I am interested in knowing why only older men are interested in dating me. Where I live, it is mainly guys in their 60's that approach me. I have lived different places in my life and even in my 20's, guys in their 60's and 70's hit on me. I know that because they tell me their age sometimes, or I can just tell by looking at them. Most men and women where I live think I am a lot younger so I don't understand why I can't find someone closer to my age. Any thoughts by anyone?

well one your very beautiful,two some men have no respect i guess,,hope you find your young man..but if not,let me know.this old guy would sooo date you..LOL,,just kidden.

pretty simple to answer that since i'm in that older man
age group. you're very attractive, no children or pets
and being unemployed, you may be more inclined to relocate.
then, what man my age wouldn't want to have a good looking
younger woman on his arm and it gives a man an incentive
to act younger than his own age. tos fantasy for most.
good luck, my town is much the same, younger women, older men.

I'm 48. That's not really young. I date guys in their 60's, but I'm not involved with anyone now. I will date younger too, but I don't seem to get that option. I'm not saying older men are not attractive, I just wish at least sometimes that I had a choice.

I agree with nascar you are very attractive but it must be the way you communicate with them. As men(myself included) age you become more attracted to other things besides the physical.You come to the realization that life is really about your connection to someone. You must possess a certain mature content in the way you express yourself.I can't speak for the men that wanted to date you when you where in your 20's and they where in their 60's and 70's that is a little odd but the age you are now, If I was you I would take it as a compliment.

I am a little younger than you and my cut off is 49, with exceptions, of course. That's because I have never been married and have no children, highly educated, well traveled, so my standards are higher than someone who has children and been married multiple times. I have less baggage to bring into the relationship. Older men like younger women but they also like youthful women and women who look good. You look good so they gravitate to you. As for why the younger men don't approach you, I find that hard to believe. Maybe there is a higher population of available older men where you live.

Well, I was married for a very short period of time and I have no children. People who don't know me approach me while I'm reading the newspaper. Now I live in a small town so There those who are divorced once or twice, and even widowed, so most likely I will meet older men.People don't know how educated I am or how much I have traveled.

First impressions are your youthful looks. They dig you. Then it goes from there.

So I think I have an answer to your question..When I was in my thirties I dated older women...just attracted to them and now that I am in my fifties I am attracted to younger women....but 60's and 70's wow now that's a little overboard wouldn't you think!!!!

If I lived in your area I would date you. It shows that women without childeren keep younger and brighter.

Well, I think I have mostly gotten my answer here, that most men want to date younger. I don't think it is unreasonable for me to want to date men who around 45 to 58 years old and that is not written in stone.

A woman in her 40's who looks good and youthful and has no baggage also brings to the relationship intelligence, experience and intellect, something which a woman who is half that age lacks. Even if a middle aged man is initially attracted to a barely legal woman, he will grow weary of her when he realizes that her intellect is on a much lower level than himself. All she can ever be is a booty call. A real man and an intelligent one craves a woman who is on the same level or higher with him in intelligence and intellect. You need to "turn on his mind" more than anything else for him to stay with you. That is where the older youthful woman with no baggage has an edge and an advantage over all the rest, including the younger women.

I second that....

Wow I am sorry I can't believe you're 48. I thought early 30s

Man, bottle that cream and send it my way

Thank you. That picture was from December. I don't think I look that young. Most people just seem to comment on my height. I have to say that I am kind of selfconscious of my height.

this is not an uncommon phenomenon, it's also what makes actually finding the right connection so special.

at the very lest, enjoy the fact that the frogs are still jumping...

possible princes?

From a Melmacian perspective, there isn't anything wrong with your height.

Maybe it's just a stereotype but it seems the obvious answer is:
1. Men your age are already married and in the middle of their family.
2. Men your age are divorced from women your age so want someone different.
3. Men your age put off having kids and family and want women nowhere near menopause in order to possibly have kids and a family.
4. Men your age never got married and are just wanting to perpetually date those they find the most sexually appealing.


Where I grew up it was men in their 60's and up that approached all women, they wanted the attention, they wanted to know they weren't just old men, sexless, undesirable, bags of old flesh, just hanging around. So they flirted, tried to pick up, anything without a penis.


You did when you were 20.
You have a shelf life in all things.
Career, relationship.
The older you get, the more your available choices just shrink, your dating pool goes from an ocean to a kiddie pool.


People don't really care. That was simply your choice of what to do with your life.
Those aren't really all that important, in comparison to a lot of other things.

Older men liking younger women...old news and evolutionarily it makes sense.

Now my mom caught herself a guy who is 13 years younger than her. GO MOM!!!!

I remember driving my great grandpa into town when he was 93 so he could go into the local diner and pinch the young waitresses behinds. Poor girls, used to roll their eyes when they saw him come in. I'd just shrug my shoulders and make the "What could I do?" face.