orgo back to the bastard and watch him threaten you even more and intimidate your children


not to mention making them into little monster abusers for the future!!!


sure stay with the guy!!!

Nothin' P/Os me more than a man that would strike a woman....... You did right, & do it again if you must.... Get a court order 2 keep him away...... There are people out there that will help you, church, shelters, out reach just look..

Violence is NEVER good. I would go to social services in your state and see what can be done. You and your children must not live in fear in what....might happen next. There must be programs that can help you...

PLEASE stay safe

That is so true, Alex. It can become a vicious cycle. It is very easy to teach kids to hate. Just act like nothing is going on or stay with the abuser. The kid can learn how to be a qualified abuser. The kid sees one parent abusing the other parent and it can become a conditioned response. A kid can get the idea that the kid doesn't want to be the abused because the kid sees what the victim goes through and it can jade the kid. The kid might get to think that there are two kinds of people those that get abused and the one who does the abusing. Not only does the victim get hurt but the victim can evolve into the abuser. It can become a twisted philosophy that can self-perpetuate like abusers raising abusers.

hun u absolutely did the right thing. a man should never hit a woman, angry or not. u really need to get away from him and never look back. i know it's hard when u have kids, but u deserve better than that.
Becca

update on everything thus far...the restraining orders up, and he came over last nite to see the kids and said he wanted to talk about things. what i got out of the talk is everyone (him,his ma and his friends)thinks that i made too big a deal out of it all and shouldn't have called the cops. my reply was wtf...i heard alot of how much he missed me and loves me and how he feels bad for cheating and that he wants to change...id beleive it when i see it, but that dont mean ima change my mind. we've been going through the same things for 3 years.

you're too young to waste your life wating for someone to change. get out now while you can. if he does change, there's nothign saying you can't try it again...
but don't compromise your own integrity for a guy who obviously does not repsect you.

but i kept reminding myself of all the things ive been through because of him, and all your support so i wouldn't melt like butter.

Stay strong wabbit, ...the moment your man hit you he took away so much out of your relationship, the minute he cheated on you, it shows he doesn't love nor have any respect for you. Now tell me, a man that says he loves you yet he hits and cheats on you, is that love? I think, once a person do that...he took away so much to even begin to believe him again.

i wish i could meet yall just to give yall big hugs!

See... ya got people who care...
and I think I speak for all of us when I say WE ARE HERE FOR YA...

Good Luck.

lilwabbit, you made a mistake marrying him and having kids with a loser, you know you did right by calling the cops, stop finding excuses for him and look after yourself and the babes. Respect yourself, if you wait for him to change, you will lose. Some places in Canada would take your kids for letting him back in. Think about why.

at this point im just waiting to get the money to get the divorce over with.....d*** the economy

your going to do good lilrabbit, all the best, dry the tears and get strong, he made the choice to hit you, can't do anything about that now, but you can prevent it from ever happening to you again. All the best.

and in the moments that you have doubts....and when you want to believe him one more time ...for the kids....recognize your pattern in it, and CHOOSE the unknown....real self respect and dignity.


cherish that , because it is THE MOST VALUABLE LEGACY you will give your children.

no matter what...without those clearly exemplified by you, they will be crippled and damaged for life.


so choose now....

are they precious enough?

your right bl8, those moments of doubt are a reflection of you, when you have those moments, it means that you have to take care of you, not him.

that reminds me of what i told him last nite, if his world revolves around him and my world revolves around him, then who's looking out for me?

look after yourself, lilrabbit, don't wait for someone else to do it, only you know what you want and if it is him, then you haven't looked after yourself enough. Take care.

((((lilwabbit))))

Yes honey... you did the right thing. Now, this has all been covered already, but here it is in a simple check off list:
1 - go to the court house & file a PFA (restraining order)
2 - while there fill out the form for child support
3 - change the locks - if you do not have the money to do so, borrow it.
4 - call your local womens resources
5 - go to your local assistance office and just fill out all of the forms and stay to meet with a rep. They will go over everything with you (especially about what you do & do not qualify for)
6 - call your local bar association.. many states will give you a referal to a local lawyer for a consultation that will cost anywhere from $0-$50.

Know my prayers are with you... and if you need to talk, I', here for you.

Blessings ~

Tell me something wabbit, why do I get the feeling that you are considering of giving hubby another go?