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Topic: "BE YOURSELF",really?Really?
Awatersign Joined Wed 01/22/14 Posts: 3185	Sun 12/07/14 09:32 PM
When chucky comes and posesses your body transferring his soul Lets see how you will be yourself Lol

dreamerana Joined Sat 09/21/13 Posts: 21544	Sun 12/07/14 10:54 PM
Be yourself,it sounds really good and genuine doesn't it? Well guess what,I'm here to tell you that sometimes, that's a load of horse chit,I know some you folks going eat me alive now, ,it's always best for us to strive to be better,to grow,we're not perfect and we'll never be at lest not in THIS life,so how are we going to accomplish this by stay the same??But there are times when some of us need to be ourselves,example,pretending to be what your not to impress other people,the opposite sex ECT,but the list is endless with stuff people do that I'll make you go,why doesn't he/change,totally classless acts ECT!! I'm all ear and I'm always open to learning,what are you guys opinion on being yourself? I'm gonna pop me some corn and be right back lol! I agree with you in that nobody should try to change to impress anyone else. being yourself means accepting you for who you are. striving to change or better yourself is anybody's own personal choice. hopefully for their own personal growth rather than to try to be what someone else demands. that doesn't change the essence of what someone is. nor does it make us more or less than others I understand,what you saying makes sense,the main reason I posted this topic,is because there's two sides to that statement people always use,so it ain't always good advice,maybe if use in a certain context,but even though it's people's own choice,that's still the advice you're giving them,and obviously we can't change the person who we are,we can change stuff we do,say,act,react,ECT,that's what we mean by changing who we are,and telling ourselves that we can't change,it's kinda negative thinking,( if I'm understanding correctly some posts on here), some of us know the things that we really can't change,and the thing we want too and CAN change,a person may been lying most their whole life,you don't know that,but you'll tell them to "be yourself",tell me how does that help? my context of be yourself is be true to your beliefs, values or ideas. things like learning or self improvement don't change the core essential values of a person. if someone does find a reason to change one of their fundamental ideas hopefully it came from a positive choice and not something forced upon one by others Point well taken,make sense,but what I'm trying to say is,sometimes who a person really is,ain't good at all,and it ain't about judging them either,so my thing is,just be careful how you advise people to not change and always be their self,the same people that make that statement wouldn't tell them,keep lying,or be yourself,keep cheating,ECT,sometimes that's who they are,why tell them NOT to change ,I'm not sayin tell them too,that's where "some people"gettin it mixed up ok. the bulb finally blinked on. I get what you are saying. I don't quite have an answer to that. because if you don't tell a person with negative traits to be themself, yet aren't trying to change them, perhaps you just wish them luck and keep your eyes open for possible hazards along the way. hmmm good question

davidben1 Joined Wed 12/05/07 Posts: 6120	Sun 12/07/14 11:02 PM
great insights into the hazard zone of all human traits validated... wonder how many told Jeffery Dahmer to just be him self... smiles

Daynene Joined Sun 12/07/14 Posts: 13	Mon 12/08/14 08:21 AM
Myself is the only way I know to be. I like myself. I'm happy with who I am. I have no desire to be anyone else. If someone is not happy with who I am, that's someone who doesn't need to be in my life.

1j9b6c5 Joined Wed 11/05/08 Posts: 3954	Mon 12/08/14 08:34 AM
Myself is the only way I know to be. I like myself. I'm happy with who I am. I have no desire to be anyone else. If someone is not happy with who I am, that's someone who doesn't need to be in my life. Ditto.

