Wow ,that's some serious knowledge right there,and that's deep too,that's why I ain't really on that "soul mate search like that,some of us may have to go to hell or heaven to meet them lol !!

Try asking a hoker for 50%off (just kidding man)

If you're having trouble finding the right one, it can be helpful to have a look at what type of ppl you do attract, then learn from it.
For instance, if you attract 'broken' people, you have something inside that needs healing still. You don't want to address that issue, so you focus on healing/helping others. That makes you feel good and draw attentions away from your own wound(s).

If you attract insecure ppl, you are probably insecure yourself. Being around insecure people can make you feel stronger, some of the most insecure people appear to be very strong. Often this is just an outside 'shield' to protect the insecure inside.

And so on and so forth. So analyzing what you attract in general, can be a good means to learn what issue you need to address within in order to start attracting different people, people that are a better match for your true self.
Most people aren't their true selves. We just project an image out, based on our (past) hurts and traumas. And .. we attract people based on that image.
So if you can get closer to being the true you, you project that out and start attracting people that match the real you.
Kinda simple, but oh so hard to do, lol

This same principal often even applies to friends that appear / disappear in your life. Just look back and see how this has worked in your life so far..
Lot of wisdom to be found in that!

News Flash: The "soul mate" concept is fiction. If you want someone who is your inward twin, then go have yourself cloned.

Find romance is an altogether different subject. That you can do.

You will surely find one if only you know what you want and being able to identify with it when it comes around

You will surely find one if only you know what you want and being able to identify with it when it comes around

well said

Nicely said and I agree it should be a gift and not a need.

You might have to lower your exspectations if your haveing such a hard time there are no real women left it seems eather.

the soul is never able to be mated to another soul not in it's own same place of learning...

can a wise one me with an unwise one.

impossible.

the wise one would never choose what was unwise if it were as wise as it self wishes to think.

it is nearly always an over inflation of the self data through emotions that leads to unwanted results.

in this way, each one has mated with only what be a mate of one's own soul at that moment in time...

or are of the "same most energies"...

the total sum created by the total sum of all emotions felt by each one individually.

or the "energies" would have repelled away from each other, and there could exist no equal mutual attraction....

if one sea equal mutual attraction as the only most good goal...

many are duped with heavy single attraction to another, and get involved knowing this other one does not have the same attractions, hoping they shall convert a taker of what is free, to more...

uh oh...

pain pain pain for those.

but if one peer thru more of a scientific electrical based force, or energy...

it is much much easier to break down the simple miscalculations of not getting the good results one wishes.

or being, understand they self.

one must remove self favoring emotions to to this.

then peer at the simple facts.

two actual batteries are no different at all than two people in their operating functions.

plug in the wrong end, get a shock...

put two batteries together properly, one will have double the brain power and so creating ability, and electrical "passions".

it is far better to mentally think of one self looking for it's own proper "counter balance", than to look for love.

or "soul mates".

peace and good speed to all.

Oh there is real women and real men out. Just because you can't find one that desires you doesn't mean they aren't real. Ever thought maybe its you. I can't meet any men either but I will admit its my fault that I am single and has nothing to do with the general population of men. Maybe when you are older; you will realize that.

I was thinking ,it's definitely easier to just gat a ,HOLEmate,just a thought!

maybe try defining what "soulmate" is, and if your expectations are conceivable...

agreed, some peoples expectations are to high

You will one day! I found mine when I least expected it.

Thanks, my heart is strong. Some wounds don't heal though, you just find a way to keep moving forward.

soul mates! real women/men!

honestly. if you come online to find a partner, go on a dating site, date anyone and everyone who is willing, after your best witty email exchange and embarrassingly honest expression of self.

if you come to mingle and post in forums every night cos you've got no social life or social group to be with, and you post about how this or that is unfair and how none of it sits well with you.. then your acceptably branded as "broken".

your not going to find a soulmate because YOUR soulmate is a miserable, broken person and that's not the saviour, pick me up that your expecting them to be.

of course there is someone for everyone. you just need to look at everyone on offer.
you don't need to lower standards or date unattractive people.

you just need to spend more time with more people.

stop coming on mingle and go do stuff. meet like minded people and one day a like minded person will meet you and then you can go home and do it like rabbits for months, until you find there's actually loads of stuff you don't like about them and have to choose whether to put up, or start all over again.

very few people are in the magical relationships so many here seek. those relationships are only a year long or they take 20 years to achieve.

whine whine whine, shut up and take life by the horns.

totage

the loss of your child is easily the greatest loss of all

the fact you get up everyday makes you a remarkable man.

many many women would be knowingly lucky to be with you.

don't give up on yourself. just keep going and be open to good things happening.

there isn't someone for everyone. its just a fairy tale.