I'm as honest as they get, well I'll just say it, I have a mental illness and I don't hide it from anyone but I think I mention it too soon to people I just met and I think it frightens them. It's not something I could or should keep from them. I just lay the cards out on the table and hope for the best!

I think honesty is always best. But so many don't understand mental illness. They run which is sad. They don't give the person a chance. I would suggest getting to know the person a little better, let them get to know you before you put it all out there. Just my thoughts. Good luck

Honesty is an admirable trait. Kudos to you! :)

Trust is a major factor in a relationship so keep on being honest.

That being said, introducing yourself as "Steve with the mental illness" will put people off. There is a time and place to reveal things like that.

I'm the type that would rather go ahead and get the fact out that I suffer from a mental illness. Too many times have I had people quit talking to me once they find out. So now it's out 1 of the 1st things in my profile, either they'll like me, or not.

Just enough to camouflage a lie.

IDK what kind of mental illness you are referring to, but, if it's not a serious one, I suppose it would be like telling a new date that you have kids..

If they don't understand or like it even if you honestly tell them the details about it such as what can be expected of it, how you have been handing it, how much progress you have been making in curing it, etc., maybe they are not meant for you..

JMO

I'm starting to think what's the point in telling the truth. Christianity did more harm than good. For thousands of years it's been tricking people into believing in an afterlife and that they will be rewarded if they behave themselves here on earth. All this does is turn people into sheep, making them vulnerable to wolves.

It's not like telling a new date that I have kids... When I came out with it, I went to the hospital and told a crisis worker about the thoughts that were going through my head. I was removed from my home, from my family, my wife and step daughter's hospitalized in a mental institution for several months until I was diagnosed with obsessive compulsive disorder. The thoughts that had been going through my mind my entire life we're not normal and I just coped with them the best way I knew how, kept them to myself and used mind altering drugs to self medicate. (recovering addict now) Since I gave up the booze and drugs I couldn't cope with the thoughts anymore and lost it. So I lost my family, Now I'm a grateful recovering addict that is not giving up on life. I know the difference between right and wrong. I did the right thing but it feels wrong.

Good for you to have made all those efforts to get over it and tried to be honest about it up front..

As long as you maintain the foregoing, I'm sure you will be able to find someone soon..

You should be at least able to be honest with yourself. Because then there is still hope albeit how slim that might be.

99.9% the other 1% should be not to hurt anothers feelings.

Is that you Charlie Cheswick haha!

I agree op and I agree with a little of what pkh said ... all up to the person ...how deep they want to let their feeling go with another... but telling them is the best way if you really think you want a relationship with them ... I have had a mental breakdown and I am not shamed of that ... not anymore ...
to the truth ...

I think we all have an 'undesirable 'part we dont want others to see. I think honesty is always the best policy ...saying that i would also time it well..revealing the 'truth'.
peace & love & best wishes

I think it's the thought of what someone with a mental illness could do. Rather than being told you have one. I dated a bipolar, it got difficult at times, and confusing, but I really liked him, so I carried on dating him. I tried to help him through it.

OCD and recovery from substance abuse are difficult topic for some people. There is such a thing as TMI with people you do not know well. You get to know them well slowly, and share more of who you are and the experiences you have had.

You are an open and honest person who has confronted some serious situations. I am sure you will deal with talking to people, and will succeed brilliantly!

Welcome and good luck!

I think that is a good thing to do. Even though it'll be hard to find someone, at least you have a better chance of finding the right one.

i let them figure out how crazy i am
..all on their own! by then they Love me so much...the overlook the crazy

And that's why your on a dating site ???