Do you think being burned out by past love, breakups, or not putting yourself out there in the world makes you passive to life? In the utmost nonchalant way? Are you basically dead or scared on the inside inside to really believe you deserve love from another person?

Waters often run deep in the unafraid. But that can be true also.

Yes!

Time ain't doing it for me... I think I need more time

No.
Sure you can take your grievance time but it is much like life. If you dwell and don't act one something, it will pass you by.

Maybe take up writing a mission statement a la Jerry Maguire.

This, plus I believe some people can control their emotions a bit better than the rest of us. Let's say someone responds to anger by punching while someone else does not. Both experience the same emotion, except that one controls and perhaps doesn't show it. Unless I've gone too far, in which case, just what she said.

Yes. Scarred, scared, dead inside, passive to really putting myself out there for reason that NO woman would really be interested in a person like me.

You're using an extreme example though: violence. Try thinking of a somewhat normal scenario. Just talking, opening up if you will. While true others can have a bit of a lid on their emotions much better than someone who wears their hearts on their sleeve when it comes to really talking to them, I mean, getting to know them behind closed doors, the results are the same as the public persona.

sounds like another wounded child---the wounds become favorite feelings that are recycled while we validate old beliefs formed long ago over and over again---its so sad to a person living in the past or future and missing now-all we ever have is now--we make our own reality and teach people how to treat us to further that end--- the answer is to get touch with those favorite feelings and discover how you got them and are they still valid ( self-awareness ) its work well worth doing for ourselves---

I don't really know you expect for what I see you post. And you seem like a very kind and gentle spirit. I think you should stop putting yourself down and start looking at your inner beauty and then both your outer and inner beauty will shine m jmo

It's safer to feel nothing than it is to feel anything. Even if it's pain.

People are not scared of heights, they're just scared of falling, people are not scared of love, they're just scared of rejection.
I think anyone who doesn't belive they deserve love may have been hurt the most in the past.
Heartbreaking really but there you go.

what about joy ???? to be fully human we must feel our feelings---- its the stuffing of ones feelings that causes the most pain--- i see it every time someone is talking about something painful and they smile or laugh while doing it---

�People are afraid of themselves, of their own reality; their feelings most of all. People talk about how great love is, but that's bs. Love hurts. Feelings are disturbing. People are taught that pain is evil and dangerous. How can they deal with love if they'��re afraid to feel? Pain is meant to wake us up. People try to hide their pain. But they'��re wrong. Pain is something to carry, like a radio. You feel your strength in the experience of pain. It'��s all in how you carry it. That's what matters. Pain is a feeling. Your feelings are a part of you. Your own reality. If you feel ashamed of them, and hide them, you'��re letting society destroy your reality. You should stand up for your right to feel your pain.��
-Jim Morrison

No wonder he was misunderstood. Being a human is a challenge to some but an awakening for others.

I am dying inside.
Noone will know it.
Noone will see it.

I knew this time would come.
I just denied it.
Now, I am dying inside.

It has to be
There's no turning back.
What will I do but
Process is due.

I will pay
What is due
One day I may
Feel the end of
My dying inside.

Exactly, you don't know me and I'm sorry that you see how and what I put as a put down, but it's not. It's exactly how I see myself and how others who do know me, see me. I am who I am, personalities and all because of the pain, pleasure, and all other emotions that I've experienced in life.

Anyone else think they have something to say about me or my posts, save it, for it will fall on blind eyes and deaf ears.

1. Not easily stirred or moved in feeling.
2. Involving little or no emotion; rational.



In order for me to express emotion (love or affection) I have to feel something (love or affection) that stirs this reaction. Therefore, if I don't feel love or affection emanating from another person I'm not inclined to "show it" first. This would make me appear to be unemotional.



On the contrary. I think that I am much more aware of life and my surroundings when my mind and heart are not invested in a relationship that focuses my attention 100% on it.

And I don't let past experiences dampen new experiences because every one is different and brings something unique to the equation.



This is a strange question. It's hard for me to fathom how anyone could feel unworthy of love. And I don't know what being dead inside feels like either. Except for the time I was on multiple psychiatric medications that numbed my senses. But as soon as I stopped taking them I returned to being my natural feeling, some say oversensitive self.

I would rather feel too much than not enough.

I do think that after we reach a certain level of maturity and security following plenty of life experience, matters of the heart aren't the number one priority. Especially if our lives are filled with other things that can make us happy.

I of course am speaking for myself not anybody else.

a much older female friend told me that '' nobody is sh@t free '' i have found that to be true-its just how much sh@t---its all about the willingness to take look our own ( its good to flush ) so we can learn and grow---staying stuck is never the answer--

I think the feeling of anything can be a huge burden for some people. Be it positive or negative. If there is nothing there then obviously nothing will be shown.



It's important to trust your instincts. I would not be interested in anything if it wasn't all or nothing.



I don't think so. Even if you understand, been through a lot, experienced love and lost it more than once, or it feels stagnant, almost mundane to get into dating, the emptiness and ardent walls are still there. I suppose today people are good at hiding much better so we don't notice it unless we care to. Nothing wrong with it, because it's the truth. Just because you don't experience the feeling doesn't necessarily mark it as non-existent.

I think realistically we all want someone in our lives somewhere down the road. We want things to work out. I'm all for supporting a fulfilling life hanging out with close friends until it happens.