I did say that I was recovering.

Lmao @ man inventing FWB... That was really funny

I could go a lifetime with one FWB... yup

Plz don't confuse this with having 4 FWB.

True. Fair enough.

The term fwb is a man's way of getting into a girl's pants by implying he will be a friend to her...girls love the word friends when we think of that word we imagine shopping and gossip time none of which men enjoy or want...see

I don't believe having a FWB is "stooping" to a level for a woman. Valuing your body clearly means different things to different people, and that's ok. We all have the right to make the rules for our own lives. For me, valuing my body means I choose what to do with it. I choose who to sleep with, and when, and in what situation. And I choose when it ends. I've never had a FWB because I tend to be a relationship girl; but I don't rule it out, and I do have friends who have had successful FWB situations that have gone smoothly and ended amicably for both parties.

Sure, there's a chance one person will develop feelings that don't get returned. But you risk that when you date someone too. Or, for that matter, when you're friends with people. Who here hasn't been friends with someone who had a crush on you, or vice versa, and it was one-sided?

In all honesty it's not just men. I know women who do this. They have other issues and just want someone to satisfy their needs. It's a mutual non commitment that works for them. Even though it's not something I would do, it's not my place to judge since I'm not perfect either.

so what is the term women use for sleeping with their friend, but knowing they don't actually ever want a relationship with that person?....



The problem I have with statements such as the 'stooping' comment is it essentially telling anyone who chooses to do that, that you see them as as a lower class than you,

i have friends who say they will NEVER date a divorced women, because they shouldn't have to 'pick from the bottom of the barrel'(i.e someone else's leftovers) and I'm quoting here.....

obviously many people are divorced, and many women are greatly offended by such statements,

just like many people choose to do a fwb thing, and are offended when someone basically says that they don't value themselves.

My point is, just because you may disagree with a person's choice, doesn't mean you have to pass judgement and see them as anything else other than an adult who makes their own choices.

My point is that someone who values themselves won't think of engaging in such a manner...it devalue both parties and there is never a happy ending...you know why because it's not a natural act of emotion it's just a natural act of the body....the end is always the same there is no gain to both parties....

And my point is that you are one person among billions of people in the world. You can speak only for your own values. If having a FWB for YOU means you don't value yourself, then by all means, don't do it.

But you do not get to speak for what is a natural act for every other person in the world. There are plenty of people who, because of careers, aspirations, emotional availablity, their children, or whatever reasons of their own, do not have time or energy for a relationship, but still want the intimacy of sex. They don't want anything to come of it. They don't want any "gain", they just want sex with someone they find attractive and friendly. They CHOOSE that.

And that's the beautiful thing about this life. We all have our own choices to make, and as long as it doesn't hurt anyone else, who cares what anyone else does? What other people do in the bedroom is their choice, their business, and their life. Abuse against anyone is not ok. Rape or assault is not ok. But sex between two consenting adults, whether you agree or not, is between those two people, and only those two can say for sure what is ok.

9 out of 10 dentists approve of FWB's. Or is it sex therapists that do?

Kind of like dentists with Trident. Hey, does that mean FWB have fresher breath?

Mentos!!!!

Personally I think fwb would be a better alternate to one night stands. As it is your friend odds are you would know if they have std plus friends wouldn't pass around how easy you are. It helps both of you to have someone who cares about you and can talk hang out or more with no pressure either way. If they break these guidelines it is not friends with benefits but a pretender using another person. In any case it is a gamble. Things might work out and friendship survives or the friendship dies (or becomes strained) or feeling blossom and the fwb becomes fantastic partner for life. Statistics say the most successful relationships are the ones that were friends first.

The fresh maker!!!

Here is the issue if you are fwb do you hold any allegiance to anyone other than your body parts...I believe not so you can acquire more fwbs which you can because you have no loyalty to anyone which leads to stds.....I'm not buying that it's a form of choice it's actually a form of lazy people trying to get other people in their team....

You are beginning to sound like a broken record and a judgmental one at that. Everyone has their own reasons and ideas even if you don't understand/agree it is their choice not yours. I am sure there is something you do that 1 or more people think are horrible but you would be mad if they called you names. Please treat others how you want to be treated on my thread.

Their team? I don't know what you mean by that. But in terms of FWB scenario, the people involved make the rules. For example, one of my best friends just ended a FWB situation in which he and his lady friend were monogamous FWB's. It lasted for several months. They weren't in love, never felt like it would be a situation where they would be in love. But they were friends. They respected each other, had a lot in common, and were attracted to each other. They started having a very fun and healthy sexual relationship. After about four months, they just ended it. She has a guy she's starting to date, and will probably begin a sexual relationship with him eventually. But she and my friend are still friends with no hard feelings.

But the boundaries are made by the people involved. Yes, it could spread STDs, but so can having sex with anyone. Any time you have sex with someone, you are exposed to whomever they were intimate with in the past. Calling someone your boyfriend or girlfriend does not create a latex barrier against chlamydia, syphillus, or HIV.

Clearly we do not agree on this topic. I don't believe that having allegiance to yourself and your own body is a bad thing. In the end, the person we are all guaranteed to live and die with is ourselves. I am a romantic and even at my ripe old 36-year-old age, I have a Pollyanna complex, in which I believe in true love and soulmates and growing old with someone. But I also have seen enough in my own life and in the life of loved ones to feel that there are times when you want companionship, even if true love isn't what you are equipped or able to give or receive.

In my opinion, a FWB situation in which both people are up front and honest about what they are able to offer is better than a relationship that starts under false pretenses.

In the end, your values are your values, and yours alone. You don't get to decide that what works for you is what is good for every other person in the world. As I said before, if having a FWB would make you feel like you were settling or de-valuing yourself, then of course don't do it. But plenty of people do it with full awareness of their mind, body, and soul, and we should all be so fortunate to make positive decisions with all those elements satisfied.

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