maybe cuz his wife is a man hater crazy azz beech.we may never no.

some of us might know...

I imagine it could be anything from looking around , to simply being social and chatting with new friends or acquaintance(and old ones that may have been around before the wife)

hey girl, this is a Red Flag in your relationship because he is looking for something better apart from you..aww!!

Truthfully... I think I would have to ask some key questions of either sex

1. did they hide it

2.When they are on are they trolling.

3. Will they give you their password.


I am in a LDR and I have no problem he is out here and I know he has no problem that I am out here and have been for years. I have made some really great friends... When we are living at least in the same time zone I will mostly stay out here because as I have said I have friends out here.

Could be lots of things.

I would suggest a nonjudgemental sit down, preferably with a counsellor to begin the discussion with exploding.

If it is innocent there will be little to no resistance to seeing messages or posts.

If not, to be aware, some folks offer intimate encounters, some will date, some will chat and who knows from there.

As for visual and mental stimulation? Well it doesn't take a rocket surgeon much time to figure out its not as bare as porn but still enough for a guy to fantasize. There's certainly enough variety. Couple that with the opportunity to do it relatively anonymously and discretely and you have an instant drug for a person in pain.

The problem isn't the behaviour, that's a symptom. The real problem is what's causing him:her to do what they are doing to escape .

You will also need help. Not for jealousy or suspicion--that's normal. You're going to need help to deal with the hurt and the anger and the rejection, the abandonment, oh dear Lord, please help her.

Others have said it--the marriage needs work and outside help.

I just want you to know, I know some of this from experience and I prayed for you and your family, especially your husband before I posted. God bless.

Are you both ignoring each other or not talking much? Communication is important in a relationship. Do you both still flirt with each other? Just because you are both in a major commitment to one another, it doesn't mean the marriage doesn't need the odd spark from time to time. Could you try spicing things up a bit?

As others have stated it could be several different things or many things wrapped into one. My suggestion would to pull him into bed and then afterwords talk it out. You have to open up to each other. Going out more often would help as well. Then again what do i know lol. Mine did cheat on me. So its not just guys that are liars, cheats etc. It's women too. I never once cheated but that's just what kind of man I am.

maybe this is just a ploy to engage men in dirty talk

If u r not happy with ur husband dont woory I M here

I wonder why you can't just ask him? Just say something like "I know what you're doing behind my back. You're going on dating sites. And I need to know why!". Let's be honest, only your husband can know why. He's the only one who can give you the answer you're looking for. :shrug:

Sadly, lots of men (and women) cheat. It is their nature. It may have nothing to do with what they have at home, it is just the thrill of the "new".