polson, coming home home crippled or disabled doesnt change who you are unless you let it...if you are truely loved, you are still loved..that's simply physical...love is so much more

Be honest with your feelings...prayers for you both

I agree with Sean... the homelife is one of the biggest distractions. You can be his bestest friend, but I would wait until he returns home to make any sort of commitment or to tell him how you truely feel. You don't need him to be over there and worrying if you're alright over here.

Listen to the Solider, I think he would know better then any of us, he has lived it from Kyle's side of things, where the rest of us giving advice either don't know what it's like, or are talking from the wife/ girlfriend stand point, which is not in the Soliders best interest, even though we may feel like it.

It's a tough subject, it really is. I know you'll do what is right for your Solider!

I would wait to tell him what's really going on if he's being deployed..As an ex wife of a 23yr vet and sister/mom/Aunt/cousin to more I have to say it would be selfish to make this guy lose his concentration and get hurt because he was not focused on his job..Ask him if you can write him or something but, Try to keep it simple and uplifting...Never ever make them worry while on deployment and there is alot you can do while he's gone..Many programs availiable to ppl who care. get with the Family Support Group of the deployed and they can tell you exactly what they need you to do..Good Luck!!

Oh ouchie, how could i forget the support groups! that is a great idea! I was on the board of the support group at the armory when my ex was deployed. They are made up of family and friends of other Soliders, and are a great support.

Emails are a great tool, and lots and lots of mail! One of my friends save articles out of the newspaper daily, and wrote little notes with them, if it was a comic, she wrote why she was sharing it. She made sure to mail something daily. I made sure to email or send an instant message daily.

Some of the Soliders on here would be able to tell you better then I what they would want mailed to them, but we send fun stuff like halloween goodie bags, easter baskets, each holiday we sent something, for their birthdays, we would send a package to their roommate, in the package would be decorations, candles, party favors, a present, and something for a cake, I used hostess mini brownies. In the package, was a note that instructed the room mate what to do! it was a blast! the guys had fun with it.

You can do so much to let him know you care without revealing your feelings yet.

Boy this is a tough one.

You must beyond adoubt support him, fighting for ones country is truly a noble endeavor, and when the fight is also a righteous one for the preservation of the american way of life then it is an honorable cause as well, to have loved ones support and stand by you in such endeavors is an unmeasurable act of faith and love.

I would pray for him every single day, that God watches over him and then he returns to you as blessed as before he left, there really is not much more you can do aside from that.

Good luck.

I believe that situations where we have no control can lead us to seek out a higher power. God had to cripple Jacob to teach him that he couldn't depend upon himself. God had to put Jonah into the belly of a sea creature to make Jonah carry out his mission. Sometimes we have to be broken by greif before we will seek out God as our source of strength. My suggestion to you would be to tell your friend about your feelings, it's possible that he feels the same way about you. And then place your trust in God to keep your friend safe and bring him home in one peice. Good luck and God bless.

Hummm well this is the first time I came back and looked at this thread after I made this statement below:


Thu 10/11/07 08:27 PM
Sean is right what ever road you take just support him 100% it's a hard cruel world for them they need the support beyond anything.

But............ if it was me I say tell him girl there is nothing worse than the feeling of really liking someone and something happens and you never told them been there done that and it is a hard price to pay


After I made that statement this is the one seanusmc26 made:


but txsgal that is selfish,you thing about what you would miss out on..you sit at home where it is safe..WE PUT OUR LIVES ON THE LINE EVERY SECOND OF THE DAY.that is all it takes for you to lose your life..LOVE HIM WITH ALL YOUR HEART!!!but does his mind need to be on a beautiful girl or those that are tring to kill him...you cant be selfish with someone else life on the line...


Sean I disagree with you on this for if you love him and plan on being there to support him then he should know that. You know I have talked with several men in the past and all pretty much say the same thing its sad to be over there in an unknown country and to feel as if NO ONE IN THIS COUNTRY IS THERE FOR YOU. Many have all said the same thing that the things that keep them going on is the thought of getting back in the arms of the ones they love.

The things that cloud there minds that they don't need is to worry about things that are happening over here they have no control over.Fighting with a spouse or kids family problems. Being dumbed by there partner. But never because they know they are being thought of or loved and to know they are supported.

That I don't consider as being selfish besides when was it ever selfish to give love?

I do SUPPORT OUR TROOPS MY FLAG IS OUTSIDE EVERYDAY TO REMIND ME THAT I GET TO COME HOME EVERYDAY I ALSO HAVE A FRIEND THAT I MET HERE ON JSH.

He is out on ship and I make sure I send him jokes, e-mails etc why cause he is divorved kids are still little and he felt as if he was alone had no one to say thank you hang in there all those things that we all need to keep our minds from becomimg depresses. You see just to have a friend that does those things is better than no one at all.

Can you put yourself in the place of that soldier sitting there getting no e-mails no letters from back home and here next to him is one that gets all these great letters from family, friends and loved ones back home.

But I still stand with telling him if you truly love him and will stand behind 100% .

But then that is my opinion would love to hear what others say that have been there and there thoughts.