Awatersign Joined Wed 01/22/14 Posts: 3185	Mon 12/08/14 09:31 AM
Be yourself,it sounds really good and genuine doesn't it? Well guess what,I'm here to tell you that sometimes, that's a load of horse chit,I know some you folks going eat me alive now, ,it's always best for us to strive to be better,to grow,we're not perfect and we'll never be at lest not in THIS life,so how are we going to accomplish this by stay the same??But there are times when some of us need to be ourselves,example,pretending to be what your not to impress other people,the opposite sex ECT,but the list is endless with stuff people do that I'll make you go,why doesn't he/change,totally classless acts ECT!! I'm all ear and I'm always open to learning,what are you guys opinion on being yourself? I'm gonna pop me some corn and be right back lol! I agree with you in that nobody should try to change to impress anyone else. being yourself means accepting you for who you are. striving to change or better yourself is anybody's own personal choice. hopefully for their own personal growth rather than to try to be what someone else demands. that doesn't change the essence of what someone is. nor does it make us more or less than others I understand,what you saying makes sense,the main reason I posted this topic,is because there's two sides to that statement people always use,so it ain't always good advice,maybe if use in a certain context,but even though it's people's own choice,that's still the advice you're giving them,and obviously we can't change the person who we are,we can change stuff we do,say,act,react,ECT,that's what we mean by changing who we are,and telling ourselves that we can't change,it's kinda negative thinking,( if I'm understanding correctly some posts on here), some of us know the things that we really can't change,and the thing we want too and CAN change,a person may been lying most their whole life,you don't know that,but you'll tell them to "be yourself",tell me how does that help? my context of be yourself is be true to your beliefs, values or ideas. things like learning or self improvement don't change the core essential values of a person. if someone does find a reason to change one of their fundamental ideas hopefully it came from a positive choice and not something forced upon one by others Point well taken,make sense,but what I'm trying to say is,sometimes who a person really is,ain't good at all,and it ain't about judging them either,so my thing is,just be careful how you advise people to not change and always be their self,the same people that make that statement wouldn't tell them,keep lying,or be yourself,keep cheating,ECT,sometimes that's who they are,why tell them NOT to change ,I'm not sayin tell them too,that's where "some people"gettin it mixed up ok. the bulb finally blinked on. I get what you are saying. I don't quite have an answer to that. because if you don't tell a person with negative traits to be themself, yet aren't trying to change them, perhaps you just wish them luck and keep your eyes open for possible hazards along the way. hmmm good question

Awatersign Joined Wed 01/22/14 Posts: 3185	Mon 12/08/14 09:33 AM
Myself is the only way I know to be. I like myself. I'm happy with who I am. I have no desire to be anyone else. If someone is not happy with who I am, that's someone who doesn't need to be in my life. That's great,if ain't broke don't fix it!

Awatersign Joined Wed 01/22/14 Posts: 3185	Mon 12/08/14 09:33 AM
Be yourself,it sounds really good and genuine doesn't it? Well guess what,I'm here to tell you that sometimes, that's a load of horse chit,I know some you folks going eat me alive now, ,it's always best for us to strive to be better,to grow,we're not perfect and we'll never be at lest not in THIS life,so how are we going to accomplish this by stay the same??But there are times when some of us need to be ourselves,example,pretending to be what your not to impress other people,the opposite sex ECT,but the list is endless with stuff people do that I'll make you go,why doesn't he/change,totally classless acts ECT!! I'm all ear and I'm always open to learning,what are you guys opinion on being yourself? I'm gonna pop me some corn and be right back lol! I agree with you in that nobody should try to change to impress anyone else. being yourself means accepting you for who you are. striving to change or better yourself is anybody's own personal choice. hopefully for their own personal growth rather than to try to be what someone else demands. that doesn't change the essence of what someone is. nor does it make us more or less than others I understand,what you saying makes sense,the main reason I posted this topic,is because there's two sides to that statement people always use,so it ain't always good advice,maybe if use in a certain context,but even though it's people's own choice,that's still the advice you're giving them,and obviously we can't change the person who we are,we can change stuff we do,say,act,react,ECT,that's what we mean by changing who we are,and telling ourselves that we can't change,it's kinda negative thinking,( if I'm understanding correctly some posts on here), some of us know the things that we really can't change,and the thing we want too and CAN change,a person may been lying most their whole life,you don't know that,but you'll tell them to "be yourself",tell me how does that help? my context of be yourself is be true to your beliefs, values or ideas. things like learning or self improvement don't change the core essential values of a person. if someone does find a reason to change one of their fundamental ideas hopefully it came from a positive choice and not something forced upon one by others Point well taken,make sense,but what I'm trying to say is,sometimes who a person really is,ain't good at all,and it ain't about judging them either,so my thing is,just be careful how you advise people to not change and always be their self,the same people that make that statement wouldn't tell them,keep lying,or be yourself,keep cheating,ECT,sometimes that's who they are,why tell them NOT to change ,I'm not sayin tell them too,that's where "some people"gettin it mixed up ok. the bulb finally blinked on. I get what you are saying. I don't quite have an answer to that. because if you don't tell a person with negative traits to be themself, yet aren't trying to change them, perhaps you just wish them luck and keep your eyes open for possible hazards along the way. hmmm good question

