ok s1owland! Thanks for your advice, I do appreciate it! =)

some people obviously have no social skillz that said you were complaining

sure - i never meant that your comment was in any way unwarranted. in one earlier version of this same topic there were a number of specific and somewhat humorous reasons why people don't reply....

but usually it is because their cat is walking on the keyboard...

lol s1owhand...its always "something", isn't it?

sounds like my cats they make really great doors

when i don't reply they are sleeping on it....

I seldom email anybody. I have got emails and I try to answer. But honestly, maybe a ldr will work for some. Most ladies I talk to here live a gizillion miles away!!! Unless I can actually meet you in person, why waste both of our time on the computer? I still have a hard time beleiving anybody could get their heart broken over a cyber relationship. I can be anybody I want to on here and you would never know me. I do try to be honest when I'm here, but I cut up too. Typing words on a screen for all to see, makes it hard for you to really know somebody for the "real" them. There ya go, if you want to email me, I will try to answer. I really don't have to worry about that though, because I will talk to ya right here too! Guess I'm a man of few words!!

i dont mind meeting ppl over the computer as long as its not outta state and i dont have to drive 30 mins away

i dont like the whole dating at work think even the place i work for seems relaxed on it

ladies, just finished reading and my first cup of coffee. stop and think, you say you will not relocate, the man may not want to relocate either. you want to be close to your kids daddy, the man might want to either be close to the kids mother or the kids only in my case. you complain that the men who write you are not the right age for you have you put an age requirment in your profile. for dating I would want someone close to my own age, but I also want friends now they can be any age think about what is in your profile, I always stop to read before I even think about writing.

I think the reason people don't respond back is because their rude and can't be honest with themselves or the 1 who wants 2 chat.Why can't it b understood that it's ok 2 chat 4 company and then 2 chat to meet someday I've found that some r so screwed up from the past,don't know what they want( oh sorry prince charming 2 take them away,but not make a committment on their part)this may sound bitter but just fact that I've experienced but also understand that I'm not going 2 change and keep continuing to look 4 my dream also

I almost never e-mail anyone first here, and I get lots of e-mails. The reason, I believe, is because I have been here awhile and I post a lot, so people seem to be pretty comfortable with contacting me, which is the way I prefer it.

However, I have gotten absolutely nowhere trying to talk to local people. The ones who write to me are from Canada and New York and Washington and Florida and Europe, etc. Nobody within 897,000 miles. And when I have tried to write to locals, even just to send a "Welcome to JSH" note to a newbie, they simply NEVER reply. So I have given up on even trying to communicate with anyone from my area.

Rudeness? Yes. Insensitivity? Yes. Lack of social skills? Probably. Self-absorption? Definitely. Someone pointed out to me a couple weeks ago that, if the locals are all like that, I'm probably better off without them anyway. Who needs friends like that?

What I've learned form this, is that the person I'm looking for is not going to be on this site....!

im just 23 and i have family support so its not like im wanting to get married but im also on here to meet somebody and meet friends

ill talk to just about anybody i love meeting new people..but the fact im a very blunt honest independent person and i wonder of thats scared people off and if it does fine

i need someone who can keep up with me

<-----im rude and sometimes I just dont know what to say....

darn a 4 or at least paragraph was just lost talking ot everyone on this GRRRRRRRRRRRR

ok so sum up of what i wrote:
keep being yourself but don't turn away new possiblities as there might be some one out there who lives some where that oyu never thought would interest you and it did -- same with them -- reloccation is in the line of "never say never" as I put it.

Every one has their reasons and their rights -- not saying it matches your etiquette ... just saying people are different and handle things differently. I myself have a hard time answering some one who right off the bat wants more then to JUST BE FRIENDS as I have that on my profile. That scares me and makes it sound "desperate" attitudes on how one write might sound perfectly normal ot one but ot the other pushes them away .... SO if oyu aren't getting responses back then they are ones who you DON'T want to hear form anyway as they would not be a match for your personality. Don't take it personal as we are all different! That is the main thing to think about this ..... all these morals, personalities, wants, needs all on one sight WOW not even a handful will see eye to eye -- just too many out there.

No offense to you young ones -- mainly girls --- you all are so young yet and want more from your life then say a guy at your age bracket -- for the most part. Geese I'm a grandmother and most guy in my age group have kids as young as my oldest granddaughter!!

Just hang in there and keep being yourself and keep your standards high!! No one should change for something else just ot find some one! It would never work out.....have ot be who you are to live a happy life

OK all have a great day!!!!!!!!!!!
Bj
done preachin' now and back to work on the basement YUCK!

i dont mind dating an older guy it just depends on how old he is..my age limit is 30 maybe 31 ...

I don't talk much, I'm a big time wallflower. This limits who I will click with. I do understand social cues however.

im loud and blunt and a smartass...and if people cant handle that tuff ****

Men have a wordbank of 200 words a day...

Women have a word bank of 2000 plus...(some of us are more well endowed )

By the time men have gone about their work day...they are 'bankrupt' wordwise...

Whereas women still have 1600 words in credit, and we wonder why we get a grunt from behind the paper at the end of the day..


Simple mathematics..

but men have a key board to help them use more words

>>> Lex <<<

"What I've learned form this, is that the person I'm looking for is not going to be on this site....!"