People like what they like. Beating people over the head for preferences is like saying that the only choice to have is to not have a choice and chose every thing. That is pretty dictatorial to the opposite extream of only having one choice.

People who plead and whine so and so is a pig because they don't like this kind or that kind because somewhere along the line someone did not choose them get pretty tired pretty fast.

No one speaks for everyone and just because you might not float one persons boat doesn't mean another in the same "group" will not find you the next best thing to breathing fresh air.

If you want someone who likes something different than what they are then you have to look for that personality type. Don't be surprised if they get bored with you fast because experience shows me that people who like different often have an attention span problem but that is not always so. But those that want to be exotic or the flavor of the month take a risk.

More than once I have seen what seemed exciting and wonderfully different got real tough to live with when the new wears off. Or when the stage of life where people want to fit into their family and have them support them; usually the child bearing years or much later in life and they have become and island in a strange culture.

One of the most heart wrenching things I had to do as a social worker was to try to help someone who found themselves homesick and stranded out of their familiar culture with kids that did not easily fit in either culture. It sounds great to sing the "We are the world song" on occasion but real life is not a coca cola advertisement or a Nike shirt. When reality sets in they can't "Just do it". Then they are left with not only more self hatred but being wore down to nothing by trying to walk upstream against the current all their life.

What really makes me sad is when I see one group of women or men turning on each other. It isn't a competition to find the one meant for you. If you have to bash someone down then you only have what was too cowardly to pick you in the first place.

I am for once speechless

and some like redheads, some like Asian, Some like blondes, some like Indians, some like black women, hell some like other men.

stop complaining that your not everyones type(no one is) you're profile picture is very attractive but being honest this last comment makes me think twice.

I equate it to "I'm perfect for him, we like the same things, we laugh have fun, etc....but he doesn't like me because I'm not a woman!, therefore he MUST be prejudice against gays..boohoo"

people have a choice in who they want to be with and who they find attractive. stop whining about the ones that don't and start enjoying the ones that do.

Some may not find you attractive, doesn't mean they're prejudice, your just not their type.

Some will find you more attractive, does that mean they are prejudice against the women opposite of you if they don't find them attractive?

enjoy who you ade, and find the people that respect you for who you are, and ignore the rest

Ron White said it best, "In a few years, if Barbara's boobs start to sag too much, there's a place where you can go to just lift them right back up to where they were, and they can move the nipple wherever they want 'em. You can actually go to a titty bar, pick out a set of ******* and say, "I want those ******* on that woman right there." If her belly gets too big, and she doesn't want to work it off, you can go get a tummy tuck, and they'll give you a belly that looks like a cheerleader. If your eyes go bad, you can have LASIK surgery, and they can give you 20/20 vision at any age. If your hearing starts to fail, they can put a device in your ear that'll make you able to hear as good as you could the day you were born. But let me tell you something, folks: You can't fix stupid. There's not a pill you can take; there's not a class you can go to. Stupid is forever."

There was also a line in show Sherlock, "Brainy's the new sexy"

I am a sapiosexual. I find an intelligent mind the sexiest thing about a person. Looks really don't matter too much.

Because you can't see the beauty of the stars, without the darkness in the night

sometimes it matters. coz some of men here, they like white women.

One of the most heart wrenching things I had to do as a social worker was to try to help someone who found themselves homesick and stranded out of their familiar culture with kids that did not easily fit in either culture.

Having a fair complexion and black skin doesn't make you less beautiful.
You know why?
Because you can't see the beauty of the stars, without the darkness in the night. ;)

Having a fair complexion and black skin doesn't make you less beautiful.
You know why?
Because you can't see the beauty of the stars, without the darkness in the night. ;)

I was thinking of this thread as I read an illustrated article about high fashion and the transcending beauty of Asian women and their appeal world wide across all cultures over the decades. (Go East May 2015 Vogue). If the greatest designers in the world choose Asian women, in this case Chinese women to pay homage to I don't see how the myth prevails that somehow it is any less a draw than any other race or that we need to keep beating a dead horse pronouncing bigotry or it's stupidity.

Also I am NOT fond of lumping all women in any group specifically by race as Asian, Latina, Black or White. Especially when Native races seem to be transplanted subgroup or totally ignored. I am Native American but there are three hundred separate tribes in North America alone. But if you look at the idea of native as it applies world wide it is often not a "red" skin tone.

I particularly dislike it that my Vietnamese daughter is somehow lumped together with such a diverse definition as Asian when that has so many diverse groups. How is she to feel acceptance and identity in a group that is clearly so diverse? Some of which open hate each other and have for generations.

I am not saying that because I see any of the races and nationalities that are represented in my family are superior or inferior just that slicing the pie of womanhood up into such outdated and often inaccurate subsets and then pitting them against each other or their own identity is very distasteful to me.

My family tree has been white on both sides going back at least 150 years and 7 generations so I am 100% white. Both sides have also married European Georgians. I am 100% European Georgian.

Well that could well be true. I have no reason to dispute it.

But since I seriously doubt you have done DNA testing on each and every one of your family members the likely hood that one or more passed as white, or were identified as white when in fact they were mixed blood or actually another race, is still very high.

If you only look at the history of the European Georgian people the number of times the region was at war or other serious economic hardships over the last 210+ years it is highly unlikely that some displaced person did not filter in. That doesn't even account for "hanky panky" or assaults across the 280+ years. Not like a woman in past years would admit such events were committed. Or that that a child that passed as white would be "out'ed".

I could take you into a room of fifty people you would by every visual cue you would swear was 100% white and they would be another race by as much as 75% or more.

I just hope that people wise up and realize that the what they think is true often turns out to be something entirely different when it gets down to brass tacks and they have to do tissue matching for some kind of medical need, body identification, or autopsy.

You are wrong sir. It's nice boobs, tight azz, nice hair and a beautiful smile. That whole personality thing is so outdated.

Well that could well be true. I have no reason to dispute it.

But since I seriously doubt you have done DNA testing on each and every one of your family members the likely hood that one or more passed as white, or were identified as white when in fact they were mixed blood or actually another race, is still very high.

If you only look at the history of the European Georgian people the number of times the region was at war or other serious economic hardships over the last 210+ years it is highly unlikely that some displaced person did not filter in. That doesn't even account for "hanky panky" or assaults across the 280+ years. Not like a woman in past years would admit such events were committed. Or that that a child that passed as white would be "out'ed".

I could take you into a room of fifty people you would by every visual cue you would swear was 100% white and they would be another race by as much as 75% or more.

I just hope that people wise up and realize that the what they think is true often turns out to be something entirely different when it gets down to brass tacks and they have to do tissue matching for some kind of medical need, body identification, or autopsy.

We need more text walls on here..