NO MATTER WHAT, DONT GO BACK TO HIM! HE HIT YOU, IT WAS WRONG AND HE WIL DO IT AGAIN, UNLESS HE GETS ANGER MANAGEMENT CLASSES, DONT GO BAC TO HIM!

Once a cheater, always a cheater...he'll never change. And if he hit you once, that will happen again also if you stay with him. You don't want those beautiful children growing up thinking this is how women are to be treated. YOU and YOUR children deverse much better than what you are getting now. Who the hell cares of what he, his mother and friends think...YOU DID THE RIGHT THING FOR YOURSELF AND YOUR CHILDREN!!! THAT is ALL that matters. Help is out there for you. It will be tough, but in the long run you will see that it was the best and only choice to make. Thoughts and prayers are with you and those children! ((((((lilwabbit))))))

cuz im insecure and for some reason have had it in my mind before that i didnt deserve any better....now im just insecure

And once an abuser ... same scenario.

If any of the kids are his, take his sorry ass to court. He'll pay and not becuz he wants to.

I understand, its not an easy thing to do for the one going through it.

Big Hugs eh!!

anger mgmt doesn't always work, it depends if they want to change, and many do not, and it takes a while to even see changes if they occur, are you willing to wait it out to see if he changes? What if he doesn't. I bet if you bought him a punching bag, he'd prefer you. No pun intended. You have to ask yourself why you don't respect yourself enough to protect yourself and kids, and decide how you want to wake up everyday. Why waste your life on him. Some women don't get second chances.

im am very thankful that i have the support of my family and of all of you here! trust me, it helps me alot! i remembered all the words of encouragement from everyone here when i talked with him last night, so that i wouldnt give into my insecurities and crumble.

i like what singing said earlier. if he does change there could be hope for a reconciliation. but im going to have to see the changes first.im going to continue with my plans thus far. just because he changes doesn't mean i will go back to him. im not going to wait on him forever. if i find someone im happy with that treats me right ill take my opprotunity.im still young, im not going to wait around forever. i want my life to be a happy one.im not going to be happy if i just sit and wait and hope he changes.

good luck on your journey lilrabbit

thank you! all of you, very very very very much

Violence is not the answer my azz.....

the next time he touches you in such a manner as hitting or anything else with out your permission .. drop kick that fycker through the up rights of his crotch like a goddamn field goal.

I wouldn't suggest that quake, although I might feel like it too, violence begets violence, she could get hurt.

that is more than you already are.

remember, the bruises signify that you are bleeding on the inside out.

"I wouldn't suggest that quake, although I might feel like it too, violence begets violence, she could get hurt."

2much......

correctly placed I give him a good 25 minutes to scrape himself off the floor..which gives her plenty of time to get out to a phone..

in some situations it could be the very thing that saves some one's life.

people on auto pilot do what they know how to do....she knows how to do it....been doin it for years,that's why unless she wakes up...


she'll do it all again and her kids will be driven into the perpetuation of his abusiveness....




sigh

im awake now bl8.

What happened when he came back ????

i told him what i think about everything. i found out his mom and friends and he himself think i shouldn't have called the cops over it.(wtf) he kept saying he wants to change and hes gonna change. ill beleive it when i see it, but i ain gonna sit and wait for it.

we'll see......


you' re gonna need to put on the mother warrior's dress...it's beautiful and awesome but heavy....


that's why ya have sistah's....we'll help you get zipped up!!!

they dont change.....Ive been there done that and have the dozens of roses to prove it!!!!