Topic: I need a Dom ...
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Wed 05/27/15 03:59 PM
A strong, empowered man who knows what he wants and wouldn't be deterred by a strong empowered, but sassy, bratty woman.

Why would a strong, empowered man who knows what he wants (and as described by the OP) be attracted to a strong empowered woman (as described by the OP)?

To me that sounds like a recipe for constant competition or games.

I can see sociopaths, gay people seeking beards, and those whose goal is on anything but having a loving relationship seeking unity of like creatures in order to make a power couple.

If the ultimate goal was politics, some kind of anti government social justice and real change movement, or some kind of family business (or compound like branch davidians) I could see a guy being attracted to that, but it would be a relationship not focused at all on the relationship except as a means to the other goal, the relationship ultimately being just another tool to fulfilling their egos.

And add in sassy and bratty? Lively, bold, spirited, and badly behaving childish behavior? That's the definition of those words.

It's like saying "I want a father figure. I want to act like a spirited child that can do anything I want, but I want daddy to see me and treat me as his equal, but still as his child...when I need it, or want it," and IME usually with the added "and he must naturally know where the divisions lie," which (IME) almost always translates to "guy must learn/know how I communicate, without requiring any real effort for me to learn how he communicates."

A guy looking for that kind of relationship would be rare indeed.
Especially online. As most "strong empowered man who knows what he wants" go out and get what they want, directly, under their own control and power, or goes after what they want from those around him, direct experience.
And if they're into being the daddy figure? Wanting bratty and spirited energetic behavior? The younger the woman the better.

Also, I don't think they would be attracted to internet dating at all, where it's mostly sitting around waiting for emails that may or may not come.

The internet is the great equalizer. It doesn't matter at all how strong or empowered you are here. It's all just black words on white background.
People that are truly strong and empowered tend to avoid situations and mediums that take away their strengths and depower them.

It's like looking online for someone that wants to spend their days swimming in the ocean, and every night looking at the stars.

May all sound a bit weird to some

At least to me it sounds no more weird than anyone else that has a recipe for their idealized mate.

There's a ton of profiles on all dating sites that are far more detailed on what they want, and what/who the other person has to be in order to give them what they want.

A lot of people come on here as though it's a restaurant, don't see what they want on the thumbnail menu, so put their order in via their profile (or the forums "where's the milfs that want a younger guy? Where's the bi dudes that want a three way? Where's the REAL men?), and then sit back waiting for someone to bring it to them.

Wondering how many other women are 'struggling' with the same thing?

I'd say any woman who has been using online dating for more than a year or two are in your exact position.

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Wed 05/27/15 04:22 PM

I agree .. Your use of the word dominant is incongruent with your desires crystal . A true Dom seeks to control .. Indepence would never be entertained . I think what you really want is a man who respects who you are and empowers you to be all you can be . Obviously you are attracted to strong .. Confident men .. Being dominant is not necessarily part of that makeup or a magical sign of masculinity . Sounds like you are looking for James Bond bigsmile . Confidence.. Charisma .. Emotionally balanced .. With sex appeal and height .. :-)


:thumbsup: Magnifique! ....Vous �tes vraiment une d�esse!...

flowers smitten smooched

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Wed 05/27/15 05:00 PM
Well I can tell you all that I'm a strong confident man, I'm quite happy with myself as well. I want the exact same in a woman. I don't feel like dominating anyone. I also don't care to be dominated. I like a woman who is feminist, but not militant about it. I'm a feminist. Woman have human minds, why should a man like me be required to boss them around and make all the decisions? It should be a team effort. So put another way, if a woman believes that her role is simply to produce offspring, cook and clean, she's not for me. I need someone who thinks big, outside the box. But to each his own, I respect all of you

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Wed 05/27/15 05:05 PM
I can tell you what the woman I spoke to, who is into that exact thing told me. According to her, it's quite hard to find the perfect man to place the trust in, to dominate you. She said she's about to give up and stay single. Apparently it takes a special type of man to be the dominate.

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Wed 05/27/15 06:11 PM
Je suis vraiment une d�esse! smokin

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Wed 05/27/15 06:31 PM

Je suis vraiment une d�esse! smokin


"La plus simple et la signification du symbole de la d�esse est la reconnaissance de la l�gitimit� du pouvoir f�minin comme un bienfaisant et pouvoir ind�pendant." :heart:

Carol P. Le Christ~

Nous sommes toutes les d�esses ma belle!!...flowers

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Wed 05/27/15 07:04 PM
toutes les femmes

flowers

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Wed 05/27/15 10:35 PM
Whatever or whoever your looking for I hope you find it Crystal because your a sweetheart and you deserve to be happy.flowerforyou

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Thu 05/28/15 03:33 AM

I agree .. Your use of the word dominant is incongruent with your desires crystal . A true Dom seeks to control .. Indepence would never be entertained . I think what you really want is a man who respects who you are and empowers you to be all you can be . Obviously you are attracted to strong .. Confident men .. Being dominant is not necessarily part of that makeup or a magical sign of masculinity . Sounds like you are looking for James Bond bigsmile . Confidence.. Charisma .. Emotionally balanced .. With sex appeal and height .. :-)

Daniel Craig ain't half bad love

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Thu 05/28/15 03:36 AM
I got dibs on Roger Moore. love

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Thu 05/28/15 05:29 AM

Whatever or whoever your looking for I hope you find it Crystal because your a sweetheart and you deserve to be happy.flowerforyou


I agree, I wish you good luck on your search quest

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Thu 05/28/15 04:13 PM

Whatever or whoever your looking for I hope you find it Crystal because your a sweetheart and you deserve to be happy.flowerforyou

Thank you, Jack! That's really sweet!
flowers

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Thu 05/28/15 04:13 PM


Whatever or whoever your looking for I hope you find it Crystal because your a sweetheart and you deserve to be happy.flowerforyou


I agree, I wish you good luck on your search quest

Thanks, Shane!
flowers

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Thu 05/28/15 04:25 PM
.. looks around the room...hmm.. having any luck yet..?..laugh winking :angel:

SparklingCrystal 💖💎's photo
Thu 05/28/15 04:50 PM

.. looks around the room...hmm.. having any luck yet..?..laugh winking :angel:

mmmzzz ... now that you're here ... love
You sure as heck got the shoulders, the ***, the legs ...
It's just that you fancy to get spanked ... that kind of doesn't work for me ohwell

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Thu 05/28/15 04:51 PM
Did I mention the shoulders? Dang, I love good shoulders on a man!! smitten

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Thu 05/28/15 04:52 PM
we can take turns on the spanking..lol

SparklingCrystal 💖💎's photo
Thu 05/28/15 04:55 PM

we can take turns on the spanking..lol

Mmmm ... I must admit I enjoyed using the flogger the other day :angel:
Tease with the velvety soft fingers over your back and botty .... then alternating soft and hard whacks ...
Maybe ...

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Thu 05/28/15 07:27 PM


we can take turns on the spanking..lol

Mmmm ... I must admit I enjoyed using the flogger the other day :angel:
Tease with the velvety soft fingers over your back and botty .... then alternating soft and hard whacks ...
Maybe ...


May I ask, is this a lifestyle for you, or is it just on the bedroom? I know there's a very wide range of bdsm relationships and how extreme it can get

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Thu 05/28/15 07:30 PM
rofl