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Topic: Never Again
Kaustuv1 Joined Thu 03/27/14 Posts: 4365	Thu 04/09/15 09:22 AM
I am so sorry for you and your loss... Keep listening to that your gut of yours... The proper construction would be: "Keep listening to that gut of yours..." Keep Smiling!

Awatersign Joined Wed 01/22/14 Posts: 3185	Thu 04/09/15 03:23 PM
Describe a situation or event in which you learned something from your mistakes & learned something about yourself. I've learned through experience ,that as far as women concern,I was to nice,and some took it the wrong way,know nobody takes advantage of me,but they just took it the wrong way,and I've learned that that was something I had to change,or adjust it a bit,be nice when I want to,or nice as helpful if I see the need,I use to be one the "nice guy"so to speak, ,I heard all about the "nice guy"thing,and I've found most of it to be true,so I've changed alot from that for a good while now,so funny how when you hardly or stop giving a chit,they somewhat acknowledge you more!!

theseacoast Joined Wed 07/09/14 Posts: 7419	Thu 04/09/15 03:43 PM
Late one night about 12 years ago, I got home after a long day of harvesting. My brother's number was on my phone's call display. This was before I had cell service, had only landline. He had called not long before I had gotten in. I called him, but no answer. I had a gut feeling something was not right. But I was tired and had to be up early again next day. So I went to sleep. The next days were busy, so I forgot about it. 4 days later, his body was found. He had killed himself. Time of death was estimated to be about the time I tried calling him. I don't ignore my gut feelings any more. (((Pancho))) hugs

JustScribbles Joined Thu 04/02/15 Posts: 1091	Thu 04/09/15 03:54 PM
Late one night about 12 years ago, I got home after a long day of harvesting. My brother's number was on my phone's call display. This was before I had cell service, had only landline. He had called not long before I had gotten in. I called him, but no answer. I had a gut feeling something was not right. But I was tired and had to be up early again next day. So I went to sleep. The next days were busy, so I forgot about it. 4 days later, his body was found. He had killed himself. Time of death was estimated to be about the time I tried calling him. I don't ignore my gut feelings any more. Sweet Merciful Jesus. My jaw dropped and I felt a physical punch in the gut, Pancho. There's little I can offer, but - no kidding, dude - my heart goes out to both you and your brother.

IamwhoIam1 Joined Sun 01/01/12 Posts: 6400	Thu 04/09/15 04:13 PM
Describe a situation or event in which you learned something from your mistakes & learned something about yourself. I've learned through experience ,that as far as women concern,I was to nice,and some took it the wrong way,know nobody takes advantage of me,but they just took it the wrong way,and I've learned that that was something I had to change,or adjust it a bit,be nice when I want to,or nice as helpful if I see the need,I use to be one the "nice guy"so to speak, ,I heard all about the "nice guy"thing,and I've found most of it to be true,so I've changed alot from that for a good while now,so funny how when you hardly or stop giving a chit,they somewhat acknowledge you more!! I like you better when you're nice. You were mean to me when I was posting here in the beginning. I told you off and you cried like a baby. That will learn ya.

2KidsMom Joined Tue 09/30/08 Posts: 58206	Thu 04/09/15 04:22 PM
Late one night about 12 years ago, I got home after a long day of harvesting. My brother's number was on my phone's call display. This was before I had cell service, had only landline. He had called not long before I had gotten in. I called him, but no answer. I had a gut feeling something was not right. But I was tired and had to be up early again next day. So I went to sleep. The next days were busy, so I forgot about it. 4 days later, his body was found. He had killed himself. Time of death was estimated to be about the time I tried calling him. I don't ignore my gut feelings any more. (((Pancho)))..I'm so sorry.Really. Many comforting prayers. Many blessings and respect to you and yours...and your girl, I think you'll make a great couple:)))) S.

Awatersign Joined Wed 01/22/14 Posts: 3185	Thu 04/09/15 04:44 PM
Describe a situation or event in which you learned something from your mistakes & learned something about yourself. I've learned through experience ,that as far as women concern,I was to nice,and some took it the wrong way,know nobody takes advantage of me,but they just took it the wrong way,and I've learned that that was something I had to change,or adjust it a bit,be nice when I want to,or nice as helpful if I see the need,I use to be one the "nice guy"so to speak, ,I heard all about the "nice guy"thing,and I've found most of it to be true,so I've changed alot from that for a good while now,so funny how when you hardly or stop giving a chit,they somewhat acknowledge you more!! I like you better when you're nice. You were mean to me when I was posting here in the beginning. I told you off and you cried like a baby. That will learn ya. Awwwww,I was?I'm sorry if I were !!