MariahsFantasy Joined Mon 11/28/11 Posts: 6593	Mon 12/08/14 04:14 PM
I think that kind of 'change' is a reference to 'changing to please someone else' rather than a natural growth or development kind of authentic change. aka: lying, in a sense. pretending to be something to get what you want is immature. but some folks think they are doing someone else a favor by changing for them. unfortunately, if its not authentic, it will eat away at you, and at the person who isnt convinced (rightly so), and be the source of strain in the relationship. I think this is all subjective in the end. For me, it is eternally fake when folks care so much what strangers think of them. Like if someone wants take a risk they begin to question if it's the right thing to do according to what everyone else thinks. I despise that mentality. People are going to somehow be who are they are eventually, not sure why certain people have a need to impress or be liked by every single people they pass by. In a relationship, you aren't going to like everything that person does or says either, it's never happened and is never going to. Men and women operate differently and old evolutionary habits won't change. For one thing, people have to let go of their obsession with having all the answers because even if you're Bob Hope's age I could guarantee he didn't care about knowing everything and that cat knew a lot to be as prolific as he was.

stopteasing Joined Fri 12/05/14 Posts: 185	Mon 12/08/14 04:24 PM
Its all a game. "Be Yourself", "I am who I am", "Kind, gentle, friendly, passionate, devout, devotion, loving, caring, intelligent,......" are words that mean nothing in this virtual world. Though some unfortunate souls do not know the difference between "real" and "virtual" allowing their emotions to overrule reality. The anonymity, which is assumed, in the virtual world is exactly like playing a video game where you are a murderous thug leaving no consequences. The victim, which is also anonymous, can be killed during the video game and not even know it or feel it in any other place than your mind. The people on here who claim they "do not want mind games" or "not into playing games" are the biggest players of games themselves and asking for more players to approach them.

davidben1 Joined Wed 12/05/07 Posts: 6120	Mon 12/08/14 05:00 PM Edited by davidben1 on Mon 12/08/14 05:01 PM
if there be a large round table in the center of a room, filled with buttons with words on them of human attributes to describe one self... those that walk in and choose most and all the "good traits buttons" to stick on them self... that which sea's know to make kind excuses and many a good lie to keep from being entangled or involved with such people in life. for these are blind to them self and so fall into the ditch constantly, carrying many others as well into the ditch, but always steadfastly declaring their own exceptionalism. little do they know that every last thing they ever experienced they didn't like in life, they them self created. ditto's unto the sea to drown the blind in sight. peace

davidben1 Joined Wed 12/05/07 Posts: 6120	Mon 12/08/14 05:08 PM Edited by davidben1 on Mon 12/08/14 06:07 PM
it wasn't me, hehe.

davidben1 Joined Wed 12/05/07 Posts: 6120	Mon 12/08/14 06:05 PM Edited by davidben1 on Mon 12/08/14 06:06 PM


Mdarlene Joined Fri 06/06/14 Posts: 313	Mon 12/08/14 06:34 PM
I am who I am if you don't like it to bad I have two sides to my personality one side will do anything for any one, my other side is the evil twin she only pops up when I am afraid of being hurt I can always draw her out and she takes care of business. Ask jars

davidben1 Joined Wed 12/05/07 Posts: 6120	Mon 12/08/14 06:45 PM
are not prisons and mental wards filled with those who validated their "bad" half thinking any who crossed one self "deserved it"... oh my. oh my. oh my. and does not the world need more each day medications just to keep their "bad" half at bay and in control... like the Black Eyed Pea's sing... "if ya hate your bound to get irate"... is it not most someone whom validates their own anger, that simply becomes a more angry and angry person each day... until they can't hold back any more, since they been validating these feelings more and more, and wa lah, they road rage attack someone, just because they got flipped off or beeped at... it's not so hard to sea what people them self wish to validate in them self that makes them do ALL they do. truly tragic.

