Doh.. you were being cute, but now you ruined it all ...
lol

not really, I normally say that to women who think they are desirable, good looking, and intelligent. It protects their fragile egos, and is nicer than the truth, which is normally,

they are not as good looking as they think, and are arrogant for no reason,

they pretend that they're wanted by all men, and read things into everything. .they are delusional.

they think they are really intelligent, but can't figure out how to pump their own gas....

so instead of saying all that, I just say they deserve better...knowing that they think this as well in their delusion world

Well, that could very well be true, Isaac. But those are the women which you met.

I would go with everything you say except for seeing how insecure the men were in my life. If they had been confident in the relationship, I would have gone with your view. But they were weak and insecure.

you inspired this topic, now I won't hijack; this thread lol
http://m.mingle2.com/topic/show/439222

I inspire so many topics here. Is this yet another topic about me? J/k

I posted on it.

A guy or girl can be nice and sweet but it doesn't mean the opposite sex is attracted as in there's no chemistry. It's the soft way of saying kiss off bugger. lol.

That said, I've made a few good male friends where the chemistry physically wasn't there but we were great at talking and interacting.

If the "nice" person can handle a friends only situation then fine. If not, that person put in the friends zone needs to run away. It isn't going to change.

Edited for off-topic.
Kindly refrain from attacking other members.

soufie
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I agree with your statement Isaac , The only thing I would expand on it would be it also applies to men as well. Having retired from the restaurant bar Biz after 20 years I have actually watched this happen. The self promoters who claim, I am to good looking, rich, smart etc etc. for someone usually end up alone.Some I have watched are actually what they claim to be attractive ,rich ,smart people but they are so self absorbed and it usually points to a early exit in relationships. The self promotion is a defense mechanism to ease the rejection they received. However I think where Richard 1979 is concerned he is just in a friend zone and needs to look elsewhere for romance.

I think this is the most likely meaning ^^^

I would add that the woman's thoughts were probably tinged with sadness because she was not attracted to you in a more romantic way, but if you are looking for romance, you are going to have to look elsewhere in my opinion.

Sometimes it can mean that they don't see you as boyfriend material for them and you're not the sort of guy that they would have a fling or one night stand with because they think you want or deserve more than that.

Good one. And to flip this around just a little, she may mean that she sees you wanting a serious relationship, but all she can offer IS a one night stand. A romp may go down, but she doesn't see anything longterm happening. My two cents.

there are any Ladies outside there who really want to be love but when thy got the right women they would totally change to the man and treat the man badly why is it like that

Hi there
All I'm going to say is chivalry is dead and it makes me sad ,I often go out of my way to do things for ladies at work or wherever and 9 times out of 10 it isn't appreciated or they think you think they can't do it for themselves ,for example today it was pissing down and I saw a female colleague getting ready to run to her car so I thought I'll get her an umbrella so she doesn't get her papers soaked ,so I run up to her with said umbrella and said "here you are ,don't want to get wet and cold" she just said "no thanks" and walked in the pouring rain to her car ,I actually felt like a fool and a little embarrassed ,and I don't quite understand why it is this way nowadays ,
I try to be mr nice and look where it gets you ,usually nowhere (let's be clear ,I don't do these things to get laid or whatever) ,I do them because it feels good and I believe woman/ladies should be treated that way ,and I will continue to do so whatever reaction I get ,
although maybe I'll try the "treat em mean keep em keen " trick and see how that pans out (not) anyway it's a tough world we live in nowadays you just need to do your best be your best and hopefully attract the best ,
hope I made sense at all ,it's my first post so be nice :)

After reading again I may have taken it out of context ,my post may not apply to what you said ,sorry

he is right op try not to get to involved with her ... or unless u know to stay on the friend level... an are ok with that ...