Tanzy, I see nothing wrong with your argument, because what you say about FWB doesn't conflict with the way you describe your religious beliefs.

Indeed, I would rather be with a woman whose words and actions match.
That is one reason why I find you to be attractive,

Thank you....I am me and my strength comes from knowing that I do not have to conform to a trend because it's accepted by many....I have my own mind and I voice that when needed....

Tanzy, if you are against FWB, then how about FW/OB?

We could have that if your mail filter didn't prevent me from sending you messages.

Lol my walls are unbreakable....I got so many emails that I had to block most of America....

here's the difference... You have strong opinions on FWB.

I'll never tell you you're wrong about them.

Have a great day

I believe that we all have gotten each other's message.

Now, how about we all let this thread die and ...



... go over to Zee's Pub for a pint.

For the benefit of site members who claim to be Christians, I have started a thread in the Christian Singles Forum in which Christians can talk about sexual activity from a religious perspective.

Click here to go to that new thread for Christians.

And where do the atheists go........

So, that old formula of Deduction = Addition is true. And people said I sucked at math.

Try the General Religion Forum.


Now, how about having that pint?

I have a friend who has been one of my best friends for 23 years and yes, we occasionally sleep with each other. We've always known that an actual relationship between us would never work, but we love each other to pieces and are quite happy with the way we are. I also had a female friend for 13 years who was my off and on lover until her passing 5 years ago and it was a beautiful friendship. It's possible but rare to find someone who is on the exact same page as you are; cherish them if you find one ;)

Ok, I told you of a successful FWB relationship in one of my previous posts. My friend just finished a FWB that lasted several months. They mutually decided to have a FWB situation between them that would last until one of them started to date someone else or otherwise decided to end it. Their sexual relationship has stopped, but their friendship continues.

The success of the relationship is defined by the people involved. These two set up the perimeters of the relationship at the beginning. They would be FWB's until they no longer wanted to and then part as friends. And that is exactly what they did. How many people in romantic relationships can say the same?

If your definition of "success" is a relationship that lasts forever, then aren't we all "failures" here? Those of us who are single, and here, among other reasons, to meet someone to date? Tell me the success rate of any of our past relationships, and if you define success as never having broken up, then we are all losers.

But if you define it as...life is a journey in which we learn what we can, and in which some people are meant to stay for long periods of time, and others not so long, but whichever it is we can improve ourselves, and find happiness in each moment while we have it, then FWB's, romantic relationships, friendships, acquaintances, etc...they can all be a success.

Rebelgeek you have a wonderful mind.

Not sure if I'd ever do it again. Why go by halves, when you can have the whole package?

Exactly.....that's what I'm saying...

Not everyone is in a place to commit their all. Being upfront with your partner and yourself I see no problem with a friendly and sexual relationship.
There is no reason to push your mind and body into something you are not ready for.
It doesn't mean you place less value in yourself. It means you place less value in those that would judge and criticize you.

Wow I love conformists......

I'll drink to that.