What I really like about them is how gentle, sensitive and selfless they are. And how they accept responsibility and protect their children no matter what.

Ladies, what do you like about a single dad?

Being a single mom myself, I can understand how difficult it is for a single dad. And for a dad to want and to get custody of their children, whatever the reasons, it shows how responsible he is and how reliable he is as a father.

Hearing how they go about tending to their children day in and day out, learning to do the chores that they had taken for granted before, and even learning to cook (for those who don't cook) and mending clothes.... I have only admiration for them!!

Oh, I really like how they put in their profiles that a woman that they date will always be number 2 to their kids and never walk beside them. Lovely.

What's wrong with that? Peoples kids should come before anyone and everyone!

Not if there is love involved with the adults. The parents/adults come first. Can't have a happy home without happy adults first and foremost. I picture spoiled, unruly children when I read those sentences in a single dad's profile. Run, run, run the other way.

Good and encouraging response

Sounds a bit bitter. Much like your friend Mrld..

Nope, just dated a local fella with 3 boys and had that in his profile. I couldn't take the drama. Not bitter at all. It was a relief to make that mistake so it could be a lesson learned. Never to repeat again.

oh, and Mikey, you don't have any kids at home anymore do you? Are you trolling me, on the verge of sounding manic again?

His gentleness, sensitivity and selflessness etc. are certainly due to his love for the beautiful charming ex.

Pl consider this before any action.

I said single as in not romantically with the mother of his child.

mariah

But I feel that is a strong factor for love and care of dear ones.

we can take this way 'Her children are in his careful custody"

and in this case there is no gap for any other woman to fit.

..... it must be hard on women..
the lady friends I have , are very understanding..
... I let them know up front.
not looking for a replacement mother for my boys.. they have a mother....
... I will not talk to a woman on the phone in front of my boys..
. I do not have them to my house.
. I will not even have green eggs and ham with them..lol..
.. and I'm very clear about the fact..
. that I'm not always available to my lady friend when she may need me...
..... the relationship I have with my son's is.... paramount... it doesn't mean I always put them first..... but it does mean if I have to pick between my date and my boys...
.... that's a very easy decision.
.... it's not a pleasant decision.
.. but it is one I do not have to put a lot of thought into......
. but definitely not easy for a woman to date a single dad....

Yes exactly this is why I wouldn't date a single dad. I know you, phD, define and basically you talk about a 'lady friend' and a date, which is not the same as someone you're in love with, have a budding relationship with.
My reply is to the latter situation.
Many men apply these quoted date-rules to the new significant other in their life as well. Not acceptable to me.

I'm with Teal on this. Yes, children should be number one, but children and a partner shouldn't be on the same scale. That's what makes it so bluddy difficult as a single parent, because you, and only you, will have to find that delicate balance between those two scales. Your children's needs should not interfere with your new budding relationship and partner and vice versa.
Most single parents value their new partner & relationship less than their children, meaning their partner will suffer and children have full control. And plenty of children take advantage of this as well. I hate that chit. I will not become dependent for love and my relationship on some snotface. LOL

And yes, I have been there myself as well, single mom with kids 11 and 9, so I know from experience it ain't easy. But if you aren't even willing to try and balance the two different scales, you should remain single.
Or, like No1, simply date and have some fun, but nothing serious just yet, AND be totally honest and upfront about that.

Having said that, if kids had ample time to recuperate after divorce, and are in their teen years, they can easily accommodate a new partner. They also should learn that they don't own their parent and he/she has the right to find love and happiness again. Respect, love and care is a two-way street, esp between parent and children.

But me, I won't date a single man. What if I would fall in love with him? Sod that.. Had the step-family once, won't do it again.
Plus, I am not going to give up on my freedom now that my kids have left the nest.

From my point of view,it would have to be a lady with grown up kids who have already,or will soon be moving out.I never had kids,so i'm not going to pretend that i could develop that bond with younger ones if she had them. I do see profiles from women who say that the kids have moved out and it's their time now,that would be perfect for me.But i also accept that if the grown up kids needed them for something they would be there for them,the difference being that they wouldn't be constantly relying on her to fend for themselves.I would still expect her kids to come first in her life,but not on a full time basis,otherwise it wouldn't be a proper relationship for her and myself...

My kids have moved out ... You could teach me rhythm, move me with your groove ...
Why aren't you taller

* I like your new picture :) *

Thank you Crystal,the picture was from last week in the studio.How about if i stand on my tip toes ?

Haha, I think that would help a bit .. seeing we're the same height.

My ex is a single dad, he is single and he had 3 kids from 3 different women that never takes care of at all.