Topic: Is it okay for a lady to ask a guy out?
no1phD's photo
Sun 03/08/15 07:25 PM
... I do not know how this all started..
. perhaps back when nights had to compete for a Maiden's hand..

.... but yes it would be so much easier if women would make the first move.....
.... women approach me daily...ok. it's usually to get me to get something off the top shelf for them at the grocery store...lol.... but on the rare occasion... that one does approach me..... they still don't come out and make the first move...... they open the door just a crack so to speak but that's...it...

Goofball73's photo
Sun 03/08/15 09:46 PM
If she does ask me out then she better be taking me to some place classy.....such as Taco Bell. :)

Zuglo65's photo
Mon 03/09/15 05:11 AM


Normally its the guys who ask girls on a date.. but I wanna know, as a lady, can you make the first move?
As for me, I can't! cos if I do, and he rejects me, I'm not sure I'll be normal again :D

And you think a guy won't feel that way? For them it's just as scary as it is for us to do such a thing.
And yes, it is okay for a girl to ask a guy. If you really don't want to do that, make sure the guy you like knows that you are into him (body language, flirt, smile, look him in the eyes etc), so it's less freaky for him to make the first move.

Very well said.

MelMaxx's photo
Mon 03/09/15 06:22 AM
happy Yes, it is ok for a woman to ask a man out. bigsmile
....just don't know if I could do it. (self esteem is a bee-atch)frustrated

RoamingOrator's photo
Tue 03/10/15 07:13 AM

I do not know a single, single guy who
would not be thrilled to be asked out.

They tell me they get turned down about
9 times out of 10.

I cannot imagine that either.

How hard that is, especially doing it
over and over again.

I think this evens out the child birth thingy.


Wait most guys only get turned down 9 times out of 10??? I'd love it if I could get my average that high!!!

Pope4u's photo
Wed 03/11/15 02:01 AM
to me I think it's normal thing to do
probably he might be your dream guy...and funny thing is that he might have been looking for one way or the other to get close to you but due to shy stuff.... my advice to you is that if you are interesting in any man, move to him...express your mind, and that's not a sin.
Thanks.

no photo
Wed 03/11/15 02:22 AM

... I do not know how this all started..
. perhaps back when nights had to compete for a Maiden's hand..

.... but yes it would be so much easier if women would make the first move.....
.... women approach me daily...ok. it's usually to get me to get something off the top shelf for them at the grocery store...lol.... but on the rare occasion... that one does approach me..... they still don't come out and make the first move...... they open the door just a crack so to speak but that's...it...


Hello! I believe a certain lady made the first move, telling a certain someone how she loved his lips and his manly jaw. And then challenged this prince to PM her. Otherwise, we'd still be waiting an eternity for prince to make the first move.

no photo
Wed 03/11/15 02:26 AM

I do not know a single, single guy who
would not be thrilled to be asked out.

They tell me they get turned down about
9 times out of 10.

I cannot imagine that either.

How hard that is, especially doing it
over and over again.

I think this evens out the child birth thingy.


That's another reason I am so glad I'm female. Although, you'd think all that rejection would build character and mental toughness in a man.

masabi's photo
Wed 03/11/15 04:50 AM
if she is going to pay all that bills, then she can take me out. No problem

no photo
Wed 03/11/15 05:08 AM
i say go for it. but if you are just going to entice him to ask. remember this... us neanderthals usually don't get subtle:tongue: so your hint should be along the lines of ... would this dress look good enough when you take me to dinner:wink:

no photo
Wed 03/11/15 05:24 AM

i say go for it. but if you are just going to entice him to ask. remember this... us neanderthals usually don't get subtle:tongue: so your hint should be along the lines of ... would this dress look good enough when you take me to dinner:wink:


rofl

Provided she has a brazier on or not. :wink:

no photo
Wed 03/11/15 05:25 AM
you read that one toorofl

sybariticguy's photo
Wed 03/11/15 07:24 AM
Yes as you seem to want permission...

changers_22's photo
Fri 03/13/15 09:23 AM
"Normally its the guys who ask girls on a date.. but I wanna know, as a lady, can you make the first move?
As for me, I can't! cos if I do, and he rejects me, I'm not sure I'll be normal again :D"


as for me, although its kinda weird for a girl to make a first move in making a relationship, she should do it in order for him to recognize/notice her. I mean, come on recognition is the first stage of getting to know right? so what result would it end at least good or bad, you've already said what you wanted and let the fate decide.

Singerbett2014's photo
Sat 03/14/15 08:07 AM
THAT GOOD OF YOU.love

mysticalview21's photo
Sun 03/15/15 04:02 PM
wow I somehow forgot about that ok
I ask him out i have to pay his way...
because I did the asking this is how breakups happen...
not first dates lol

Okoro David 's photo
Mon 03/16/15 02:14 AM

Normally its the guys who ask girls on a date.. but I wanna know, as a lady, can you make the first move?


For me YES. Sometimes you just helped the guy anyway. (in cases where the guy dnt knw how to go abt it)

other times..:most guyz dont value it..some will conclude you are cheap. But it depends on who the person is and your relationship with him.
If things later didnt get along...he will quickly conclude "after all he never came for you in the first place"...

Have experienced girls asking me out.. through writing to me.."writing makes it easier abit" then you guyz start meeting.

But i just noticed as a guy..when i see a girl and go for her...she got what attracted me...
But when a girl comes for me...i gues i too got what attracted her BUT she may not have that which i need. But i do respect the courage.

Best of luck.

ifas's photo
Mon 03/16/15 03:06 AM
Is totally okay for a women to ask you out on a date ive had women ask me out

TxsGal3333's photo
Mon 03/16/15 07:35 AM
Humm well I made the first move on one Saturday night lets see if it works... Ball is in his court now whoa

no photo
Mon 03/16/15 07:44 AM

if she is going to pay all that bills, then she can take me out. No problem


If a guy asked me out, I wouldn't expect him to pay. I actually prefer to contribute myself because sometimes if a guy pays he expects more from you.