its too bad nobody my age is as mature as you all

Cory i feel your pain. I cant find my special man (not that im really looking) either. The guys I have talked to and have dated cant get past that I will always be there for my grandma! I have had to break a date or two because of her. I have even lost a guy for her, but thats his loss not mine. Your special lady is out there just give her time to find you.

It took a year of bar hoppin, drugs, and alcky to realize that I was takein the wrong road. After the wife left, I was in such a rush to find someone. Im now known here where I live as Tha Dogg! Well, Now, Im not looking, if she's out there, shell find me. Times Change, and so do us people! Hang in there dude,,, your match awaits you!

Lots of time we look to other people for healing. Maybe you should get into some meditation, or something else that calms you and grounds you. Then, when your inner self is more stable, you can attract someone who will be a plus to you. Right now, you're only going to attract a 'fixer'-- lots of women like to fix men.

Really, happiness is within. Then once you've got that down, it makes it a lot less pressure for someone to come into your life, and be a part of it.

<Obi-Wan Kenobi speaking...>

Patience, young Jedi!

The force is strong, but you are not yet ready...



Relax and enjoy life! It will happen when you least expect it!

Good luck!

its just so hard to be happy with yourself in todays society

hey we all wish we could find "the one" and few of us do! it took me 17 years to realize that while looks get you noticed, your personality is what makes you remembered. you can see my pic I'm nothing special to look at, but it doesn't stop me. there is this kid who is one of my subs who when he was 16 him and some of his friends were screwing around wuth fire crackers in the back of a car when the box blew up catching the car on fire and he ended up with 3rd and 4th degree burns all over his body I mean he looks like something a shark ate and threw up, scarred horribly. he said it took a few years for him to get over the bitterness and fear of people looking at him, but today he carries on like the rest of us it doesn't bother him anymore. the point is don't get down on yourself. true this is you were talking about but there is always some one worse off than you.

i know there's always someone who has it worse than you do, but it doessnt help much. its like... you know your not as bad off as you could be, but its herd to put yourself in someone elses shoes when you have problems of your own. i'm not trying to be shallow or whatever it is, but you know i'm glad i wasnt born with, whats it called? treachers?

cory let me share something with u. when my husband was about 23 he had a bad accident involving a tv. (yes a tv) anyway the entire end of his nose got sheared off. he was take to the emergency room and instead of calling in a platic surgeon they just closed a flap of skin over the end of his nose and stitched it down. needless to say he has kind of a wierd nose. he is very self concious about it, but i think it is SEXY AS HELL!!! he talks sometimes about getting a nose job to fix it but i wont let him, its part of his story part of who he is. and i wouldnt change it for a min.

tell me something, how old are you?

29

exactly, you're mature enought o handle it, most women my age arent

I have also had a hard time finding the right person for me, it has been easy finding the wrong ones, but the thing I always tell myself when I am in the dumps because I am single is. I would rather be alone then with someone who isnt for me just not to be alone because in the long run if you are with someone who isnt the one for you, then you are actually loney anyway. Have faith and it will come to you!

have u considered dating an older girl then. theyre much better in bed anyway since they know what theyre doing. and some older girls really love to take care of their younger guy. maybe your just shopping in the wrong isle sweetheart.

i HAVE asked the older women, but hte ones i have found didnt want me because i wasnt old enough or they already had someone else in mind

Cory I do not know how baaaddd the scars are but just like the others have said beauty is only skin deep. Post in the forums and let the gals find out who you are on the inside and the outside will not matter. If someone is only looking at the outside they are superficial and not worth the time anyway, and yes I am one of the older ones on this site, and I read your profile and it was good. Relax, good things happen in time, and not always in our time. Take care and have fun here.

not being a smart ass but have considered counciling or seeing a therapist to help you get through this hard awkward time in your life. I mean seriously this will pass but you have to let go of your insecurities first.

and another thing you ask people how old they are and then say exactly when you find they're older. exactly is right we are older and we've lived it and are telling you it's not the end of the world.

cory, I read your profile and if it were me, I would take the part out about your fighting etc.....scars? who doesnt have a few......

yes we are all full of scares its just how we end up dealing with them in the end cory