Awatersign Joined Wed 01/22/14 Posts: 3185	Mon 12/08/14 08:32 PM Edited by Awatersign on Mon 12/08/14 08:33 PM
Some of you ain't quite understand what I meant exactly and I'm the one to blame for that ,I don't think I made it clear enough,and by all means if you're comfortable with who you are,that's great,actually it's on the best feelings,we're the ones that have to live with it,good or bad,but the negative thing is,telling ourselves that we can't change,not wanting to is one thing,but when we say "can't",that's when we can't,some things we obviously can't change,but I'm not talking about those,now what cause me to post this topic,was how I keep hearing people telling people to "always be yourself,don't change who you are",now that can be good or bad,here's the the thing,do you know who they are???So I'm not really talking about us as individuals,even though it still involves us,,I'm talking about telling other people to do it,trust me,i guarantee you 100%,if you know some people good,really know who they are,you wouldn't be telling them that,,and this has nothing to do with judging them either,but never the less,I wanted to hear your responses and I fully appreciate all of your comments on the topic!!

RainbowTrout Joined Fri 04/06/07 Posts: 13869	Wed 12/10/14 06:05 AM Edited by RainbowTrout on Wed 12/10/14 06:05 AM
Being my self for me is being true to myself. For instance, With enough projected guilt toward me I am liable to change so people will get off my back. LOL I have made great strides from always being people pleasing but I am afraid it will always be one of my character defects. I just have to live with it. I can't always be the sociopath just because it is part of my nature or live by sarcasm alone. Man does not live by bread alone. Sometimes he needs peanut butter and jelly to go with it.

graywolf55 Joined Wed 09/19/12 Posts: 1259	Wed 12/10/14 07:38 AM
Its in my introductions, pictures, Topics and posts on other topics! And my friends know me for this or they wouldn't be (my friends)! Sometimes i misword something and get called out for doing this so what? I would rather till the truth one time than 50-1000 lies later remember (what happened)? So what i'm (me) love me or not! I'm not here for Popularity, Presidents get elected that way!!

davidben1 Joined Wed 12/05/07 Posts: 6120	Wed 12/10/14 08:05 AM
if a person does 10 kind gracious acts in a day, and 10 angry malicious acts in a day... which acts will they choose with their own mind to prove what they them self are. for the brain can prove anything it wishes, to it self. but that will still not make it all the truth. for do not many languish in self misery simply because they only wanna see and prove to them all of them self is good, seeing and believing they have just cause for all they did in their life, but prove how no others in their life had just cause in what they did. the mentally unstable indeed. who live on a one way street in the their minds. it would seem "just be your self" has totally propagated such unbalanced brain operation's to be fostered in a whole society, hence the extreme quantity diagnosed with mental illness's... for if there's one thing all mental illness's have in common... it be... all they think negative about others is true, but no negative others think about them is true... damn... for did not most very last person in the world whom perpetrated a malicious act upon another, deem them self had just cause for doing so, but at the same time, heap guilt upon all others whom have acted maliciously towards them. no wonder the world is filled with the mental illness of "just be your self"... for 'be your self', and "no matter what that is", will be implied by default, to any whom wishes to prove them self "not bad", or harmful, or neglectful, or responsible for intentionally or unintentionally inducing pain unto others. no wonder we live in largely a sociopathic society whom barely flinches upon inducing emotional pain or trauma unto others, but screams bloody murder and victim at the slightest emotional pains or trauma induced upon them self. peace

mysticalview21 Joined Sat 06/28/14 Posts: 5462	Wed 12/10/14 09:13 AM Edited by mysticalview21 on Wed 12/10/14 09:10 AM
your right op sometimes in life being yourself is boring an those on line think that they can be someone else that their not boring ... why change yourself is a good ? ... now their are many that you would like to see change like for instance murders etc ... but what if that is them being their self ... hard junkies ... sure would like to see them do better in their lives but they may be that till they die ... it really is like you can lead a horse to water but you can't make them drink... now recently meeting someone new being myself ... I was called a character ... I laughed it off ... really should have asked which one lol and some times I say things aloud I shouldn't ...so if you are not yourself then who are you really ... things may change but more then likely we our still ourselves ... or you are great at faking who you are... especially in person...