there's a certain amount of freedom that comes from being older
both my parents are deceased
I am no longer married
I am no longer dealing with in-laws at every holiday gathering
wondering if they are judging me on what outfit I am wearing, the cleanliness of my house and whether or not the turkey I roasted is dry or how good my deserts are..hahaha

ooooh yes indeed I walked that road for many years

Worst thing bothering me is my neck problems and that isn't age related...
Gray hair ... you dye 'em... been doing that since somewhere in my 30s. Not cos of gray hairs but cause I liked it
Had my eyes lasered at 35 so I could chuck the contacts.

I'm single, still looking good, mostly happy, I can do whatever I want
... I say I'm a lot better of than some dozed in housewives I come across that have been married to the same bloke for 30 years!

That's the advantage of being in your 40s (and I guess 50s), you got your freedom (back) without the need/craving to get a nuclear family, no more panicking like "OMG everyone's getting married/babies, and I'm still single! What am I gonna do!?"

ANd you're 34? So what are you whinging about, hahaha.

Great topic.

I think stress is just a part of life and sorting out the good stress from the bad is the one of the BIG challenges.

Getting older I am lucky that I am getting better at seeing the wisdom in some advice I thought was horse pucky when I was younger. The whole ditty "And this too shall pass." makes more sense. As does just out live the arseholes. lol That I was blessed to get to know and understand my Dad's perspective that "sometimes surrender is really survival or ignoring someone until you have the power to fight back if you still even want to bother."

That and keeping the skills and resources alive to deal with the bad stress that we do identify.

For me finding balance in my life between the "got to's" and the want to's is harder as the realities of age/health and income seem to just take more effort I find some of the want to's do make the got to's more tolerable. Example it is hotter than the gates of help in Cali right now so I will spring for a cab for shopping but still include a movie since cabin fever gets old quick.

And I am taking a Senior stress reduction class and learning some great ideas. The teacher is hilarious and passed everyone out little keys that said crazy land on them. Her lesson for that was You have to deal with crazy people but you don't have to give them the keys to drive you there. Is that priceless or what?

OMG no1phD don't tell the kiddies we still.... use some of the tried and true methods. ROFLMBO

I've often wondered about this. if a woman chooses to wait she's frigid. if not she's a ho.
damned if you do and damned if you don't.
being called frigid doesn't bother me because I choose to live by my beliefs

then all the falsies will look real?


pardon me while I go adjust these fake







eyelashes

what if he dreams in technicolor and dolby

Sex is necessary for peaceful life

Go in peace my son

Here's a mummy woman. Will she do?

:) I get all sorts of action from people who apparently have no actual reading skills. Who knew?

Some women don't read either. It generates an immediate "gigglesnort" when I get an email telling me how great my profile is yada, yada, yada.
My profile is so sketchy as to be nearly non-existant... Muhaahaha.