What is bad is that most guys are really nice at first- which makes us
leary of nice guys that are real.
That goes for both sexes really. There are so many emotionall "battered"
people out there and you can never tell whos real and whos not. It makes
us all alittle paranoid if you ask me!!
Which sucks cuz Mr or Mrs right could be in front of you and youd blow
it.

I hear ya greeneyes

well said green

your right

and I felt it comming too,,,been there done that...

i think that women like the bad guys and the challange of changing
them!!!!

I think it's the combination of both. Some women like them nice and some
like them bad. Me personally, I'm a nice guy with a small essence of bad
boy when it counts.

i have alot of luck telling the gals how it is!! alot of guys dont and
they Soon become a door mat!!!!

wisdom from my finger tips to your eyes.. It really comes down to nice
guy's are predictable...You go out of your way to make the girl happy,
always trying to predict what she is thinking and wanting to provide for
her every need, which usually also makes you as a nice guy worry about
what you say and do because you don't want the relationship to crash and
burn... basically what it comes down to is that if your always sweet
then after awhile its not specail and gets old. So my advice for nice
guys...Tone it down about, i don't mean be an asshole but don't put so
much effort into being the perfect guy, don't always go out of your way
for her, make time to do thing on your own, don't be to clingy, and grow
some fucking balls and tell her how it is sometimes...mix things up a
bit and and don't be afraid to try new things...

sometimes ya got to walk a fine line with women!

Punctual gals don't want to be kept waiting. I get PO'd if a guy isn't
there on time within a few minutes. Shows a lack of respect. A guy
only stands me up once too, then I move on. The wildest guy I know, is
also the nicest guy I know. Nice guys don't always finish last, except
in high school.

All of my life, I've been a nice guy, well adult life ok?
My problem has always been THE only place I have ever met woman was in
clubs or nightspots Always with drinking and then some
But I got alot of lovely women through being nice?
I may of had to try alot, a-l-o-t---- but still managed to get the one
I wanted?
Now the problem is one of my many one night stands could have been mrs.
right and I did'nt care then but now older and serching for love and all
with it? I don't do the clubs no more and im not that 24 year old stud?
So finding ladies here I do not believe nice or bad will win them but an
asshole cocky attatude would lose some?
Just feel your way into their thoughts and hearts?
Then share that love with you and her until ya die?
Sounds easy,Huh? LOL

its ok to be nice but dont be a sap i think im a pretty nice guy but
also im no fool.....its not that they badboys are atractive but the
confidence is the attractive part and it goes both ways like id like to
meet a nice girl but she has to be the type of girl who has self
confidence and knows what she wants ,likes or dislikes

All women luv bad boys, but its the nice ones we want to take home to
mama. (I heard that somewhere)

I have problems with the article but all in all thought it was good or I
wouldn't have posted it. I guess the big problem is reading when she's
ready for you to want to be her "all and everything" But then some just
play games for the fun of it too.
Dunno who might have read the posts I made when I 1st came here but the
short version of the story is..........
Met a girl, we hit it off. I was actually a little hesitant because of
past burns but she was persistant. When we met I was still in meeting
women mode. Took her a bit to convince me I didn't need to meet anyone
else. She said the L word 1st, I said it back and told her why I hadn't
said it 1st (fear)....
she told me she had fallen, and I told her I was falling fast.
things progressed, we started talking about her moving in......
I asked her to formally and she said yes.....
the next day she called me at work to tell me she had met someone a week
before and they had been talking (yes, even as we decided to live
together) and that she had a date with him that night.
Needless to say I was dumped after that date even though she told me the
guy flat out told her he didn't want a REAL relationship, his hobby is
going out on Sat night to see who he can pick up for a 1 nighter, he's
on proby for possesion, he tells her what a loser she is, she was
actually at his place visiting unnanounced one evening and one of his
other women showed up just as she was leaving yet she's still SOOOOOO in
love with him!
I'd say he qualifies as the bad boy and a jerk but this nice guy ended
up last to him nevertheless even when she freely admits that he's the
type she's always been attracted to and she can't explain it.

She was one of many out here who are F__KING NUTS!!!!!!!
Her love or what SHE THOUGHT was love was only in her weird mind but not
her weird heart? LOL?
I don't think you can text book that KIND of womam, but YOU can control
your hurt by NOT LETTING YOUR HEART fully open until you are through all
the feelings and love shown that takes awhile to happen? If she's real
time will not be a problem?
If she's NUTS she will move on? LOL Hopefully?????LOL
I've been there and it sucks or shall I say SHE A(MINE) sucked?
Everyone except mine? LOL?

But if you're attracted to her and falling, and you hesitate you risk
blowing it too. It seems like a can't win situation!

Well now if your attracted to them and the feeling is mutual then
waiting to be sure would not be an issue for either. For it is best to
know that the attraction is there for both first. If you are in a one on
one relantionship and enjoy each others company then you just have to
take one day at a time. For there are no sure ways of knowing till it is
brought up how each really feels about the other.

I'm attracted to nice men what lady wouldnt be but as said most men are
nice until you meet them then they turn into this evil man and it mess's
up everything you once had.

sure dont seem like it