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Simple, as Crystal says you're attracting the wrong sort of guy, repeatedly? Gotta look at yourself also though, because i don't believe this is just the guys fault 100%, maybe part of the blame is you too? As it takes two to tango? |
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Here's my two cents worth and maybe someone has already mentioned it,but some jump into a relationship to quick and not realizing that there's responsibilities that go with it not to mention trying to get to know someone I mean really know them,and not just in one area.
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Edited by
lionsbrew
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Tue 02/03/15 03:57 PM
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Have you ever explained how you are feeling to said persons?Or how their behavior makes you feel? A lot of times us guys can be oblivious to a problem unless told about it directly. Being subtle about things doesn't generally help either.
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Edited by
Amelinng
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Tue 02/03/15 04:24 PM
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Any other women ever noticed this in their guy? They act like they're really into you but then after you start having sex they don't answer the phone or call you as much.. They agree they want to make a family but after you get pregnant they practically disappear, and a month after the baby is born you see photos of what he's been up to and with whom while you were pregnant with his child. They don't notice you clean the house, cook, and take care of the baby by yourself all day long, and they also point out that you do nothing and are no fun, but never offer to help. They continue to party and hang out even after they have a child because for them nothing has changed, but you have no life and don't even deserve a phone call anymore. Guys can answer too, but if anyone wants to call me a man hater you are probably this kind of guy so just don't bother to answer this. Estelle  , I hope you don't let your resentment carry over to when you are with your baby! But at the rate you are whining, you are probably feeling really bitter and that just won't do. Since you know the father is such a person, move on...have a new life with your baby. You don't have to depend on that kind of person who has no responsibilities. So, the next relationship...think twice, thrice, many times before having kids. You only have one kid now, you are not married, so you are free to move on. Take time to find a man who will really appreciate you for who you are.
I believe there is some good in you as you kept your child, focus on that.....forget about the men for now!! Give your love to your child and you will be amply rewarded. |
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Most of you are saying that in other words it's my fault. I think one person said he was immature and didn't point the finger at me and then one person said they were going through the same thing but he is starting to grow up, (I'm happy for that lady). Thank you all for proving that at least in part it's because of the way society blames women when men do wrong things that men would grow up to think it's ok to behave this way. Obviously, men are not held accountable for creating babies. So, I do not believe in marriage because guys don't want that life...this is why I don't give it to them. I did not trap anyone but thanks for all responses..
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Most of you are saying that in other words it's my fault. I think one person said he was immature and didn't point the finger at me and then one person said they were going through the same thing but he is starting to grow up, (I'm happy for that lady). Thank you all for proving that at least in part it's because of the way society blames women when men do wrong things that men would grow up to think it's ok to behave this way. Obviously, men are not held accountable for creating babies. So, I do not believe in marriage because guys don't want that life...this is why I don't give it to them. I did not trap anyone but thanks for all responses.. I think most are just trying to say, he didnt force you to be with him (we assume). You're an adult and allowed him to treat you as he did. I dont know you or anything, but it certainly is not my place to assign blame. I just hope that this experience has made you wiser so that you don't fall for these types again. I also hope that your child is happy and healthy and that things get brighter for the both of you as you move forward. |
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His childish behavior doesn't absolve you of your responsibility. No one said it's your fault, however you are also not blameless because you did allow yourself to be treated that way. Consider it a lesson learned.
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Any other women ever noticed this in their guy? They act like they're really into you but then after you start having sex they don't answer the phone or call you as much.. They agree they want to make a family but after you get pregnant they practically disappear, and a month after the baby is born you see photos of what he's been up to and with whom while you were pregnant with his child. They don't notice you clean the house, cook, and take care of the baby by yourself all day long, and they also point out that you do nothing and are no fun, but never offer to help. They continue to party and hang out even after they have a child because for them nothing has changed, but you have no life and don't even deserve a phone call anymore. Guys can answer too, but if anyone wants to call me a man hater you are probably this kind of guy so just don't bother to answer this. pimpin' ain't easy 
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Any other women ever noticed this in their guy? They act like they're really into you but then after you start having sex they don't answer the phone or call you as much.. They agree they want to make a family but after you get pregnant they practically disappear, and a month after the baby is born you see photos of what he's been up to and with whom while you were pregnant with his child. They don't notice you clean the house, cook, and take care of the baby by yourself all day long, and they also point out that you do nothing and are no fun, but never offer to help. They continue to party and hang out even after they have a child because for them nothing has changed, but you have no life and don't even deserve a phone call anymore. Guys can answer too, but if anyone wants to call me a man hater you are probably this kind of guy so just don't bother to answer this. pimpin' ain't easy
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Edited by
Awatersign
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Wed 02/04/15 12:38 AM
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I can imagine if Estelle was a judge,that would make judge Judy look like mother Theresa when guys go in front of her,
,hi Estelle !
