I find this difficult to answer. How about you folks? :)

both...see, that was easy!

.. easy my career.... what is love.. if that is all you have..... and besides I love my career.... but you need balance...hmmm... and if you are reading this right now..lol.. and you know who you are..lol.. I'm working on it..lmao

Haha. I forgot to mention say, you only need one. :D

True. I personally think you need balance. But sometimes our world is too shitty unfair. In the end you can't have both. Either one will create complications on the other. :D

Love is nice.
But, it didn't buy land or houses for
Me.

well then according to you! there is no right or wrong.. answer.... it is like asking.. if you could only have one..
food or air..... either way you are screwed..lol

Well, I think career and love are too different things and unlike food and air which is a requirement for human beings to live, you can live w/o it. Hahaha, a little bit mind exercise won't hurt anybody.

Hahaha, I always find it funny when the song "Love will keep us alive" play on the radio. Damn musicians had their heads in the air.

complications do not cancel one or the other out. that is why we have compromise. life is filled with it, so do the best you can to enjoy all of the things you desire...

Yes..lol.. but the only equation . that needs to be applied is balance...
. too much of NE one good thing is still too much....yes..

love

Your optimism is admirable.

Nice!

True.

i'm not much of an optimist, i'm a realist.
love alone cannot make you happy. career alone won't do it either.
a big plate of lasagne can go a long way, but hard as it may seem, even that only last so long, so what you have to do is find fulfillment in the totality of life, not in the self-imposed limits.

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I'm a little confused here. Do you mean 'love', ' marriage' ,or ' marriage & a family " ?

I had to Google where you are, because, in the USA a young woman may not even pose the question.

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Negros_Occidental

Most Americans want it all. And women your age have so many choices. Most put off marriage, until about 24 & having children about 30 yrs old & older now. (Here in USA, middle/ upper middle class)

Even at my age, ( old ), I married at 22. But did NOT want children until I was 30. * had 2 & was voluntarily steriled *
That was the right decision for me.

My best advice is, to ask any woman. " What will you regret later? " & " Will you resent a man, because you made either decision?"
* Rhetorical*

Having done both, I would say a career is much easier
to maintain if your love life is steady.

I really only work for love

I could survive on very little if I only had myself to care about,,,so jobs could come and go

but because I have family depending upon me, I need a career to provide their wants and needs


so, when it was just me, I would choose love
but now that I have family, I have to choose career and sacrifice love to ensure they have what they need

Ideally, Id prefer to be a a part of a team, where the other person worried about career so I could focus on 'love'

I'd choose love. I function at my best, when I'm in a relationship. Not to say that I'm useless when I'm single. I just function BETTER when I'm in love.