So as OP says she's from SA. And to London?





Sensible post. the 'rush me & see' bit. from Alaska!
it's ok, just 5000kms to London.
hmm, so where does earth end?


Aha, found it. NZ; 18,764kms from London

Woman, I'm closer, just 11,000kms
hurry up.

What's the rush? In my opinion you should let it unfold much more and really think about it. You need to really see and understand what the guy is all about. His lifestyle, work, demeanor,environment as all of these things will play into your life. Even his quirks and habits.( and everyone has them)

There are other considerations. You will be far from your family and friends, your culture will be different. And adjustments do not happen over night. While these things are certainly things that people overcome (all the time) they are still factors to consider.

Even things such as his finances, can play a major part in your life. Is he heavily in debt? is he o.k, with money? finances? I know that may sound a bit cold, but not as cold as finding out "Mr. Right" is broke and owes out a fortune.. and you already moved in.

Moving 1/2 way around the world is a big decision..just have your eyes wide open JMO

Good luck.

He is putting his priorities first. Finish your degree. You need to look after you.
A good man will support his partners dreams and ambitions, not discourage or try to stop them.
This would be a red flag to me.
Rushing things, the second red flag.
You are right to doubt and you also would be making yourself extremely vulnerable to go where you have no support.

Firstly do not rush complete your degree.

since he has to come in your country for business purpose, wait to see him including his business partners in your country
after that you will gain more idea

how far is it to the nearest chocolate emporium?


and on topic it has pretty much all been cover you should go as far as needed but in you own time not according to a forced agenda

That would depend entirely upon how far I would understand the meaning of the term LOVE to be...!

That makes all your past elucidation on Love & Soul, (which you put us through with your Vivekananda posters); decadent.

So let this Monkey bring it to the table:

Simply said,Love is a soul in bikini you would like to hang around ur neck when you go for those high powered meetings.

In other words, it exists.

Have you tried asking him how far HE'D go to be with YOU? I think you need to know. It shouldn't only be about what HE wants when he wants. You should be allowed enough time to make desicions. I just hope he isn't one of them narcissists who snap when they don't get everything their way. What about that old saying "Time will tell"?

London eh? I hear they drive on the wrong side of the road over there. Eh....nuff said.

As far as the eye can see,
As high as the hands can reach,
As deep as the heart can feel,
As much as you can be.



Helen launched a thousand ships
Shah Jahan built a monument
Penelope warded off a hundred suitors
Edward abdicated the throne



Great love hath no bounds...
But reckless love has its limits...
What makes for great stories can have tragic ends..
But some tragic beginnings can lead to great endings.



As for distance...maybe compromise up to halfway point...with an agreeable timetable..

i heard the same thing about the U.S :

Pansytilly,

Wow, I remember feeling like that. I'm not completely jaded and cynical...I know it'll come around again and hit me like a speeding Mack truck. Especially with me camped out in the middle of the freeway and all...

But as far as the OP goes, look for a middle ground, for sure. You probably shouldn't make a snap judgment and give up everything you're working and studying for, and he shouldn't get hot under the collar for telling him so. Learn each other some more and get really familiar. I would hate to see you just "jump", and him not totally be there to "catch" you...

Better than jumping plane in the middle of nowhere without a parachute....

Yup..logical reasoning and sound judgement is useless with out that common feeling in between...

Which is why .....a well compromised halfway point + proper timing =

I fail to understand:

(a) How my Vivekananda posters are connected to what I wrote/typed earlier on in this particular thread.

(b) To the best of my 'retention ability', I don't remember having posted 'a single' Vivekananda poster pertaining to 'love' and 'soul', here in Mingle. However, if I were to assume for the sake of simplicity, that I have, then how does my earlier post in this particular thread, render 'those' to be decadent?



This particular post of yours, Mr. Jaigi (the 'one' under reply) reminds me of a H.M.Tomlinson quote which I may 'appropriately' place here for your perusal: We see things NOT as 'they' are; But as 'we' are!


Good Luck!

