well little filly, for you to be asking this question, i reckon you ain't in texas. texas is the friendly state and real men keep it that way. starts when a boy is knee high to a grasshopper. his daddy and his grandpappy make sure the boy learns all he needs to know. i'd bet my bottom dollar that there are other states in this fine country where that sort of thing is happening as well

once in a while log off and take a gander around. if you see males opening doors for others (not just women and children), allowing folks with fewer items to go in front of them at the store, or moving to the left lane to allow a faster traveling vehicle to go by. then you have seen a real man

hey bulldog,
I like what you said

and I have to agree that while there are some mighty good men here in my state and little town,
you really do see more men of all ages being a gentleman in Texas.


let me also add that there are many good men all over the world. we see many of them here in the forums.

Not my definition at all. Just want to be clear about that. I don't live in the romance fantasy world of illusion.

For me, yes he is good looking (but good looking is all in the eyes of the beholder). Tall, short hair, fit and in shape but he's a good person with moral character. Has Principles and lives up to those principles. Treats a woman with respect. Hard yet can be gentle. Hard working but doesn't have to be wealthy and I'd prefer someone who doesn't work a gazillion hours a week. I'm talking about a regular man who gets up in the morning, goes to work, comes home and talks to his partner. Shares his day. Takes care of the homestead. I'm talking about a simple guy, not a complicated person.

I concur with tta1128 .. a man needs to respect woman with respect (same goes for us a women should respect her man). For me he is a leader and takes charges / control when needed , support and respect everyone.

The basic point is the the attitude many women have is, "he has to have EVERY characteristic on my impossible list, and if even ONE is missing, he's not worth my time." For example, I know a woman who wouldn't give me a chance because I'm a little thinner than she likes. Meanwhile, an alcoholic gets multiple chances because he's good looking and he's only abusive when he's drinking.

I believe no one should be judgmental and everyone should be given a change , explore and see . one would never know what they are missing if you don't try.

cheers mate

sadly, a lot of people only see the superficial.
you, as well as many of the guys in here, have many attractive qualities, which come out through your interaction with us.
if a person doesn't value you for those qualities, that is their loss.

I agree, many people set such high standards (which by the way, not even they themselves live up to) that they make it difficult on themselves to build a happy and solid relationship.
talking about both men and women.

a person who isn't open to seeing the positive in people can have a roomful of good people in front of them and only see the flaws in those people while not even admitting their own.

I have never had a list.
When I was very young people would say, 'Whom will you marry?'.
I always said I had no idea.
No pre-formed ideas.

As for a Real Man, they exist everywhere, you know them instantly.
It is mystic and the best I can come up with is..they have a sense
of themselves that is so strong, we can pick up on it.

They imitate no-one.
They seem to be comfortable in their own skin.

They are most appealing :-)

If you find one soon.. See if he has an uncle I can borrow for next week..

Gooooood Goddddd!
Where are the real men?
Where are the real women?
Funny how I never hear people ask this question, in everyday life.

I hold the door for everyone, but there are some women who act like witches when you open the door for them.. For them I hang around till they come back out and hold the door closed for em.. That really pisses em off...

My Daddy was a real man. He said he'd crawl thru broken glass if it would keep me from pain.

Real people seem hard to find these days. Male or Female.

My comments are in brackets above.

'will put up with any BS the woman throws at him'

What do you mean put up with a woman? A gentleman would cherish a woman not put up with her.

That is a gentleman and you are very lucky to have a dad like that, I hope you will be lucky enough to find that in another man. My dad would say 'you are not a weakling, go fend for yourself', not a great example, but it's how most guys are unfortunately. Yet when they are sick they act like they are dying, real drama queens.

You seem too REALLY dislike men. I'm just curious as too why you are here?

Estelle,

we all know how you feel about men and that you would like to meet your perfect man.

what do you gain by trying to belittle everyone else's high regards of good men?

how many people will it take to convince you that there are good people everywhere?

the only way to find happiness is to be happy with yourself and look toward the positive in others.

if your opinion doesn't mesh with that of others who have had a positive experience, that's too bad, but it doesn't make us appreciate people any less.

'will put up with any BS a woman throws at him.

what do you mean put up with a woman? a gentleman would cherish a woman not put up with her.'
we all have our good days and bad. I don't know about you but I am far from perfect.
even in the best of relationships there are days when a loving couple puts up with each other. not because the partners don't love each other and cherish each other, simply because we are all human and there are days we need to vent about life.
how you deal with it after putting up with each other can forge a deeper relationship or begin to tear it apart.

People seem to be confused about me, so let me explain, I also have a high regard for REAL men/gentlemen. I do not dislike these men, I am a normal straight woman who likes gentlemen. There is no problem there.