So I have a good friend. We've known each other a while and she's honestly the one of the hottest women I've ever seen. So I text her the other morning just to say good morning and see what she's up to because she just 1> found out she was pregnant and 2> broke up with the babys daddy. She replies with "just woke up from a nap with a head full of dirt *** thoughts". Then proceeds to tell me how she's gonna go watch her favorite porn (Christ this is like a letters to penthouse letter lol) and play with herself because she needed to get off. I told her it wasn't fair and that she would soon have a guy pitching a tent (we share a very honest relationship lol). She asked for a pic. What followed was great. Leave it at that lol. Long story short, the next day she texts me how wrong it was, and how it can't happen again and we shouldn't talk about again. I didn't even initiate this!! How was it my fault. Now she's avoided me for 3 days. I didn't ask for this and now feel as though I lost a friend. How is this fair lol.

You got back what you gave.
Now you know why people hesitate to cross the 'friend' line.

I know right. It sucks, and I don't "give" often. Lesson learned I guess.

Well, you mentioned you thought she was hot, so I'm guessing on some level always wanted this to happen. Due to her situation she could have been texting because she is just freaked out at the moment and needed raffirmation. You took advantage of the situation. A real friend would have ignored that, told her, cool, go enjoy yourself, text me later.

Although, she enjoyed it at the time, now she feels embarrassed and stupid and contact with you just increases those feeling.

My suggestion, give her space and see what happens. But, yeah, you may have lost a friend.

If what she said is what you've written here, she didn't blame you. She just said it couldn't happen again.
And sorry to say, but if you value her as a friend, you shouldn't have engaged. You could and should have said that you value your friendship too much to risk it for a thrill.
You're an adult aren't you? You made that decision yourself and not with the head on your shoulders.
The girl prolly feels really awkward now, I take it she's going through a lot of emotional upheaval, pregnancy, breaking up, sexting with a friend.
I'd say let it slide, don't talk about it anymore, honour that request, and try to salvage your friendship.
It IS possible to do that. Been there, done that ... and in my case it was in the flesh. But we didn't let it ruin our friendship. We never talked about it anymore, there was no need. It was a mistake we both made. And we both acknowledged it was a mistake. And our friendship and connection ran so deep that we simply could move on.

Right on the money, boss! He wanted that from jump street. haha!

you thought with the wrong head this time.

I formally object to the op's name.


Yup...I know

hahahahahahahaha
Warring vanilla's!!!

I think she found a guy with a better picture

It's on!
The butterscotches submitted
before I was even warmed up.

Wow.

This is kind of sad.

You basically had the drunken one night mistake fling with a friend that is as common as body hair.

...But you didn't really get to have sex.

You just got to text.

It's like going to a bar, getting hammered, and having a one night stand.
Only not actually having sex, just sitting in a room with someone and each writing a letter about having a one night stand.


People get mad at themselves for doing something stupid and against who they think they are, and then take it out on others, all the time.


I don't see where it says she ever said it was your fault.


Which lesson is that, exactly?

One thing I find hilarious:

That's what perpetual victims say.
It's basically "I'm not getting what I want, and it's your responsibility to make it right for me!"
Emotional manipulation.
Mommy! Billy hit me! It's not fair!
Mommy! Jimmy got a cookie but I didn't, it's not fair!
Mommy! Davey gets to go but I don't, it's not fair!

This is why you have a friend zone. Anyone in your friend zone you don't cross the line with because this can happen

Those you think could have a possibility. Put them in the potential zone but you don't let them know
So far this works for me. Tread carefully

....and then randomly sexts a "friend". This girl has terrible decision making skills

Way to pick em Op....

you spent the night sexting with a chick who is supposed to be your friend
and just found out she is preggers and broke up with the baby daddy???

Haha

Agreed! Taking fully advantage of someone who is not in the right mind, this doesn't consider you as a friend to begin with.. Now you still trying to justify your actions which seems strange to me..

she just got pregnant. enough said she has a guy in her life. let her work on that relationship lovers have quarrels.