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Topic: ADVICE ABOUT GUYS FOR THE LADIES
MelMaxx Joined Thu 10/28/10 Posts: 4724	Wed 08/19/15 08:28 AM
you mean like fast cars, bass boats, fishing rods that line the garage wall and a 3000 dollar gun safe for his hunting rifles with the gigantic scope and night vision? You got it, TMom!!! I KNOW most guys like these things, but do I REALLY HAFTA like em too??!!....I don't want Him to HAFTA LIKE EVERYTHING that I'm into, so why do I??! I DO NOT expect him to go clothes shopping with me...NOPE, NOPE, NOPE..that is for ME ONLY!! because some men ( especially as they get older) seem to want the female equivalence of themselves...it is as if a woman is supposed to become a beer guzzling, hunting, fishing, 4 wheeling, hiking, camping, dirt bike riding, game watching partner who follows along in all the things he likes but is not supposed to have any interests of her own ...oh unless it's cooking, cleaning, sex side note: yes I realize there are women that do like to do these things..no I am not one of them I agree...I am not one of them either.

cajunman1985 Joined Thu 10/30/14 Posts: 160	Wed 08/19/15 08:30 AM
I have one.....why is it that a LOT of guys my age have all the "toys" and expect us women to "have the same likes"? (BEHAVE those of u who are thinking the WRONG toys!!!) you mean like fast cars, bass boats, fishing rods that line the garage wall and a 3000 dollar gun safe for his hunting rifles with the gigantic scope and night vision? when a man get s' up from dinner table without complimenting the meal or the cook and does not take care of his dirty plate..does that mean he is really just saying " please dear do not feed me anymore and let me starve or figure out how to cook for myself?" It could be that he is tired from work and wants to relax. It doesn't mean you are a bad cook.

cajunman1985 Joined Thu 10/30/14 Posts: 160	Wed 08/19/15 08:38 AM
I have one.....why is it that a LOT of guys my age have all the "toys" and expect us women to "have the same likes"? (BEHAVE those of u who are thinking the WRONG toys!!!) They could want a woman with same interests as themselves. Me personally I don't want a woman who likes everything I like. I want her to have her own interests. All guys need their guy time to do their own interests. What most guys want is a woman to love them for who they are and where they are at in life.

NorCalSwe Joined Sun 03/09/14 Posts: 2438	Wed 08/19/15 09:19 AM
I have one.....why is it that a LOT of guys my age have all the "toys" and expect us women to "have the same likes"? (BEHAVE those of u who are thinking the WRONG toys!!!) you mean like fast cars, bass boats, fishing rods that line the garage wall and a 3000 dollar gun safe for his hunting rifles with the gigantic scope and night vision? when a man get s' up from dinner table without complimenting the meal or the cook and does not take care of his dirty plate..does that mean he is really just saying " please dear do not feed me anymore and let me starve or figure out how to cook for myself?" Oh, yeah, like all those things. Pickup trucks...good. Love my boat...oh yes. Fishing...fantastic Guns...can't have enough and love shooting. Don't forget sports, planes, gadgets and building things. Also, theatre, movies, museums..... Yeah, I'd like to find a gal who likes at least likes some of these things. I hope I find some of her favorites interesting as well. As for cooking, I'm very happy to cook and we can do the washing up together. I ain't going shopping.

no1phD Joined Tue 01/07/14 Posts: 27442	Wed 08/19/15 10:10 AM
My answer to T/M question.. work clothes ,two or three times in a row... everyday street clothes.. just once... I have enough designer jeans and designer t-shirts.. so I never have to wear the same set twice within two Weeks.... dog licking the plate.. guilty.. leaving the empty toilet paper sleeve on the dispenser !.no I'm usually the one that has to change it out... I have GPS.. but I don't always use it... unless I absolutely have to.. when I finally realize I really don't know where I'm going..

Charles1962150 Joined Tue 03/13/12 Posts: 3403	Wed 08/19/15 11:18 AM
You want to know what women really want in a man? It's really very simple. They want a man who listens to them. They want a connection. They need a man that sees them as more than a sex object. Somebody who loves them for who and what they are. Somebody they can talk to about everything and nothing. They want their best friend. Someone they can feel close to. If a lot of guys would figure this out and truly give from their hearts, They would never, ever have to want for sex. Or ever have to worry about being alone. And just to lay another tidbit of knowledge out there. A man who thinks he is a good lover, but doesn't listen, Is only a good lover in his own mind. But a man that listens and tries to understand, Gets all he can handle. Hmmmm, I wonder how you have time to be on a dating site???? Hummmm? I don't. That's why I'm not on here but a few min at a time.

