Statistics show that many times, if the man has had a long term affair, you did not indicate which way it was... that much of the time they will hide assets. You need to protect your interests. DO get proof before you confront HIM. Otherwise, a cheater will simply deny everything and accuse you of dreaming it all up. You need reasonable proof. Do NOT confront before you have secured your situation financially and otherwise. Like Living By Beats said..... keep it all under your hat before pulling out the rug, otherwise you may find he may react by pulling the rug out from under YOU. Good luck.

Funny, I hear people say they are nice, take a look at what some people are capable of on this post despite if it is the right thing to do or not, beats me……shakes head and goes and nosy around the site some more

No, I don’t support cheaters, ...just my observation of what makes some tick!

women cheat also i know

Gee, after reading all this "revenge" crap, here's my advice on how to deal with cheaters:

GET OVER IT AND MOVE ON!

As I said in an earlier post, cheaters LOVE having two people fighting over them.

And why the hell would ANYBODY want a cheater back, anyway?

GROW UP, PEOPLE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Besides, the BEST revenge is living well!

Well said Knoxman. You should do that which is best for you, long term.

Cheers knoxman

Yep, totally agree with knoxman. Pick up the pieces, be glad you're rid of him and move on. Best of luck to you!

I'd be kicking some ass let me tell ya...

Just stay single and you won't have to worry about cheaters.

well cuz it has come up twice today, I can't see any better thread to throw this in other than this thread.

Yup, I was married. She cheated. But I was never divorced. But I am not married now.

It is called an annulment. As I stated earlier in this forum that when i found out she was cheating, I bided my time and played nicey nice, and did her to my best interest, because I don't have to consider her, she was unfaithful and therefore any respect she might've deserved, she had no right to, nor would I change anything I've done had I to do it over again.

She was also typically materialistic, so i thought about it and realized, well I don't want any of this crap. I'm not materialistic. I'm mentally motivated, and spiritually motivated, so she can have it all.

I gave her the house, the summer house, the beach house, the car's, the race boat, the houseboat, all the furniture, I folded the business and sold off all the assets and gave her the money from the business under one condition.

She would sign the annulement papers, or i would take her to court and destroy her career, her life, she would lose her son, and would never work in her decided profession again. She was a teacher. I could prove mental instability. I don't care about the public school system, and hell I've never met a teacher yet that didn't have hardcore control issues, and need therapy, so that aspect? meh whatever, they'd just replace her with another wingnut.

She is materialistic.

What she didn't know, when she bent over to sign all the papers, was that she had also signed all the papers that made her fully and financially responsible for every single asset that she desired.

She didn't even make 10% of the worth of the assets she acquired.

I got out with a document that said I'd never been married. I got out of having to pay for her for the rest of my life. I got out of having to pay for any of the properties or assets.

I walked away clean as a whistle.

That is how i did my ex wife...
oh, and incidently? she still lost her career and i did konw that child services were investigating her ability to parent, a couple of months after she signed the papers, and of course, the guy she was sleeping with, well, he really didn't want any part of all that now did he?

revenge is a dish served cold, and without mercy.

So, for the record. According to the law, the government, and the church I have never been married. If you think that I'm twisting it to suit me? Great! call your congressman and change the laws, until then? either you accept the laws in all cases, or you accept it in none :)

Knox....you hit the nail on the head...

darn
that is a good excuse to get an easy divorce, right there.
get all the money girl, child support and alimony
the most u can.

I still like the idea of making him a speed bump....LOL

Went thru the same thing a few months back. Wasn't married, but engaged. Called me on my way to work to tell me that he had gotten 'someone' pregnant. Nice, huh??? We are no longer together of course! It's always hard to do what you sometimes know you should, but you deserve better than someone who isn't willing to commit to you, and only you. Good Luck!

If you know that SHE also knew, confront both of them. If you don't think she knew, go after the bastard and pull no punches.

goes to show woman is the most vicious gender

and get the most mercy from the court system

yes he is wrong

yes she one is wrong

it takes two to make it work

and i wonder why does he feel he needs to go elsewhere

i am not choosing sides i do not have enough info for that

but hey life goes on