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Topic: What would you do?
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Sun 11/16/14 08:42 AM
What would you do If your ex who you were with for 3 years contacted you and told you she/
he loves you and wants to be back with U and misses all the things with U and that safe feeling they had with U and all the love and special moments?
And what If this same person tore your heart apart and was with someone else and did not care about u meanwhile you were all alone crying your heart out with no one to comfort you but now they say want to be back with U?

Would you give them a chance after all the pain and betrayal ?

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Sun 11/16/14 08:47 AM
No
once bitten twice shy

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Sun 11/16/14 08:49 AM
No, no, no!

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Sun 11/16/14 08:54 AM
Absolutely not.....I've moved on, and what's to say it wouldn't happen again?

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Sun 11/16/14 08:55 AM
Edited by Pinkbunny43 on Sun 11/16/14 08:53 AM
Nope...never...no way......they had their chance.

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Sun 11/16/14 08:55 AM
No, if those experiences taught you the reality going on, learn from it and move on.

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Sun 11/16/14 09:01 AM
Hi Unknown,

"Safe feeling" apparently means that they felt safe in cheating on you while knowing you wouldn't cheat on them. Safe feeling means that the one they left you for proceeded to do the same thing to them & they didn't like it: what a surprise. Tell them you can't ever feel "safe" with them again & if you do start up again there's a real risk you would cheat on them because of their past behavior & see if they still want to get back together with you knowing that you are no longer the "safe" (& trusting) bet you once were.

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Sun 11/16/14 09:05 AM
no. if I gave it my all during the relationship and it wasn't enough, it won't be enough now.
I would wish them the best and move forward with the life I have made without them.

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Sun 11/16/14 09:10 AM
I've found that when they profess that they've "changed", it is not true.

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Sun 11/16/14 09:10 AM

What would you do If your ex who you were with for 3 years contacted you and told you she/
he loves you and wants to be back with U and misses all the things with U and that safe feeling they had with U and all the love and special moments?
And what If this same person tore your heart apart and was with someone else and did not care about u meanwhile you were all alone crying your heart out with no one to comfort you but now they say want to be back with U?

Would you give them a chance after all the pain and betrayal ?


based only on this information, no

but if there were other details, possibly

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Sun 11/16/14 09:22 AM


What would you do If your ex who you were with for 3 years contacted you and told you she/
he loves you and wants to be back with U and misses all the things with U and that safe feeling they had with U and all the love and special moments?
And what If this same person tore your heart apart and was with someone else and did not care about u meanwhile you were all alone crying your heart out with no one to comfort you but now they say want to be back with U?

Would you give them a chance after all the pain and betrayal ?


based only on this information, no

but if there were other details, possibly






The other details are, i gave everything and a made a lot of sacrifices but all I got was lies and betrayal and in the end I was the loser

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Sun 11/16/14 09:23 AM
Just as i thought as Well....its not worth risking it again...I really appreciate the advice

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Sun 11/16/14 09:33 AM
I was a glutton for punishment with several past relationships...was it worth it...no...I was never strong enough to forget the past...and never completely being able to trust them cause that voice in your head every time your apart never seamed to shut up...on the other hand if you choose not to give it a chance you might torture yourself with never knowing if it may have worked this time...But from my experience it hurt worse when I went back and got my heart broke again...then you only have yourself to blame...hmmmm

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Sun 11/16/14 09:52 AM
No!

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Sun 11/16/14 09:58 AM
Been in your shoes but I gave my ex the chance he sought and it turned out to be horrible. If it feels wrong then you have your answer. Exes can play havoc on our sensibilities at times because there was once such a deep emotional connection with that person.

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Sun 11/16/14 10:00 AM


The other details are, i gave everything and a made a lot of sacrifices but all I got was lies and betrayal and in the end I was the loser


Due to this statement you already knew the answer... Regardless if one does try a second chance or not. Which at times there are some second chances that are worth taking...

But in those times you will know within your heart if it is a chance one is willing to try...

When one has broken the trust that was built it is very hard to rebuild... Some actually do many find out that the love that was once there was not the kind of love they seek...

At times second chances end up being the closer one needs to realize that the love they once had is no more and they can move on...

Only the ones involved can make that choice... whoa

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Sun 11/16/14 10:01 AM

What would you do If your ex who you were with for 3 years contacted you and told you she/
he loves you and wants to be back with U and misses all the things with U and that safe feeling they had with U and all the love and special moments?
And what If this same person tore your heart apart and was with someone else and did not care about u meanwhile you were all alone crying your heart out with no one to comfort you but now they say want to be back with U?

Would you give them a chance after all the pain and betrayal ?


No, but I would tell her/him this, "I'm sorry you got dumped, but my dance card is full."

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Sun 11/16/14 10:02 AM
I'd do this>>>>waving (bye bye)

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Sun 11/16/14 10:25 AM
Ohhhh.. take them back in a heartbeat... I so love pain and betrayal.... maybe she can throw in some hot wax.. dripped onto my scrotum as well...mmmm.. oh and..
maybe a few toothpicks up underneath my fingernails..... so miss her...not

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Sun 11/16/14 11:24 AM
Romeo
People are in our lives for a reason...sometimes it is a lesson that you have to learn. It will keep re-appearing till you have learned it. I wish you all the best

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