I think its fashionable to call every thing racist today .

I dont but I cant speak for everybody.

not everything, some things are sexist, bigoted, narcissistic, or hateful, other things are 'liberal' or conservative or socialist ... etc etc etc

the english language uses and over uses plenty of adjectives

except some of the things they call "racist" today are not racist comments

which is also true of every adjective used ,, "Some' of them at least.

but people redefine words through slang and often dont use them in 'proper' context

ISM- a distinctive practice, system, or philosophy, typically a political ideology or an artistic movement.

Race-one of the groups that people are divided into according to their physical characteristics, such as skin colour:

RacISM- a practice, system, or philosophy (based on division of people according to physical characteristics such as skin color)


so, to practice the exclusion of a GROUP of people (race) is by definition RACIST practice


people hear RACIST and want to be defensive, because many do not consider context that makes it the case that all RACISM is not the same or from the same motivation ...

so what are you saying Miss Harmony?

racist is an adjective used as often and mis used as often as any other.

and that any practice of excluding a RACE of people is by definition RACIST.

So when a Chinese person refuses to date an Black person, the Chinese person is racists?

So by that logic if a Black person refuses to date a white person, is that racist too?

yes and yes. both are examples of racist choice.

I've got no issues with it, I've dated African American and I've dated Vietnamese. All beautiful women and different but amazing.

sorry but that is a load of crap, one cannot help to whom we are attracted to, its that simple.

by your logic everyone is racists

Example

I think Gabrielle Union and Regina King are very attractive ladies,but Gabourey Sidibe isn't, am I racist because I dont want to date Gabourey Sidibe?

I think Lucy Lui is nice looking and I think Yoko Ono is not, am I still racist or an ageist?

Southern ladies are sexy, I think Emily Proctor is hot but I dont think more like I know someone like Britney Spears doesn't appeal to me, so again I ask I am racist for refusing to date Britney Spears or logically its because I'm not attracted to her?

that is what it boils down to attraction, there are people of different races who may not be attracted to me for whatever reason, but if she said sorry I dont date black men because they are aids carrier, not responsible, druggies, etc, then you can safely say yeah that is a racist comment

But if she said I'm not attracted to darker skin, I like blue Eyes, I like blonde hair that is what makes me wet, vs dark skin, brown eyes, black curly hair doesn't make her wet, that isn't racist .

Its her hormones acting and telling her what is appealing to her or what isn't.

That has nothing to do with racism.

wrong, when you say that BILLIONS of people can not possibly be attractive to you based only on having a common RACE, that isnt about 'not helping who you are attracted to' because in every race, individuals have varying combinations of asthetic traits ...


It is your mind telling you that "(insert race here) is not attractive" so that every person you see of that race, no matter their actual combination of features, you will block out of possibilities ...

I didn't say Billions of people did I? I said we cannot help who we are attracted to.

Some people have a preference based on what they find appealing or attractive

some people have a preference based on race, and it depends why they have that preference, if its because they are attracted to them well that isn't racist, if a guy from another race doesn't make the women wet, or the girl from another race doesn't give the guy a chubby, how is that racist?

If they said something hey your race is inferior to my race blah blah blah, well case closed.

Love is blind as they say , your heart, penis, vagina knows, unless you're a sapiophile

you obviously miss the point, we are attracted to INDIVIDUALS, not races. if we claim to know we cant be attracted to any of the billions of individuals in an entire RACE, that is racist.

that is what Ive been saying... Good Lord.

hence my first post about Gabreille Union and Regina King, but not Gabourey Sidibe

When someone doesn't like a particular race its racist.

And when I said we cant help who we are attracted to, what do you think I mean by that?

what isn't racist is when someone ( an individual) from lets say China isnt attracted to me, its not because she racist or not, maybe she doesn't find my features appealing to her, that was my point.

just like I dont find Yoko ono appealing, does that mean Im racist?

When someone doesn't like a particular race its racist.



this was the point. Not attracted to an individual(who will be one race or another) NOT RACIST

not attracted to a whole race of individuals, RACIST

Someone should start
a topic on

Interracist.relationships.

totally agree it is once choise and preferance, for exmple i like caucasian men compared to my fellow black men..it does not mean i am a racist.

Personally I dont think its anyone business who dates whom, and those that label people with terms like Racists , shallow and other overused terms should just mind their own business for once.

a preference is like this "I prefer vanilla ice cream" , it has nothing to do with "I would never eat CHOCOLATE ice cream"

preferences that are actually exclusive mandates, when based in race, are in effect RACIST in nature.

and it isnt anyone's business who dates whom, but it is what it is. If I said I dont date anyone making less than 100k a year, that would be classist. Would not matter to most folks who dont make the cut either. But it would still be accurate to determine it to be 'classist'.

I reckon that if you want to change the world by dating someone from another race, you are not really attracted to the person but your own image. To put it into context, if I am attracted to a woman I will strike up a conversation with her... Attraction to a person is a personal emotional event and not something to compare yourself to the world by thinking you are politically correct... n'est ce pas ?