Go forwards and get on with it like everyone else has to do, or go backwards, f**k all his pals and tell them he's useless in bed and has a tiny d**k? Personally, i'd go forward with my life!

Still...best choice.

a painful place indeed...

it may sound as bunk...

but one has to feel they loved that person, to have a hard time getting over it...

and if one does feel they loved...

than if one can hold onto...

in it's mind...

if you love them, you want them to have their happiness, for that is the greatest love...

and pride your self in having strong superior love...

than anytime crap comes to your mind, about the pain, and one holds onto you wish them to have THEIR HAPPINESS...

than one will find the shortest shortest shortest most possible path thru evolution and through pain...

and all one's own actions will become light and happy and fall into perfect place.

for none loved as much as wanting another to have their happiness, so none are awarded as much happiness as these.

good speed gal



peace

I'm still sticking with writing down the pros and cons of said relationship...a big bowl of ice cream, a snuggley blanket and comedy movies...and maybe some popcorn...hmmmm...but time heals everything that isn't meant to be...big hugs to those broken hearted peeps out there...

hehehe...

and will any of these pro's and con's listed be based upon one wishing "their happiness"???

of course not.

and why doing such will keep history repeating over and over, or these will be to obstinate and prideful, and so destine them self to die alone with a blanket and ice cream with comedy movies.

list as you are.

but the most we aspire to, be all that we get.

awwwe heck...you can't list what ya want..just what is..otherwise your kidding yourself..lol...but I can say if I was to die alone wrapped up in a blanket eating ice dream watching a comedy at lease I would die smiling..

I just focused on myself, worked out, got some things improved about myself & my life, went out, did not turn down any party, learned to shoot pool, bowling, yes, even kareoke! I got interested in people around me and in the world. Become the kind of person that other people will be drawn to. Get in shape & stay that way. Learn to laugh at yourself, one day, you'll realize that you haven't given that "person" a thought, when you can think about that "person" without hurting, and you can wish her happiness, then you've MADE IT! You are a winner, a TIGER, let that man out!

You're very naughty! But I agree with you.

Happy New Year (((Leigh))). I was remembering that breakup after twice my ex and I tried to make a go of it. We even shook hands before going into divorce court. Later, when I remarried her mom and her both thought the new wife and me made a cute couple. It really made a difference because of that I was able to congratulate my ex's new husband. And that makes a difference because every time I get to see my kids and grand kids we meet with my ex mother-in-law and ex-wife. It would have been real uncomfortable for me if it wasn't for that clean break.

Disney movies. Anything but Frozen.

Everyone has their own way to deal with break ups Op. You just have to find what is the right way to deal with it that works for you. Me, I would immerse myself in hobbies, working out more, volunteer work, or home improvements.

@ onebdgorilla, best input I see no doubt spoken from experience. I agree one of the most important things is to have that distraction or you will dwell on the break up. There are groups and events ,classes to join as you relay. I looked up online social groups and found a site to pick and choose ones from, free to join. Some charge a membership fee that's low annually but most just are glad you joined them for new members. When you find someone new you can bring them as a guest when you have your group of new friends to share events with that you enjoy. Best wishes to you and the person posting this as we've all been there/done that and when it's a serious or long term relationship it's the hardest to get past. But it's not impossible if we accept what we can't change. Take it all a day at a time and keep busy now.