This.

If and when you get to the evening of the second date...stop thinking so much in your head and talk to the other person and ASK how far they want to go with that good night kiss. Since you seem to know they want long term and you do not. Maybe just decide to end the date with a hand shake. LOL God forbid that you just might see that you actually are ready for long term and just lost out with a great person because you talked yourself out of a good thing, just because you didn't want long term.

.. why do I go on so many meet and greets...hmm... because they ask me out... ...... it's all part of the process ,of getting to know myself better... I learn what I like and don't like... I've learned to take my time..

... in the past the scenario.... for my dating life..... went as followed..
.... we would meet at a bar.. house party.... coffeehouse ,bookstore..
.. even the grocery store...
... at some point.. we would end up in bed together.... and before I knew..it.
she would be.. bringing a change of clothes.. and toothbrush.over.. well basically almost moving in... before I knew it I would be in a full-time relationship... that relationship ends..
.. I'm at another house party.. bookstore.. Coffee House.....
..... I'm back in bed with another woman.. she's moving her .. toothbrush in.. already picked out the top drawer... in my chest of drawers.....
.. back in another full-time relationship......

.. I used to have a problem saying no....

.. I still have a problem saying no..
.. but now I.. say no... you can't have the top drawer..

..

^^^ I don't believe that, with teenage boys in the home with you. Even if you have an outside bedroom door.

Sounds like you are spinning stories of "tasting" women with 2nd date kisses.

.. maybe the problem is....
. sleeping with them....
. before I have truly gotten to know them.. but its just hard, really..............." hard "to say.....
No.. To some women ,.they can be very persistent... persuasive..

..... that's it I will no longer sleep with women... until I have truly gotten to know them....ok.. starting right after this one....

.. this would be my dating life prior to my children..lol

So did you learn anything? Do you always walk around in the past and mix it up with the present? Did you take your daily doses this morning?

Lol... the.daily.doses....lmao....
.. no I play safe.... no need for the daily doses..... and yes boy s and girls.
always play safe.... and get yourself checked out by a physician at least.. every 6 months...

No1 ... You don't rediscover yourself by trying to discover others...

Like a dog chasing it's own tail...(or any tail for that matter)

PS... most people don't need testing every 6 months cause they have self control...

Ohhh... I have self control...
I have very good ,self control...
I can hold a erect...ohh. nevermind..

No1, mine will probably be the odd voice here, but here goes nothing,,,


you have a way with words, you have no problem communicating here on the board, and in how you communicate you are approachable and (dare I say) attractive,,,, so my question to you is

why is it that you don't simply COMMUNICATE these things with whomever you are pondering over?

the sexiest, most unforgettable man to ever be in my life was sexy because he was so open in DISCUSSING these feelings and expectations before we ever crossed the bridge,,,,,,

in the situation where you aren't looking for a relationship(allegedly), the worst that could happen is the other person walks away,,,,


and if you aren't interested in getting involved seriously,, what would be the problem in that?

If that really is what happened and happens to you, you may wanna look at your MO. Like I said earlier, if you keep dating women, see them more often, get more intimate, women take this as a sign of commitment. You're simply having fun and sex, they think they're on their way to a wedding band.
Meaning something you do is not clear to them. If you don't want a commitment, maybe don't date. If you do want to date, maybe don't date the same woman twice. If you just want to get laid, find sex dates, not 'normal' regular dates. There are plenty of women who want sex, but not a commitment.
And go over your MO. Don't do things for a date that you would and should do if you were to pursue a real full-time relationship. Make a clear distinction, both for you and the woman.
Maybe you mix them up and treat them the way you would someone you love, which is mixed signals to both you and them.
Dating is a learning curve indeed, but sounds like you get sucked in (doing that yourself btw!!), and worst part is ... you may hurt other ppl in the process ..

On the third date give it all ya got, take her to bed !

On the forth date take. Her out to eat , while you are eating make sure she hears you loudly chewing your food, I always consider how the sound of a man chewing his food will be cause if its gonna last a lifetime then I got to be hearing this sound at least three times a day lol men can be such pigs!!!

Just kidding

Let mother nature take its course, if you don't intend to be more involve then do not make love to her

Tove Lo - Habits (Stay High): http://youtu.be/dC_o-q5RWBg.. lol... love this song..

I'm a ((((monster))))..

I tend to not worry so much about the end of a date. I try and stay in the here and now of everything. When it comes to making moves on a date I tend to just got with the flow of the dates atmosphere.

That's because you have common sense and social skills...

Shhhh thats a secret.