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One thing is true, I care about justice. I don't think judge Judy is sincere about right and wrong...she is kind of crazy.
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Edited by
ryemck
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Wed 02/04/15 03:02 AM
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Any other women ever noticed this in their guy? They act like they're really into you but then after you start having sex they don't answer the phone or call you as much.. They agree they want to make a family but after you get pregnant they practically disappear, and a month after the baby is born you see photos of what he's been up to and with whom while you were pregnant with his child. They don't notice you clean the house, cook, and take care of the baby by yourself all day long, and they also point out that you do nothing and are no fun, but never offer to help. They continue to party and hang out even after they have a child because for them nothing has changed, but you have no life and don't even deserve a phone call anymore. Guys can answer too, but if anyone wants to call me a man hater you are probably this kind of guy so just don't bother to answer this. This looks completely one sided, if there's a specific person in question it'd be good to hear their side. If indeed this is all true then it sounds like this particular guy is a bit of a twat. You are similar to my ex-girlfriend, we had a child together but I helped out a lot and tried to spend every second I could with them. I also started building websites to earn more money for my son rather than go out partying lol Just a bad pick it seems, it happens for people and not just women :) |
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Why is it your ex-girlfriend? A child needs to have parents that love each other, are men just not capable of this? There is nothing better for a child than having this and no amount of money or any time shared will ever fill that need. It hurts me most knowing that my child won't have this essential need met. It's like all guys care about is sex and moving on to the next, and they discard women and children like garbage. Women and children deserve better than that! I've changed my beliefs because of how men treat women, now I don't believe they can be decent partners or fathers. It is men who are just sex toys in fact and nothing more. Sorry but this is what you all act like. Of course the funny thing is women are the ones who are being objectified by men, but this is not what women are. This is how women should start treating men instead.
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Why is it your ex-girlfriend? A child needs to have parents that love each other, are men just not capable of this? There is nothing better for a child than having this and no amount of money or any time shared will ever fill that need. It hurts me most knowing that my child won't have this essential need met. It's like all guys care about is sex and moving on to the next, and they discard women and children like garbage. Women and children deserve better than that! I've changed my beliefs because of how men treat women, now I don't believe they can be decent partners or fathers. It is men who are just sex toys in fact and nothing more. Sorry but this is what you all act like. Of course the funny thing is women are the ones who are being objectified by men, but this is not what women are. This is how women should start treating men instead. I broke up with her due to borderline-abuse, sometimes relationships just aren't meant to be. A child needs to be fed, kept warm, educated, kept away from danger etc, not for their parents to be together. Sure it might help them because they will see more of both parents at the same time but it wont have a huge effect on their life. However, not having enough money to pay for simple needs would :) |
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I brought my oldest boy up myself, because his mum didn't want to. So he came and stayed with me. Best move i ever made! Does it make me resentful towards her, or other women? No, because everyone is different and i realise that. His mum missed out on a lot, as he was a brilliant kid and has grown up into a level-headed young man, who is a father himself now. Not all guys are bad guys and with the resentment that you hold towards guys, which is visible to all to see, as people are mentioning it to you, not just me, will hold you back from ever being happy. Nothing more off-putting than someone who judges you on past boyfriends/husbands? Believe me?
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I do not believe in marriage because guys don't want that life ...
Yet, you expected your baby's father to act as if he were married to you. You are complaining because he didn't. |
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Why is it your ex-girlfriend? A child needs to have parents that love each other, are men just not capable of this? There is nothing better for a child than having this and no amount of money or any time shared will ever fill that need. It hurts me most knowing that my child won't have this essential need met. It's like all guys care about is sex and moving on to the next, and they discard women and children like garbage. Women and children deserve better than that! I've changed my beliefs because of how men treat women, now I don't believe they can be decent partners or fathers. It is men who are just sex toys in fact and nothing more. Sorry but this is what you all act like. Of course the funny thing is women are the ones who are being objectified by men, but this is not what women are. This is how women should start treating men instead. No, you didn't trap anyone it seems but yourself. No, babies do not need two parents to be together if they are resentful to each other. It's the loving relationship, you are after. The fantasy of what you wanted. Well, guess what? When you treat men as sex objects, only you can become pregnant, not him. Why wasn't birth control on your mind when you were all hot and sweaty and wanting his ...object? Hard lessons learned. After thousands of years, women now have birth control. |
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That's because women go for those kind of guys and don't give the good ones a chance. Y'all just not looking for the good ones. The good ones won't do that to y'all.
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We intended to have a baby..that is why no birth control. Also, there is nothing wrong with enjoying sex in this case, it's not bad you know?
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Honestly answer to yourself this question. You don't need to tell us, but you need to know the answer. Did "we" intend to have a baby, or did you intend to have a baby?
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