Isn't body-language a funny thing. And so important, weird that we have to do without more and more as we communicate online so much.
I'm quite good at 'reading' body-language, but not consciously. I would have difficulty making a list of signs ppl show when they are interested, not interested etc. But I can still 'read' it when it's in front of me. Apparently women are better at this than men. This because we are wired to communicate without words i.e. to know what our baby - that doesn't speak yet - wants or needs.

Eye-contact:
Just read that apparently women mostly initiate contact with someone they're interested in, using eye-contact. They give a man a specific look for a few seconds and do that some 3 times. Men don't register it straight away as a sign of interest, hence 3 times (when a guy is somewhat slow, it may take more looks).
Then the guy should act upon her "I'm interested" signal.

Intimate look:
We all check each other's eyes but also the genitals of someone we're interested in.
Men often get caught doing this as they have tunnel vision (prolly to do with the primal hunting instinct --> focusing). Women rarely get caught at it, as we have a wider, peripheral vision. But we do it just the same.
- If a woman maintains eye-contact, she doesn't allow him to seize her up without being caught ... So best to look away for a few secs when you meet so he can do his 'thing', lol
- A man looks at a woman when she walks away from him. He always looks at her bum, even when he didn't like the front.

You're a liar vs. you're nuts:
Ever had an argument with your partner after an evening out about him flirting with this sl*t, ending in a huge row? (Or if you're a guy, being accused of this, but not having a clue what she's on about?)
I know I've been there, lol.

Apparently women have 16 areas in the brain with which they can assess behaviour and complex body-language, men only have 4 to 6!
That's why women can get into a crowd (party, pub etc.) and know within minutes how a couple is doing, if they recently had a fight, who's flirting with another, interested in someone etc.
So a woman can detect another woman flirting with her man (of interest) and get really upset that the guy doesn't do something to stop it. But mostly he hasn't even noticed it, so he thinks she's talking out her rec*** and she thinks he's a liar. While in actual fact both were speaking the truth ...

Lying:
The above (the 16 brain areas) is also the reason why women are very good lie-detectors. Apparently women lie as often as men, but men get caught more often by their woman.

Funny, as I wouldn't be able to make a list of lie-signals. But I do know when it happens ...

Any tips, funny stories concerning body language?

Wow....nice hints, I am buying all of them

You have found in brain studies that this really doesn't mean anything...right?
That researchers don't really come to conclusions like you are making in this OP (although bloggers, tv personalities, and shitty news people do). They tend to formulate conclusions like "this proves the brains of men and women work differently. When we have them attempt to do the same thing, different areas light up in our tests...we know this, this, and this area of the brain are associated with these type of behaviors and emotional responses."
That's about it, though.

Right?
Otherwise comparing "4-6 vs. 16 areas" and using words with a lot of emotional association like "only" could possibly lead to people forming erroneous conclusions and stereotypes.

I mean do you know for "certain" that women use 10-12 more areas for figuring out behavioral and complex body language cues, rather than 4-6 with an additional 10-12 lighting up in order to come to some sort of evaluative judgmental conclusion and means to deal with insecurity? Because it's just as likely.

Also, do you know if it's a natural phenomenon, like women are born using 10-12 more areas of the brain, or if they are socially trained to do so? Which begs the question if more than 1 area is "really" all that necessary.


I find it hilarious how many people realize how important it is yet still attempt to use online dating where it completely cuts you off from it, and can even atrophy your ability to feel anything but insecure around it since you, in some areas, retrain yourself...like not knowing what someone means by how they laugh because they didn't say "lol."

Yeah, I have a few...

















Hi (((Crystal)))

Where is JtEvans as he will loooove this topic?
Come on in Jt as this you seem a bit of a boob expert!

I had to laugh reading it as Jt and I had commented elsewhere about his lack of discretion when it came to just ogling the boobies and I advised him to wear shades or he was going to get smacked/generally shot down while chatting up his ladies.

I admitted to him that a lot of us women secretly like being checked out but don't admit it (dunno why?). Which is why it's best to follow up a 'scan' with some actual words to keep us interested. I check men out all the time. It as natural as scratching an itch.

However, I have to agree with Ciretom that too much analysis is not necessary and unfounded. I guess some people are better flirters than others.

Yet it is easier to chat and get to know someone face to face than online as there are not enough emoticons in the world for some of the expressions I make during conversations.

One of the scattiest, funniest thing I ever did was get into the wrong white Ford car that had pulled up outside the pub. I jumped in, looked at the semi-shocked, semi-amused driver and quickly jumped out again. Two minutes later my boyfriend, at that time, pulled up in exactly the same car and wondered why I was all flustered!

Where is JtEvans as he will loooove this topic?
Come on in Jt as this you seem a bit of a boob expert!

Reminds me of that TV series called 'Lie to Me'

I'm on board with ciretom here. I would read said studies but also doubt the ability of most research teams to accurately represent this discovery in social situations. Until the physiology you're representing in the original post is modified for sociology then it seems fairly useless.

Given, some people are just better at reading the emotions of others, and the strange part is that, from my experience, some of those individuals that are more attune to subtle expressions and/or social cues may be of either gender and this doesn't even necessarily indicate empathy, which would bring us towards some fun studies regarding the anterior insular cortex. Ahh, neurophysiology.

So, yeah, I don't agree with this whatsoever. Besides, you have to account for a level of self-awareness in the individual that with said information they could simply alter their behavior to adapt themselves into an individual that is at least temporarily capable of achieving the results they want with another person.

To lighten my response up -

oh yeah, I liked that series!
And yes, JT might like it, chuckle. Esp when he learns that we check him out just the same, LOL. But he probably wouldn't even notice as his eyes would be glued to our boobies


@ Leigh, hilarious!
Esp as there was something similar in the book. Women apparently use more facial expression, esp. when emotional (good or bad), and some men can find this overwhelming, yet to us it's normal. Arm gestures, talking, facial expression.

As for the rest, body-language is interesting :) We all use it, even when we're not aware of it.

what does it mean when they're humping your leg?

lol...It means that it's Wednesday...

lmao

I am blind when it comes to a woman's body-language.
I had to read my late wife the way that a person reads braille.

I have another suggestion and don't know the emoticom to go with it?

Use your brain and some initiative along with your gut feeling (ESP) and be genuine and choose just one person to go for at a time as it's obvious if you are checking everything out that moves with a pulse!

Of all body language, eye contact/eye movement
seems to be the best 'tell' of a person's nature and intent.

Makes a lot of sense...
Which brings to mind that many ppl say that for them it's all about personality. How much of that is actually true?
Not sure if you could say that personality/mental attraction equals verbal communication (without body language i.e. online), but still.

I've got a tip. What I do when I want women to notice my dangle is to not wear underwear. I was chatting this bird up recently and it was going pretty well because she was saying that she was going to give me her phone number and stuff. Then we said goodbye and as she was walking away I became aware that I was getting the horn and that it was really obvious. I don't know if she noticed it with her peripheral vision or not but the cool thing is that they won't mention it if you do that and it's like holding up a sign that says, "I want to bone you".

It's a nice list.

I agree with some of that OP ... sometimes in some situation I have been in not looking to connect with them personally... I have felt I made some mistakes and to get out of them has really been hard and embarrassing and may peeve them off but I take those chances sometimes becouse I have to and it is my instincts that make me ... even tho I may not be right and if I am ...they will not admit anyway... so I walk a thin line ... now personally and attracted to them or them to me ... I catch that ... and react a accordingly... is easier in person to read their body language... unless they are totally up front ... about it on line ...