Annierooroo Joined Mon 10/20/14 Posts: 12552	Wed 08/19/15 11:38 AM
Why can't men multi task? Why does it take them longer to do a simple job?

cajunman1985 Joined Thu 10/30/14 Posts: 160	Wed 08/19/15 12:01 PM
Why can't men multi task? Why does it take them longer to do a simple job? Men are wired differently in our brains than women. We are thinking of many different things at one time which makes it hard for multi-tasking. Answer to second question: We want to get the job done right the 1st time and not have to do it again.

debbie1980 Joined Sun 09/09/07 Posts: 20487	Wed 08/19/15 12:05 PM
Why can't men multi task? Why does it take them longer to do a simple job? Men are wired differently in our brains than women. We are thinking of many different things at one time which makes it hard for multi-tasking. Answer to second question: We want to get the job done right the 1st time and not have to do it again. and sex would be one of those different things with most men?

Torgo70 Joined Fri 06/27/08 Posts: 27387	Wed 08/19/15 12:13 PM
Why can't men multi task? Why does it take them longer to do a simple job? Men are wired differently in our brains than women. We are thinking of many different things at one time which makes it hard for multi-tasking. Answer to second question: We want to get the job done right the 1st time and not have to do it again. and sex would be one of those different things with most men? I'll have you know I went a whole 10 minutes without thinking of sex!

debbie1980 Joined Sun 09/09/07 Posts: 20487	Wed 08/19/15 12:16 PM
Why can't men multi task? Why does it take them longer to do a simple job? Men are wired differently in our brains than women. We are thinking of many different things at one time which makes it hard for multi-tasking. Answer to second question: We want to get the job done right the 1st time and not have to do it again. and sex would be one of those different things with most men? I'll have you know I went a whole 10 minutes without thinking of sex! ha ha, wow. now im worried about you!

PacificStar48 Joined Tue 10/02/07 Posts: 13764	Wed 08/19/15 12:18 PM
Why is it when the going gets tough the guy ops out? Why is it hard for them to commit even in the tough times? Because many women are so desperate for a man they will take up with a guy regardless of his track record so they know they can get away with it. Why grow up if you don't have to?

Annierooroo Joined Mon 10/20/14 Posts: 12552	Wed 08/19/15 12:24 PM
Thanks for that Why do guys look like they are vacant when talking to them about a topic they started? Or is it their normal look?

Annierooroo Joined Mon 10/20/14 Posts: 12552	Wed 08/19/15 12:26 PM
Why can't men multi task? Why does it take them longer to do a simple job? Men are wired differently in our brains than women. We are thinking of many different things at one time which makes it hard for multi-tasking. Answer to second question: We want to get the job done right the 1st time and not have to do it again. and sex would be one of those different things with most men? I'll have you know I went a whole 10 minutes without thinking of sex! ha ha, wow. now im worried about you! Wow a whole 10 minutes. You broke a record.

debbie1980 Joined Sun 09/09/07 Posts: 20487	Wed 08/19/15 12:26 PM
Why is it when the going gets tough the guy ops out? Why is it hard for them to commit even in the tough times? Because many women are so desperate for a man they will take up with a guy regardless of his track record so they know they can get away with it. Why grow up if you don't have to? omg I wouldn't, but I know what you mean

debbie1980 Joined Sun 09/09/07 Posts: 20487	Wed 08/19/15 12:27 PM
Thanks for that Why do guys look like they are vacant when talking to them about a topic they started? Or is it their normal look? its their normal look

Annierooroo Joined Mon 10/20/14 Posts: 12552	Wed 08/19/15 12:29 PM
Oh that explains everything

debbie1980 Joined Sun 09/09/07 Posts: 20487	Wed 08/19/15 12:31 PM
Oh that explains everything yup.

PacificStar48 Joined Tue 10/02/07 Posts: 13764	Wed 08/19/15 12:33 PM
What I can not for the life of me figure out is if you Treat men with enough respect to tell them who you are, what you are about, and what you expect so they don't have to waste their time, or yours, they ignore everything you have said and try anyway to impress you when they don't have a chance in heck? Doesn't rejection hurt men?

Annierooroo Joined Mon 10/20/14 Posts: 12552	Wed 08/19/15 12:33 PM
Have you noticed how protective they are with a plate of food? . Its like you touch this lady and I will rip you head off. You would think it's the last lot of food they will eat.