What drives you more crazy? That you're not with them? Or that they're with someone else?

mostly that Im not with them because I take marriage seriously and wonder what we may have become together had we worked hard through the infidelity

neither
that they have someone and i dont lol
so far i have all ways wished them the best of luck and i mean it

i would rather they be with someone else rather then be with me and be with someone else : )

IDK. I think I 'd rather be with someone who wants to be with me, that's about all, really

I'm not sure that there is a wrong answer. I posted this because I'm genuinely curious. I find myself going back and forth. I guess it bugs me more that she's with someone else. I don't know what that says about the relationship that we had!

I'm not sure that there is a wrong answer. I posted this because I'm genuinely curious. I find myself going back and forth. I guess it bugs me more that she's with someone else. I don't know what that says about the relationship that we had!

I think for me when I broke up with my EX in the beginning it was because I missed what I thought we had at one time...I didn't miss what we had become.
Then when he replaced me before the sheets had time to dry that bothered me because I was so easily replaced..
Now I just wish him well...

I can definitely relate with that.

well when i caught my x wife cheating on me , and then the other guys after we had devorced ,or the now 3rd husband she has ... it don't bother me none at all , i wish them the best of luck

better them then me lol
i dont miss or get crazy when i take a bag of trash out to the curb <shrug>

i do find it very funny that her 2nd husband she found out was cheating on her : )
is nice when i hear the karma bus makes its rounds

I love the karma bus comment. Sitkarains, I think when someone gets someone that quickly, it is a reflection on them. That they can't just be alone because they are insecure. But, it still can hurt like a ***** because they are not hurting like you are. But, They are never okay, because they have to have someone to be okay and you don't. You are strong enough to go through the pain without someone to hold your hand. I never thought I would be saying that. Break ups hurt less than they did because I know I will be okay. When I was a young person, I thought I would never get over the pain and boy did it hurt!

Oh don't get me wrong this has been years ago and I did the best thing ever I forgave him for the abuse and the cheating... I have been so happy for years but dang in the beginning it was hell...
Now I have heard through the grapevine he is alone again and well that is sad. He will never find peace and happiness because he can't see what if anything he ever did was wrong..
To me that is what is really sad...

My last relationship a wonderful man we just brought out the worst in each other. We are great friends to this day because we realized we just couldn't make it as a couple... better to wish someone well instead of going through the angst.

doesn't say anything about it. It's a different relationship that for some reason she wants now. People are funny that way...grass is greener and so. I don't like those types, though

I know sitkarains, because you met a good guy on here. Good for you. Is n't it nice to be in a good place now and on the other side of that pain from the past? Hallelujah!

I also give you credit for being able to forgive someone who hurt you. I have a hard time doing that. Even though I know forgiving and letting go gives you so much more peace. Sometimes it is just hard to do.

I learned a long time ago that feelings get hurt all the time. I have been done wrong, and I have been the one who broke up with someone. Neither feeling is good and you are either asking yourself "Why?" or you are feeling like chit cause you know you hurt someone. But in the end.....life moves on and it is up to everyone to pick up their pieces and move along.

Married twenty all said and done

he was dating and married within first year after the divorce. pissed me off after hearing "You are love of my life"for all those years but then I thought he is yours to deal with now woman.
actually I told my kids I have nothing against her. she is nice woman who married a used car salesman who probably gave her quite con job on what a great guy he is
they were married a year in march and she just served him with divorce papers this week

The way people actually drive?
I was going 50 in a 40 driving down a residential street, I was the slowest person on the road, and I was passed by two cops, who were also being passed, and then this tricked out honda broken muffler sounding car whizzed by like they were in fast and the furious and had to weave through traffic like they were being chased by the chinese mafia (cops still did nothing, they pulled into quicktrip).

That drives me more crazy than anything.

I think I am just going to start driving for miles with my blinker, start drifting around, and make left hand turns from the right lane after slamming on my brakes first.
Maybe if I drive like an elderly snowbird traffic will be less scary.


Oh, sorry, this is one question rather than three separate ones.
Whoops.

Neither of those options drive me all that crazy.
1. When I break up with someone, or get broken up with, I don't maintain or allow any contact with them.
So I have no idea if they ever meet someone else.
Maybe I'm lucky that I've never been left for somebody else though. Maybe that's a common thing. I don't know.

2. Not being with them doesn't drive me crazy. Breakups have never come out of the blue. I was never in a relationship that was totally perfect and BAM, it ends.
Again, maybe I'm lucky.

A little of both. I will miss being with her and what we once had, but I can't go back and wouldn't if I could. I told her in the beginning to always seek happiness and she did. The fact that she is finding it with someone I know does hurt a little. Known him as long as I knew her. Hes a very likable and fun guy for a man whore. So for now he makes her happy...so good luck to them both.

My ex-wife always told me I was her "Handsome Prince". Funny thing is that the guy she left me for is now her "Handsome Prince" and that she had to kiss a few frogs to find him. I'm sure I was that for her back when she and I had a great relationship. And that is how love is....it is fleeting (not always, but sometimes it is). I learned a lot from my divorce.....especially that sex was better when it wasn't with her.

Haahaa
he told his whole side family
I must have been going thru
mid life crises mental break down
can't wait to hear what he tells them this time around
that's two divorces in three years
woooowee might be some kind record