taken seriously. There are guys out there that simply won't take "no" for an answer and will misunderstand any kindness or any answer as encouragement and won't simply leave you alone, belive me... but maybe I attract such men, don't know... That's why i have come to the conclusion that the best way to say "not interested" (in internet communication, at least) and to avoid any further misunderstanding and unnecesary explanations is simply not answering or stopping communication. It really works...
On the other hand, no answer can sometimes mean that the person is not able to make an immediate answer, is indecisive or shy and wants to take some time to think (I, too, beheave like that sometimes  )-- have you thought of that?
And anyway, why would an actual "no, thanks" answer make so much difference from not getting an answer at all? Is it because it gives you a false hope? In this case I think you just have to realize that it's you giving yourself a false hope, not that person who hasn't answered ...
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I think anyone (M or F) who is serious about finding a real relationship reads the profiles. You need as much information as you can get.
I wonder about the photo "matching" protocol. "Someone wants to meet you", but you have to ***** them (their photo) first. Today's batch of photos contained some that I recognize from commercial "adult" sites...what's with that? |
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I think anyone (M or F) who is serious about finding a real relationship reads the profiles. You need as much information as you can get. I wonder about the photo "matching" protocol. "Someone wants to meet you", but you have to ***** them (their photo) first. Today's batch of photos contained some that I recognize from commercial "adult" sites...what's with that? I look at the people not wanting to use their own picture and substituting it for someone elses are sad.. That they don't have enough confidence in themselves to be who they are. I have asked some that have done this why?? How will you explain it later?? No answer... |
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Yeah it's discouraging isn't it?
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