I'll have you know sir that we do everything the right way here in the U.S......even balance our budget.

To Opie,
As you have a standing invitation a job with the airlines,
cruise-lines, health care could be a good preparation.
Health care?
With those stirring looks, you could manage even me.
Best of Luck



Mr. Kastauv,
For harsh words,I apologize.

With reference to your earlier posts, by Vivekananda I meant 'hallowed'.
In this thread, the particular tongue in cheek comment is not in alignment
with your earlier posts. If you stand by this comment, then past history
is compromised.

But your gentle rebuke has made me realize that instead of attacking your thread I took to 'burning down the village'. That's some rethinking I
have to do. You have exposed my Achilles Heal and Tomlinson is right.

Meantime, the attack is still on, this time in rhyme...

You, our poet, expanding on love
till our lust is scorched and our souls bleached

and lo, a waif wafts by in bikini squire
"what is love", you enquire?

Sir, you ground her flight
stroll on the Bridge,
with Mingle's friends
in UK's town?

"Depends", you say, "on what it is?"
So as dust, must she desist?
With fear; desire
like fire run down?

You would give her the Book
when she needs a gun?

Best regards,
JaiGi

If you are not prepared to relocate, then you are wasting both your time and his time, and you need to tell him as soon as possible. From what you have said, there seems little point in you pursuing a relationship with anyone not living close to where you live.

However, if you are prepared to relocate, I think you first need to meet the guy, since no amount of Skype calls, telephone calls and emails are a substitute for meeting them in person. If you have another year of study and he often visits your country on business, then you should have enough time together for you to discover if you like him enough to relocate. As others have said there is no rush, 'Marry in haste, repent at leisure', is an old proverb.

Mr. JaiGi,


Although, I seldom judge people (for the sole reason that whenever I've endeavored to point a finger at someone, I've found (to my 'utter dismay'), those remaining 4 fingers, pointing back at me), I accept your apology, with 'equal' sincerity of heart, as the one with which, it's been extended/offered. I might be 'requesting' one of those 'site-moderators' some day, to arrange for a 'hand-shake' smiley here in Mingle. Would have treated it as my privilege & honor to have had the opportunity to have 'shaken hands' with you, at this very juncture.


I read each and every word of your 'post' and admit that I'm actually 'smiling', in sheer appreciation of that enviable command/grasp you possess over your 'expressions of thoughts and words'..Rare do I encounter such 'articulateness' and 'candor'.. Splendid. And so was 'that' short 'poem' Apt & Beautiful.


Now, regarding the 'fight' that continues, as 'you' said..Well, there's no conflict.. no 'such' issue, as I 'see'..

I'll present here, an 'Allison' poem for your reading:





LOVE REMAINS



Love that stands the test of time,
Endures the greatest pain;

Standing firm against the storm,
And yet, still love remains.


A calm among the storm tossed winds,
A peace down deep inside;

Will keep that faith alive and strong,
As long as love abides.


Love that conquers anything,
Knows only how to give;

Asking nothing in return,
A love that will forgive.


It looks past any sorrow,
Much stronger than the wind;

The faith that stands the storms of life,
Will be there in the end.


Faith that's given everything,
With nothing left to gain;

Will find the strength to give yet more,
When only love remains.



[Allison Chambers Coxsey - �1995 ~ All Rights Reserved]




What I wanted to 'convey' through 'that' post of mine (the 'one' that you quoted at the very inception in this particular thread),is, if someone 'sees' & 'experiences' LOVE in similar lines, as the feelings portrayed in the above poem, then, this finite Earth & its ensuing Geographical/Physical parameters/distance, shouldn't serve as a deterrent to either of the lovers, in any way whatsoever..!


I hope that I could 'finally' explain myself, albeit I wasn't blessed with the gift of the gab, ever!



Regards,


Kaustuv!

Thank u all for ur comments. I must say u all opened my eyes as i was blinded by love. U all right, i should get to know him first before making decisions that will most certainly affect my entire life. Thanx once again

Kaustuv and Jaigi, get room, you two. Get a room already.