IamwhoIam1 Joined Sun 01/01/12 Posts: 6400	Thu 04/09/15 04:46 PM


SparklingCrystal 💖💎 Joined Mon 05/20/13 Posts: 33340	Thu 04/09/15 04:51 PM
Late one night about 12 years ago, I got home after a long day of harvesting. My brother's number was on my phone's call display. This was before I had cell service, had only landline. He had called not long before I had gotten in. I called him, but no answer. I had a gut feeling something was not right. But I was tired and had to be up early again next day. So I went to sleep. The next days were busy, so I forgot about it. 4 days later, his body was found. He had killed himself. Time of death was estimated to be about the time I tried calling him. I don't ignore my gut feelings any more. No words... just a big virtual hug!

sweetestgirl11 Joined Fri 09/12/08 Posts: 30087	Thu 04/09/15 04:52 PM
Describe a situation or event in which you learned something from your mistakes & learned something about yourself. Dating Spanish woman and getting seriously involved with her, 1000 miles from her Home&Family&Friends. could not speak our language, could not stand our weather, and i had no "friends&family" she could connect to. never again date a woman whom you can not [never ever under no circumstances] give everything she needs to physically and mentally survive(at the very least). she will end up miserable despite my best efforts, and you have to let her go back to the place she was happier. and that will be quite... painful dated cute mother of girl suddenly she was pregnant ...again... math says it must have been while i was away for 7 weeks questioning reveals she had been "lonely" never again get seriously involved with a woman who has in the past been unfaithful. That was dumb. That was really dumb. met pregnant chick about to get tossed to the curb by her weird Boyfriend offered shelter for months weird Boyfriend comes over while i am not there she opens he goes berserk in my apartment. never againplay captain-save-a-ho! that was reeeeally expensive. What a dum sonofagun i was. I said something on here on another thread about having lived long enough to have learned to avoid the drama....might be a place you want to go...lol thanks for a wonderful illustration of my point tho :) good luck on here

regularfeller Joined Sat 11/10/12 Posts: 2394	Thu 04/09/15 09:39 PM
Describe a situation or event in which you learned something from your mistakes & learned something about yourself. There were two pieces of cheesecake left in the fridge after dinner. I crept from bed at 2 a.m. and ate BOTH pieces. My stomach hurt all day. I learned I was lactose intolerant.

TyphoonMk1b Joined Sun 04/05/15 Posts: 290	Thu 04/09/15 11:20 PM
I said something on here on another thread about having lived long enough to have learned to avoid the drama....might be a place you want to go...lol thanks for a wonderful illustration of my point tho :) good luck on here awww, you didn't like my post! how cuuute! How wonderfully insightful!

needsum12luv Joined Tue 04/07/15 Posts: 472	Fri 04/10/15 06:21 AM
Pancho.......Truly know how losing a Brother before it was time can hurt so deeply. I am the 3rd of 3 brothers all 2 years apart. Both my brothers died at age 48, both from heart failure. Nothing I could have done nor was there any gut feelings to ignore, but the pain was so intense, especially with my middle brother as we were so very close. I just can't imagine the pain you felt in your circumstance. I can hear some self blame in your post, but I think your a guy that knows better and that you are not to blame. Such a tragedy and I'm very sorry.

needsum12luv Joined Tue 04/07/15 Posts: 472	Fri 04/10/15 06:26 AM
anyway, my never again is get into Real Estate. I was always a good salesman and thought it was undoubtedly the most lucrative career I would venture into............Wrong!!! "if you're not making mistakes, you're not doing enough" -unknown-

soufiehere Joined Sat 10/24/09 Posts: 45399	Sat 04/11/15 12:06 PM
There were two pieces of cheesecake left in the fridge after dinner. I crept from bed at 2 a.m. and ate BOTH pieces. My stomach hurt all day. I learned I was lactose intolerant. hahahahahaha

Queene123 Joined Tue 06/26/07 Posts: 17056	Sat 04/11/15 12:12 PM
Late one night about 12 years ago, I got home after a long day of harvesting. My brother's number was on my phone's call display. This was before I had cell service, had only landline. He had called not long before I had gotten in. I called him, but no answer. I had a gut feeling something was not right. But I was tired and had to be up early again next day. So I went to sleep. The next days were busy, so I forgot about it. 4 days later, his body was found. He had killed himself. Time of death was estimated to be about the time I tried calling him. I don't ignore my gut feelings any more. always listen to your intuitions as they can always be right

unpurrfect Joined Tue 02/17/15 Posts: 59	Sat 04/11/15 01:25 PM
Late one night about 12 years ago, I got home after a long day of harvesting. My brother's number was on my phone's call display. This was before I had cell service, had only landline. He had called not long before I had gotten in. I called him, but no answer. I had a gut feeling something was not right. But I was tired and had to be up early again next day. So I went to sleep. The next days were busy, so I forgot about it. 4 days later, his body was found. He had killed himself. Time of death was estimated to be about the time I tried calling him. I don't ignore my gut feelings any more. Here is a virtual hug for you.

tanyaann Joined Mon 12/03/07 Posts: 32220	Sat 04/11/15 02:08 PM
Constantly learning from my mistakes... don't want to share a specific example. But, I am a firm believer that we will continue to be giving similar situations until we learn the lesson.

74Scorpio Joined Wed 04/08/15 Posts: 6	Sun 04/12/15 02:41 PM
11years in a relationship thinking that loving someone was enough...at the end i was wrong because they have to love you back. I learned it had nothing to do with who i was or presently am. I tried to hold on to something that didnt want to be held on to.

SassyEuro Joined Wed 03/11/15 Posts: 1000	Sun 04/12/15 05:24 PM
Constantly learning from my mistakes... don't want to share a specific example. But, I am a firm believer that we will continue to be giving similar situations until we learn the lesson. " ... until we learn the lesson " Too often, people don't, they say "why me?", & blame someone else & fail to see their own pattern. It is not easy, to see or admit our pattens of dysfunction, it wasn't for me. I didn't want to believe, I was attracting the same type of man, over & over & over again. When I changed myself, my world changed with it. And for the better.