looking for the right love for ages now and yet still not found.

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IDK where u have hanging around brah, but good people are everywhere. Perhaps do something you would not usually, visit a place you would normally would not, and see where life takes you.

It's not just the destinations brah: it is the journey!

best wishes on your hunt

The good men and women may not always be seen but they are there not far from us. We'll keep passing by them unnoticed if the criteria we want in a spouse is too high!

If you can't find what you are truly looking for in a good woman, it's only because so many bad ones are like in your face every single day.

This is what I am experiencing right now. I can't find a good man because the bad ones keeps scaring them away. When a good man starts to show a little interest in me, the bad ones are hot on his trail, filling his head up with a bunch of bull about women. And, saying things like they're having a hard time finding a good woman with some money. Bad men aren't the least bit interested in taking care of a woman (good or bad). They are more concerned about themselves, and use women for financial gain.

They may seem like they are good men, once they have worked themselves into the lives of a good woman, only because she is helping him financially. So, what he does to make himself look good is back off a bit with his bad boy behavior. But, if a good woman cuts him off financially, his true colors starts to surface and then, he tells her things like, "I was just using you to see what I could get out of your butt."

Dating is like going into an arena with 10 starving lions, and you don't have a sword to protect yourself and fight any of them off.

That's true. However, sometimes lowering your standards, the one's that should remain high, can get you a woman/man you really don't want or NEED in your life. I lowered my standards once and got EVERYTHING I NEVER wanted... so, now I'm back to my standards again. I realized mine were keeping me safe.

I guess as long as you don't expect a rich man/woman with a perfect body, perfect past, perfect hair, a specific eye color & who likes to do 100% of the things you like, your standards probably aren't unreasonably high. IMHO

Yeah, a lot of my so, so friends kept encouraging me to lower my standards, and you know what? I wasn't happy with the type of men that were trying to rap to me. They always seem to have their hands stuck down in some illicit cookie jar. And, wanted me to tag along for the ride.

I said "No thanks!" and kept it moving. Thank goodness I had the sense to not let my so, so friends sway me into a life of who know what ...

I personally have come to see that most of us do the same things over and over wondering why we get the same result.

If you are having problems finding what your looking for you need to project the idea you have already found her. The power of positive thinking helps. You have to try your best to not ask for the same things that have not worked for you in the past. But do not go into it acting or feeling desperate, or those are the people you will call to you.

Speak confidently but not cockily about what it is you want and expect in a relationship. Just put it out to the universe and when the time is right, it will happen and draw the right person to you. Everything that is worth the effort takes time.

Good luck dear.

it's not about lowering standards. it's about setting priorities and seeing where a person fits on the spectrum.

Sweet pic criollo..

Parience s a virtue..welcome to the forum..